2 Secrets That Get Him to Commit to You

“OMG I went on a date with the most amazing guy!”

Your girlfriends get excited. He’s handsome, he’s tall, he has a master’s degree, and he runs his own successful company.

When we realize we REALLY like someone, it can be the scariest and most dangerous moment in our relationship. We rush ahead of ourselves. We commit our time, our emotions, our energy – and that’s before we know if it’s really going somewhere!

In this video, I’m going to give you the 100% TRUTH about why so many women jump the gun in the early dating stage and give you two important secrets that you must remember if you truly want a guy to commit.

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  1. Elaine Cocker says:

    I’ve been with a guy for 3 years, he has never bought me a Christmas or birthday present even though I buy him gifts, we see each other twice a week mostly at his, he ignores text but texts if he wants something I am wasting my time aren’t i

  2. Sihle says:

    This Is all great advice but how do I meet guys in the first place. Im a student and on campus they never approach, in the club they do but they don’t see you as anything else but a thot for meeting there. Even with tinder, they just think you wanna sleep with them.

  3. Moni says:

    Great advice Matthew!Yes those romantic stories got it all wrong ;)

    don’t give it all even if you feel like, keep the excitement and keep dancing the dance :0

  4. faruk says:

    i known its just only dreams for me….. so upsets i.

  5. fifa 17 coins says:

    The advice is rather appealing

  6. Claire says:

    Very very good. I am one of these too proactive women, NO I have been, since I know your videos. Thanks a lot Matthew !!!!!!!!!

  7. Anonymous says:

    Hi Matt! Is it possible to go from being friends with benefits to being in a relationship? About two years ago, this guy (that I’ve known since we were in middle school, but reconnected with recently) “proposed” that we should get intimate. I am aware of that from a third person perspective, this might sound like a trap. To me it didn’t, at least not in that moment. Neither of us wanted a relationship, I didn’t find him sexually attractive, he had a healthy viewpoint on the whole cuddle buddies (as he kalled it) idea. He made it very clear to me that he did NOT want a girlfriend. Two people with low oxytocin levels who needed human intimacy, what could possibly go wrong? A lot, apparently. Over time our relationship developed both physically and emotionally. I’ve never experienced that kind of connection with anyone before. I started to realize that he meets my standards and that he is a high value man. I was so caught up in the situation that I denied all the feeling that started creeping up on me. I lied to myself because I didn’t want to loose what we had. Without admitting it, I dreamt about having a relationship with him. When I finally accepted that I was falling for my best friend I told him the truth. I said ”I’m catching feelings for you, I need some space” shortly stated. Then I took a huge step back. As a Matthew Hussey fan, I know that space between people creates attraction. So of course he came running, I mean who wouldn’t want to chase me?;) After that we stayed friends (and only friends). Although, we do have a special connection and everything about our relationship is “out of the ordinary”. One day, I asked him how he pictures a perfect future and what our relationship would be like if he had to decide. His response was that the thought of having an actual relationship with me had passed his mind quite often. We agreed to think about our wants and needs while he went on holiday. I have not yet com up with any conclusion. Do I want a relationship? I have done all of your little trix to get him. I’ve read Get the guy twice, watched all of your youtube videos, listened to all of your podcasts, read your blog and so on (wow, I really am a stalker, aren’t I?) I’ve work hard for this, to make him mine. And finally, when i am this close, I’m starting to doubt. Is this normal? Am i afraid of commitment? How do I make up my mind? I would really appreciate your advice! xx

  8. Mbali says:

    Thank you so much Matt its a really an eye opening concept…thumbs up hey

  9. Haiho says:

    I have a question:
    I want to move countries. I don’t tell it anybody though. Until it’s real.
    Still it’s not immediate.
    I value strong and close relationships; I want to develop those more which I already have, and build new ones.
    I want a boyfriend also (I think).
    My problem is related to this video, regarding investment. From others and myself. I’m trapped!
    Doubting my moving away because I met someone might be an overinvestment (it was). I shouldn’t let my plans fly out of the window that fast. On the other hand, it ALWAYS happens when meeting someone to speak about the future, it’s part of getting to know someone.
    I know some guys who followed their partner to other countries. Many don’t..
    So how can I try even a little commitment when I might meet someone, or fall in love, be proactive, when I know I’m leaving? Sometime soon..
    Some people have 3 relationships within 6 months. I know.
    But there’s something that takes the air out of the sail when both, or even I, know it’s not gonna last anyway.
    I don’t know if I shall tell when meeting people..
    But I always felt temporary.
    I was never sure I want to commit, the thought of ‘getting a guy to commit’ is pretty disgusting to me!
    On the other side, I see a lot of cute guys. And cute couples. I’d love to have that.
    I could spend years sticking around though, hoping things gonna develop with friends or guys and they might not and I end up having wasted so much time..
    So my question is how I can avoid that pitfall!
    I have troubles to go flirt with many guys (if that’s a good thing) or to want something real when in the same time I’m inhibited to talk freely about my plans to leave the country..

    How do I make the best of my time?
    I want to maintain my friendships, build new ones. I don’t even know if I’m gonna stay in the country I’m moving to..
    How can I be all in when I’m on the move?
    I know not everything’s gonna be perfect when I go elsewhere, I might face the same problems. I have to find a solution on how to act in this.
    How to get some roots, but stay flexible; be open to change when opportunities arise, but have my own plans – it’s a tough one for me.
    That’s more than one question. If you get the problem though, and have some inputs I’d appreciate it a lot.

  10. malicia says:

    So through this chain messages i found out you are less than 30 your birthday just passed and other things i cant say because the girls here will want to hurt me.

  11. JANIE L. says:

    Hello Michael,
    My name is Janie and I had been dating thism guy for about 2 months. Things were going wonderful, at least I thought. As the weeks went in we discussed future possibilities being that we reside about 1 hour away from each other in diffrent cities. Well, as we discussed teh topic, he stated that eh wasnt sure about pursing a relationship outside of his city because he wants to be able to spend more time that just the weekens together. We both have established careers. he then continues to mention that if some one invites me out for an eveneing not to turn it down by aall means go for it. Well Michael, I personally think it is wrong because I am already demonstrating that I do not take us serious. Anyways, then he kept mentioning th efact that we live apart. I then pursued to ask then why if knowingly you knew our distance, why did he continue? He didnt really reply, he only stated that he was hurt. I continued to mention that I will make it easy for hm and step away until he clears his true feelings and thoughts because it is not fair to me to put 100% into this relationship and he is not matching me. This happends a few days ago and I have not heard back rom him. Should I move on or do I give it a few weeks tops to see if he reaches out to me and as a change of mind? What is he thinking? Is he even thing about me?
    Please help?

  12. Sharie says:

    Thank you, so much, Matt. So worth the listen!

  13. Mariella says:

    I get what you’re saying but what happens when he has been dishonest with you? I noticed inconsistent availability, he was insensitive to important things, finally I decided to tackle this head on. It’s 7 months and I used some of your knowing your worth but I still chose poorly I suppose.
    A bit sad,

  14. Fiona says:

    This is your most brilliant concept yet.

  15. Carrie Oh says:

    You are brilliant Matt! With your level of insights and intelligence, you could do well pretty much in anything in life, but I am sure glad you chose to become a relationship advice guru and able to transend and share information and insights very few people in this world could do.

    Please keep your originality and talents coming. We all sure could appreciate a genius like you ☺ God’s blessings!

  16. Julie MacKenzie says:

    Happy Birthday Matthew! Hope you had an awesome day & hope you have a wonderful year! ;) <3 Hugs! That was a great video…Loved it! Keep them coming….Looking forward to the next one….Attraction & investment…Knowing the difference…is what will control the attraction for you…how much they want you…and how much they see you as genuine relationship material….Such great advice… <3

  17. c says:

    Happy birthday Matt!

    Brilliant advice! Keep doing what you do Matt.

    I have gone from 0 to 100 in understanding men because of your coaching on relationships.

    I wish you had been around when I was a clueless 21 year old (ie. 20 years ago, cause I’m 43 now!).

  18. Bryant says:

    Hey Matt, this is my first time listening to you video message and i think its awesome, you are doing a great job, i am a 31 years old man and i work as a media personnel and i have these amazing beautiful lady as my colleagues we tend to be connected in so many ways and everyone that sees us together tells me she likes me and i really do like her too, i have been doing my best to invest in the friendship and hoping it will lead to a serious relationship or even marriage but am a little scared because i do not want at the end of the day i will be left disappointed, please it will be nice and well appreciated if you can advice me.

  19. Sydney says:

    If you’re easily hurt or overly sensitive, then you won’t survive in any partnership.

    Also, don’t be stupid.

    Thanks for the tips, Matt.

  20. Cindy says:

    Thanks for the message in the video. I really needed to hear this. I now know to balance the levers better as I feel like most when I am attracted to a guy – I give it my all.

  21. Dia says:

    I did this, I liked him a lot and I made the mistake of trying to move it quicker than it should. I was much too serious about him than he was about me. This will change my approach for the future if I’m ready again.

  22. Heidi says:

    Don’t give your heart, rather invite someone to come visit your heart: Love that!!

  23. Veronique says:

    Your poor shirt can’t contain what’s going on underneath it. I’d love to make you a tailored one
    I’m subscribed to your program and keep loving the new videos you make. I have shifted a couple of things for me and it’s been CRAZY. I often can’t help but laugh in a very cheeky way facing the results of what I’m causing. I think you should add a section on how to break it off with someone on a human level. It’s such a delicate matter and uncalled things can pop up when they shouldn’t.
    thanks a mil Matthew!

  24. Zari says:

    Spot on! I had been on 4 dates with a guy I had met through a mutual friend and as things got more serious between us meaning the attraction was there, but something felt off. I remember taking the quiz on how to know if he liked me and I scored a 57% and the suggestion was to pull back and stop investing. He wouldn’t call, just communicated via text, and when I organized several gatherings with a group of friends and invited him, he didn’t attend. Even though it was his suggestion to get a group together to go do something. It seemed like he disappeared. But when I did pull back he started posting music videos on his Facebook page with lyrics that had lines in it resembling the compliments he had given me when we went on a few dates. Maybe he said the same lines with other women he had dated. What’s confusing is that he suggested being exclusive on our 3rd date. Anyway, he never drove out to meet me near where I lived. In all 4 times I drove upto 2 hours in traffic to meet him. He didn’t invest in the way I needed him to. I’m learning so much about myself and my relationships from your informative videos. Keep up the great work! By the way love your hair style.

  25. Christine says:

    Thank you for this! Timing couldn’t be more perfect. I was seeing this amazing guy, well amazing to me, and he just up and disappeared. I think things went too fast, for both of us. But that’s OK, we only learn from our mistakes. Mr Right is out there somewhere looking for me and I need to be out there so he can! Keep up the great work! I love your advice!

  26. Rhonda Charles says:

    Wow! I absolutely loved this message Matthew.

  27. Joanna says:

    This was such wonderful information. It truly is difficult not to go full out when attracted to someone. Great advice as always and it was explained in a way that makes so much sense. I think I’ve finally got it! Thanks Matthew!
    Happy Birthday to you also! My daughter just turned 10 on June 18th. :-)

  28. Jennifer says:

    Brilliant! Thank you, Matthew! :)

  29. victoria says:

    I made that mistake. Can there be a way . to start over ., and repair the midtske? This guy was hurt bad by his ex wife . not totally ready for a full relationship. Strong attraction.feel like we have known each other forever. I jumped the hun with my heart.??

  30. Lauren says:

    First… Happy Birthday Matthew!!! You’ve been like a knight in shining armor to all of us by rescuing us from miserable love lives lol. Thank you for all that you do! Have a wonderful day birthday boy!! #celebrate #29!!!! Woohoo!!

    Second…You made excellent points in this vid! I used to over invest in guys and give them all of my time and then wonder why I got treated like crap. It’s just too much too soon. Things need to build. People do appreciate what they earn. I used to think it was normal for me to over invest in someone as soon as we met because I knew I had pure intentions, but at the same time I would always feel weirded out and suspicious if a guy over invested in me. It’s kind of repulsive, uncomfortable and questionable when someone goes from nothing to everything with you in the blink of an eye. I remember I wanted to tell these guys to slow down, but back in those days I was too “nice” to say anything. I also like the concept of letting people into various parts of your heart, while knowing that ultimately your heart belongs to you. <3

    Thanks for this vid!!

  31. Kitty London says:

    This is so so right, I’ve definitely ruined my past rs through this )-:
    Ps that apartment is wow and that shirt but not feeling the longer hair on you its a bit sub-gangster (-;

  32. muri says:

    happy birthday Matt :)


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