They Told You They Wanted a Break? The Perfect Response…

What do you do if the person you are with comes to you telling you he wants a break?

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Has someone you love and care about recently told you that they are considering or want a break?

What do you do when this happens?

Now naturally, when this happens, there is going to be this flood of devastation, of panic, of heartbreak, of feeling like we did something wrong, of looking for a way to solve it. What we have to do is, for a moment, quiet our emotions – as much as we can, we’re human, we’re going to let them out – but we have to quiet them enough to have a reasoned conversation with this person. And this conversation is absolutely vital, because it can literally mean the difference between you wasting months or years of your life, and finding something or someone that is right for you.

The conversation is in three parts.

Number one, you ask them why they want to go on a break. And you do this as calmly and as reasonably as possible, because what you want is an honest answer. The reason you want an honest answer is because you’re going to have to use that to evaluate what you do next.

Now, they’re going to give reasons. You have to ask yourself, are these reasons to do with them? Are they to do with me? Are they inside my control? Or are they outside of my control? All of these things are very important things to ask.

Once he’s told you all of this, your next step is to ascertain whether these problems that are necessitating a break for him are things that have to be solved from without the relationship, or whether they can be solved from within the relationship as a team. As things should, if a relationship is truly strong, if it’s truly that relationship that we’re going to be in for our lives, it should be able to withstand difficult times. It shouldn’t require the team to break up for it to work.

Then you ask, “Do you think that we can solve these things by being a team together? Because I am willing to do the work to make that happen. You would have to be too. But if the both of us commit, I believe we can get through this. Do you?”

If the answer to that question is, “No, I need a break,” part three comes in.

You say, “I understand you want a break, but my definition of a break is a breakup. I believe that in a relationship we can get through anything together, but not if your version of getting through something means without me in the picture, that’s not the teammate that I want and deserve. So I understand what you feel you need to do, and that you’re going to go and do that, but I need to now move on. And, of course, the gamble you’re taking, which you must already know about because otherwise you wouldn’t be doing this, is that I won’t be there when you decide you want me. But I can’t allow your gamble to become my gamble. My gamble would be staking my time and my energy and my life and my future on the possibility, the hope, the fantasy that maybe one day you’ll come back. I’m not prepared to do that. My life is too precious. I love you, but I love myself and my life more. And I have to move on now if you want a break. So I understand you want a break, but I’m going to treat this as a breakup and move on accordingly.”

Scott Fitzgerald once wrote, “The girl worth having won’t wait for anybody.” Make no mistake, people will come and go in life, but your time can never be replaced. Guard it like the precious jewel that it is.

And if you’re watching this and you realize that, now that you’re about to have this conversation, there is real heartache coming for you, I have a free guide on how to overcome heartbreak. You can find it below. I’ll link it up here. Know that you will be okay, know that you are enough, and know that you are loved. We’ll see you next week.

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