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Thank you Matthew for the video
Well done Matthew Hussey & Team! This is an extraordinarily impactful video guide that delivers a “to the heart of the matter” kind of message about emotional control that we can use in romantic relationships and all kinds of relationships. I just realized watching it that probably need to re-think my “high value woman march”…because it’s really storming off. I will try hard to stay & solve next time, and allow for both to be true…but keep my B.S. detector finely tuned. (kind of kidding). Thanks for this humbling video.
I loved this video…and the 2 choices you have…to pull away or to solve it with understanding & kindness…the silent treatment never works too efficiently…Thanks for illustrating that & not leaving that video where she storms out of the vehicle…..;) <3 Hugs! Thank you Matthew! "Love is patient & kind…"
It’s like after a fall out. I want to make up and say sorry. but it’s my partner who will not make up. He will not talk and I just talk about it and carry it on.we fell out and we broke up.I kept from him a misscarrge and told him. He said he didn’t want to know.
I love this video Matt, so true and you have broken it down so simply with some real actions to take when you do those responses. Simple, genuine and thoughtful.
Thank you
Spectacular video. It spoke to me on so many levels. If we could get out of our own way, without the old stories or triggers then our relationship with others and ourselves would be magical. Thank you Matthew.
Thanks so much for all those videos. You might have saved my love life!!
Really great!! Thank you
This message is so empowering and the delivery incredible (tone, language, choice of words), it made me post a comment for the first time. A brilliantly concise roadmap to follow in times of need.
Thank you Mathew! I follow and watch your videos on youtube, but I’ve never posted anything before. Just wanted to thank you cause there must be hundreds of people like me who you help without them saying anything at all.
This video came up just in the right moment for me, I struggle a lot, I mean a lot! on the way I react in those moments. Sometimes, like right now, I kinda loose faith I will change. My major mistake is the way I speak and how I feel and make my partner feel like it’s never good enough. Right now I’m not sure if it’s my idea o his but that’s the problem in the dynamic right now.
I really hope and I think this video will help a lot. Thank you again!!!
PS: Finding you attractive is a plus of your videos haha!
Karla
Quito-Ecuador
Great video, Matt! You should do more videos on this topic of how to deal with tension/conflict in a relationship. I find that’s where I need a lot of navigation and could use more confidence and competence.
I LOVE this video, and it is presented in such a way that I can see myself a little bit in almost all of the responses at times… it was so simple to see flashes of ourselves in each choice.
My favorite part was the simple choices of the opposite, it makes it very easy to see a simple step towards verses a step away!
Thank you SO much for what you do, I have really benefited from all your work that you present!
Thank you so much Matt for your video. What really stood out for me was when you said all these kinds of reactions come from fear. I did all of those things in my past relationship and hearing you talk on this topic has opened my eyes to understanding how my reaction to tensions ultimately caused the end of my relationship.
I’m so grateful that you make these videos and that i can keep working on myself to become the person i want to be.
Janice
(South Africa)
What do we do when none of our reactions affect the persons behaviour and that person still remains the same and sometimes u dont get justification to certain issues and without an answer you mind doesnt move any further.we feel.less worth when we are the first and the last person to compromise all the time :( ease suggest me how to react when a person doesnt react to your emotions or problems but says “he loves you” but wont react to your pain or anger.
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Great, Matt. Great. Over 34 years, I’ve been doing this over…and over…and over…and it’s over now (not the relationship, just that f’d-up behavior pattern). And we’re better than ever. Period.
P.s. Please don’t put on toooooo much muscle to your upper body! You’ve got just enough now, imho, and it works — hopefully it’s enough for your boxing to be at its best too.
xoxo
That may have been the BEST video I’ve seen of yours. It made me tear up a bit. I feel like this can apply to every type of relationship in one’s life. I struggle with handling my emotions in a healthy manner, and the consequences have been haunting me for years. I want to do better. Thank you for kindly and inspirationally helping people better their lives one message at a time. What a wonderful job, Matthew and team.
Perfect and in it’s time…thanks
Guilty.
I went silent and it drove him nuts. That along with other things cost me my marriage.
I don’t know what to say!
I almost cried while i watching this video!
Yes, I did ALL these mistakes of wrong responses because i felt insecure and fear,i broke relationships that i had and that i may had and i pushed away many guys,simply because i am afraid, i got hurt from people around me even close one and that make me scared and make quick responses without thinking of the consequences or make aggressive responses especially when i feel that the guy disrespect me by the way he talks or behaves! and now i will be 35 years old next month in Baghdad that will be just another daily struggle when every day people ask me why i am still single and that guys don’t fall in love and marry women in my age!and when guys likes me then when they try to talk with me and later find out my age they simply disappear! this a reality!
P.S: I need your help Matthew, do you give online individual advises? and how much it will cost? and how can i pay?
Hi Zina, thank you for sharing your story! Matthew doesn’t do personal coaching anymore, but he is beginning to create some amazing content, much more intimate, for his Fast Track to Mr. Right VIPs. We offer frequent live trainings for members of our Fast Track to Mr. Right program where you can submit your questions. As a VIP member of the “Fast Track to Mr. Right” program, you’ll be granted exclusive access to monthly live coaching sessions with Matt – an incredibly rare and valuable benefit other women simply don’t get. If you’d like more info about the Fast Track to Mr. Right program, please contact our team at support@howtogettheguy.com. – Mars
thank you for you reply, yea sure i would like to know more about the program, i will email your team to get more information.