This (Innocent) Phrase Scares Great Guys Away

I can’t believe how many women still write this on their Tinder profiles.

This toxic phrase scares off a huge amount of men, yet it feels like at least 25% of women do it.

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  1. Sarah says:

    I have to say I can’t agree with all of this. Reading something on a profile and making assumptions isn’t a smart thing to do. Talking to someone and gaining clarity may be a better way to go. Assuming that sh’e been dating people in relationships just because she says she isn’t interested in someone fresh out of a relationship seems a bit of a stretch. Maybe it’s as simple as those who are still aching over a past love don’t make great matches. They need to do their own healing first. I can’t quite see your point here, and I find a lot of your videos make these same leaps from one thing to the next/ My advice is – Don’t make assumptions. Inquire first.

  2. Sherry says:

    Giggling, you stated you don’t list you don’t want a serial killer in your profile, I do! Along with not in the Mafia, CIA, circus performer, married or separated and/or still living with their ex, in jail or out on a day pass from the local mental facility, etc. Part of it is to be funny, but the other part is because I get a lot of messages from separated guys that are still technically married and don’t want to waste my time. Any suggestions on how to weed those guys out along with smokers in a more friendly way? Giggling, I appreciate your videos and helpful hints for successful relationships in a flaky dating world.

  3. Ana Gondar says:

    hahahahahahahahahahaha loooooove it!!!! great video, very funny and realistic

  4. Nadine says:

    You and Jameson have outdone yourselves with this one, Matt :)

    I don’t need to update my dating profile because I no longer have one: I’ve been in a great relationship with a guy I met online over 2 1/2 years ago. I used your 9 Texts No Man Can Resist (and all the spot-on things you teach) to get to this stage.

    You’re the best, and thanks for doing what you do. xoxo

  5. Salma says:

    Love the use of actors in this one!

  6. Sabine Th. says:

    Your video is really funny and as always they carry real valuable messages for both sexes! Love them, Matthew! Keep it coming!

  7. Andree says:

    Okay, that was brilliant(ly funny and on point) — thanks as always for taking a difficult topic and making it light and do-able!

  8. Meghan says:

    You nailed it!
    I was well aware of this already though think it was a great reminder for many who many have not been aware of this.
    Anyway you could share this video with men.
    I quit online dating awhile back because there were so many absolutely CLUELESS guys projecting exactly what you just shared.
    And you’re RIGHT!
    Total red flag…
    Won’t go near a guy with a 10 ft pole who uses a “neg” in his profile other than doesn’t smoke.

  9. Celia says:

    Love it!! And yes, so true :)

  10. kabira dhole says:

    nice video! funny but informative!

  11. Samantha says:

    LOL… That was HILARIOUS!!!!! Well done!! And of course, as always… so true. Thanks for the sound advice, I will definitely be updating my profile ASAP!! ;o)

  12. Corine (Cory) says:

    OMG Jamieson was great! For anyone who has not met him – this is so amazing! He pulled it off. Who would have thought our Jamieson could do such as thing! LOL!

  13. Marta says:

    So fun giving your voice to other people, just try to imitate woman’s voice next time! That would be so much fun!

  14. Stephanie says:

    Best video yet, Matthew and Jameson (and great acting!)! I don’t even have a tinder profile anymore, I just clicked cause I knew this was going to be a great video. I truly did laugh out loud!

    And, of course, brilliant advice.

  15. Candy says:

    Love this. it was so light and funny. and Jameson bad boy, you look pretty hot without those glasses.

  16. Anne says:

    That was so funny! You’re The Best, Man! It’s great having a good man that’s got your back, and that’s you. . .

  17. Cassie says:

    I tweaked my profile immediately after I saw this. I actually matched with a cute guy, too! Fingers crossed

  18. Anna says:

    This new video is just awesome. Omg the bottle & finger got me laughing loud and the mad looks. Such great advices and a good reminder at how important our words choice is, in and out of relationships.

  19. Faith says:

    Absolutely true! It works! Followed your template. I’ve met a few douche bags before meeting my boyfriend.

  20. GirlWithNoName says:

    I loved this video Matthew. I´ve seen your work since your beginings and you have improved very much. Is still Jameson working with you?

    Hugs from Spain. Hope to see you soon here.

  21. Audrey says:

    I love the creativity and humor in your new videos :) great advice as always!

  22. Jewely says:

    Great video. I can also say that goes for men also. When I see language in profiles like “no cheaters” or “my kids come first always”….I stay away. Thanks for all of your amazing advice Matthew!!!

  23. Audi says:

    I really like your videos, I am in a very happy relationship but I still watch your videos and for good reasons.

    Not because I am thinking about diving into the dating market.. no thank you…but because me and my husband have three young babies, multiple businesses, dog, properties and almost no time for each other.

    One day I was scrolling threw fb when I saw your video about how animation is attraction and I started using your tips on my husband.
    It is working! I am feeling like the first time we started dating, before the kids.

    The reason why I am sharing this with you is because I want to ask you to make a video for people like me.
    People who already found their love but somehow threw the years forgot how to flirt and make him feel how much I cherish him.

    I kind of need your help, I do not even know how I got him to be mine to start with.. my game is not good, but yours is grate.

  24. Roxie says:

    I am dying laughing , This is one of my favorite videos to date! You guys are so creative & yet helpful/ impactful.

    What advice do you have if I’m over online dating, but I also don’t have a wingwoman to go out with? That’s the only reason I use online dating, and would much prefer to meet a guy in person. There’s only so many encounters that can happen at the grocery store, haha. Literally all of my girl friends have boyfriends & kids, and never go out. Should I be hittin’ the bars alone? This seems really risky, b/c won’t they wonder why I don’t have any friends or seem desperate? The activities I enjoy for fun tend to be female dominated. Wish there were more men at yoga and my tahitian and samba dance classes, buuuuuut… Lol

    • Emily says:

      How about practice Matt’s advice of being social wherever you go, make friends with some of the ladies at your yoga, tahitian and samba dance classes and before you know it you’ll have your wing woman?!

  25. Edit Faris says:

    Great video,Matthew!! The contant is very real and you made it soooo entertaining too. I loved watching it

  26. Louise says:

    Oh my… I don’t do online dating, but my scene in Facebook says: “If you don’t listen to Tool, I’m afraid you’re not worth my time” :0 …placed that little joke there to scare away recently added guys with a different cultural background which are not my type, and are attracted to me enough to view my FB front page. Know I see it’s bitter, me tired of attracting the kind I’m not interested in. I have THE book (GTG), I’ll re-read the part that mentions it and work on that.

  27. David says:

    So true. I just read on a profile: “Not interested in a relationship, and no hook-ups.”
    Could have just swiped right anyhow, but you feel better when you stick to your own standards, so left it was ;)

  28. Amy says:

    Fantastic video!!!!! So real! So fun!! And mostly.. It makes sense.. you’re so right!! Going to check out what my profile says right now!

  29. Shila says:

    That was one of the best videos ever! This was very helpful because I know I’ve made this mistake before. Online dating is pretty much the ONLY dating I do, and it sucks! I know I need to expand my dating circle/options, but dont really know how to do that. I know I can get shy around guys sometimes. Hoping that you and your team can help me out with that at the retreat. 5 more weeks!!! WooHoo!!

    Also, I busted out laughing when I saw Jameson!! LOL!!!

  30. Pixie says:

    Well now I just have to make sure that I include serial killers in my list of do not wants.Thanks Matthew! As I hail from the PNW that’s actually a concern. Kind of. Meh.

    Anyways, this video was my second favourite following closely behind the high value man one with your equally intelligent brother.

    One question…I believe wholeheartedly that language and the words we choose are important and can make or break any situation(romantic or otherwise)but enlighten us on how our tone affects situations. Especially if and when we don’t notice that we have a certain tone which someone finds irksome. Perhaps that’s simply how we speak.

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  32. Wendy says:

    You’re absolutely right, Matthew. In the day when I viewed profiles, this kind of comment from men turned me off. It made these guys sound like they’ve been around the block a few times and had become jaded.

  33. Vernée says:

    This video is very true, but if you happen to still coach men could you pass along this message on to them as well please? I see SO many profiles listing all of their dislikes, especially things like “no drama, “hates conflict,” or “if your about XYZ, we probably won’t get along.” I then do the same thing as the guy in the video- swipe left and feel like I dodged a bullet. This practical advice for EVERYONE.

  34. Cierra says:

    My fave so far! Loved the humorous spin. And was that Jameson?

  35. E says:

    Another great educational video! Well done Jameson on your acting debut! I’m wondering, who is the other fella acting in this video?

  36. Deedee says:

    Your videos just keep getting better and better, congrats! Oh, and that angle of the camera in the beginning – awesome! ^_^

  37. Faizah says:

    Here’s a sentence that I use in my profile:
    “How I yearn to meet a man who will meet my love with his steady presence.”

    Worked so well.

  38. Faizah says:

    This video is so real!
    Thank you Matt, subscribing to your blog is one of the most intelligent decisions I’ve ever made!


  39. Julie MacKenzie says:

    Love these videos….”Spot on….as usual”! ;) <3 Thanks Matthew! Look forward to the next one…

  40. Sam says:

    Matt, are you single??

  41. Tanya says:

    Glad to see a great video from you Matthew Hussey I had turned off for you for a while as your video blogs were sooo long and took ages to get to the point. This one ‘innocent phrases…’ is to the point, just the right length, funny, relevant, well produced and presented. I will start listening to you again now if this is your new standard

    • Emily says:

      I like you’re long videos, but I’m also someone who’s bought a couple of your programs and taken time to watch through them several times. And guess what? I just got engaged!

  42. Wendy Hoffman says:

    So much good stuff in here

  43. Kate says:

    Hahaha this vid was cute and cheeky. I accidentally laughed loudly at the end, scaring everyone around me (I have headphones in). Now I’m embarrassed
    I’m not single, but if I was, I would be left wondering what I SHOULD write on a dating profile. Personally, I think it’s easier to articulate what you don’t want. I mean, I don’t even know what I want for dinner tonight…

  44. wawa says:

    I like the new direction of recent videos. It’s way funnier and more humorous and effective.

    And a huge shoutout for Jameson playing the douche bag!

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