THIS Gets Him Addicted to You Forever…

Imagine how amazing it would feel to have the man of your dreams completely addicted to you…

So that every time he leaves you after a date all he can think is, “I have to see her again”…

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  7. Ana says:

    Hello Matthew, you are definitely a master on relationships, and yes the advice really works. I got both “get the guy” and “get your ex back”. However it will be well appreciated if the prices are transparency. The “scrip” says 47 which i really found extremely cheap, but of course there was a catch ;). I understand we all have to live and pay bills, and you put a lot of work to deliver your material, but you should put the right price then. I bet people pay thinking they are only being charged 47 in this case. All the best

  8. Eva says:

    Dear Matthew,

    I read a lot about you and everything that you said really impressed me. I am ready to get the 59 Secret Scripts, but I have a question. First of all you pay 47 dollars, and after 16 days you have to pay 69 dollars if you want to still use it? If you don’t pay then what happpens?

  9. Romaissa says:

    I really want to order your script book matt but in my country I can’t order eany think… Italie Just too suck I want your book so bad!

  10. tutti says:

    Did anyone order the scripts and was able to access the full (promised) content? If so, please comment…and share if it’s a worthwhile investment on scale of 1-10

    • A says:

      I ordered it and got full access, except for the webinar which hasn’t been scheduled yet. I’m looking forward to that. :-)

      I’ve ordered other of Matt’s products and they are similar products just different forms. The scripts? I haven’t tried them, but by reading them on a scale of 1-5 I’d give them a 6.

      Hope that helps.

  11. Kat says:

    Hey Matt!

    What a splendid video. I can’t believe I never thought of that before. I will be sure to make the Bliss Point a part of my conversational arsenal ;)

    I love the work that you’ve been doing Matt. You know something? I’ve been following your videos ever since I was 15. Can you believe that? It’s been incredible to watch your rise to success over the years and to receive so many helpful insights/hints/tips along the way. Thanks for every video so far and keep ’em coming!

    I was wondering if you could help me out with this. I’ve been doing public speaking for two years now because I’d like to become a more energetic/captivating speaker, but so far I haven’t been getting the results that I’m after. I feel like I’ve been stabbing in the dark and that I haven’t progressed very far. I still find that I freeze up from time to time. It’s very frustrating. I’d love your input as to how I could sky rocket my performance.

    When you first started out in the speaking scene all those years back, how did you go about preparing for each speaking opportunity? What rituals did you use? I guess what I’d really like to know are these key things:
    – How did you go about rehearsing your content?
    -How did you warm up your mind?
    -How often did you speak in front of an audience?
    -How did you push past the nervousness?
    The more detail the better!

    So far I’ve tried listening to a recording of myself giving the speech, writing the main ideas on palm cards and talking, and rehearsing it in the garden, but I’m wondering if you might go about it in a different way.

    Thanks in advance Matt. I look forward to hearing from you. Perhaps one day, this Australian girl will save up enough money so that she can fly over to Florida and attend one of your events. I’m gonna make it happen somehow!

    I wish you all the best in achieving success in everything you do and a productive year ahead.

    Keep winning at life!

  12. Mieko Louise says:

    Thankyou for this bliss point advice! You’re a friggen communication genius Matthew!

  13. Anonymous says:

    Thank you thank you thank you! This excample is perfect and not only effective, but also true. It sums up pretty much everything I feel about taking a guy home too soon for me. I have been having a hard time communicating that in the past, but I don’t think I will anymore.
    Take care

  14. Lisa says:

    Bless you’re wee heart Matthew. I love how genuinely excited you are about this. We all are too, but it’s charming that you genuinely enjoy and feel passionate about your work.

    Thank you.

  15. Justyna says:

    I was on the early bird list, never received the email?!?!
    How can I still get it?

  16. A. says:

    Matthew! That video was like reading a romance novel! We’ve come such a long way together since I read Get The Guy in 2012. You’re preaching to the choir here. Why still the videos one can’t fast-foward through? You’ve grown past that, I think!

    Your content is really good. But nix the videos and just be your unscripted self! We’ll still love you and buy your products, promise. ;-)



  17. ednora says:


    I order your “how to talk to men” but were is it? wet can i finder do the packet come too my address or what? do i have to find it online or what too foo plz help??

  18. Jadranka says:

    I have a same comment as Mary. And as I have ordered things before, that happened last time also. I really like watching your videos and think you have valid advices. But, and this is a big but, you talk people into delivering something witch you not deliver as promised. Astrological Gemini as you are. That really messes with my focus from completing any of your programmes. I really don’t have that kind of money, and if you said that it costs ONLY 47 dollars then it should cost only 47 dollars. Period. This is something that we call in my language, Bosnian btw. navlakuša. Search it up. Thank you.

    Yours truly,

    Honest Taurus

    P.S. As your avid follower who already payed for your work, and was willing to pay this 47 dollars, and only got bits and pieces, I am really disappointed.

  19. Mary says:

    Hey Matthew, I wanted to order your secret scripts program, but when I got on the page to pay it said I would be paying 47 dollars for first 16 days and then 69.95 a month for 6 months? I don’t understand where that comes from. I want to just make a one-time payment and no subscription whatsoever.


  20. Joyce says:

    I’m really excited about the program! I paid for both Fast Track and Communication Master Class. I understand about the server being jammed and it’s no big deal. A good lesson in patience. The one time it let me attempt to log in, there was no place to create a new username and password. I emailed my order numbers to both info and support emails.
    P.S. can you offer your Impact package again? I missed out on that last summer. Also, can you do some kind of package about core confidence, emotional triggers,etc (a shortened version of the lifestyle retreat for those of us who can’t attend). I am using a combination of your youtube videos and the Anthony Robbins’ Ultimate Edge package to work on these issues. I would much prefer material from your point of view because your techniques are easier to understand and apply immediately.
    Thanks for all you do :)

  21. mary says:

    Hi Matt. I ordered how to talk to men scripts program as soon as the access was opened for purchae, but I never recieved any link and no password/log in information for this program.

  22. Melkorka says:

    I bought your how to talk to men secret sceipts but I cant seem to get access. Can you please help me with this?

  23. Sofie says:

    Hey matt.
    I signed up for your early bird list but diden’t gen a mail?
    Is the script for free?
    I really need this right know..

    • Sofie says:

      I haven’t had a boyfriend in 4 years, allmost everyone in my cirkle has a boyfriend or girlfriend, i am sort of high value such as i am doing my own thing and not dropping everything for a guy but my big problem is, that i always fall in love with what i can’t have. The song “i won’t say i’m in love” is the perfect mach to my love life, sadly… Help me! I am 22 years old. Its not that i dont know too little guys its just that i first fall in love with what i can’t have and the latest Two guys i have been having a crush on, the first one diden’t like me back, (we are still friends though) and my new friend, i dont think he likes me back either. On that way..

      • Sofie says:

        He is though teasing me a Lot, and that’s different from the other girls.. But he is difficult to read. Aarrgh… I am really messed up in my head…… Confused about my live and my love live…. Sry, i write so much.

    • Judith Duquette says:

      Never received this email even if i was on the early bird list!

  24. Maria says:

    Thank You Matt for all the hard work and dedication and passion you put into your work. I bought the Get The Guy Book and watch all your You Tube Videos and Listen to Love Life. The help and advice you offer is absolutely amazing! I’ve learnt so much about myself and grown with it too and Value myself as a woman so much more now! One of the biggest things I’ve enjoyed is getting the life I want and being happy. Getting the Guy is a bonus and addition too that! Signed up for the early bird list and like everyone else really happy. Thank you once again for giving me the tools to make some great, positive changes in my life.

  25. Alexandra says:

    I signed up for the early bird list and I am so excited! After using your advice for a few years now, I truly believe that this program will be a success in my life and in so many others. Thank you so much for everything you do.


  26. Annie says:

    Hey Matt,
    you’re videos are absolutely incredible and so helpful. currently my 3 year long boyfriend dumped me because “we became to clingy with each other and {he} wants to be single for a bit but still loves me” then a week later was flirting w me and talking poorly of me behind my back. i truly do love him and want to get him back and currently don’t have the money to buy you’re get him back plan that i desperately would love to buy. any help you can give me would be greatly appreciated. its been 3 weeks today since we split and I’m dying to fix it with him before i wait too long and lose him.
    thank you so much for being you and thank you for making your videos, creating something to help everyone of us who truly need it rather then treat those looking for help as a joke. so once again THANK YOU you truly are incredible.

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Thanks Annie!

      I admire your courage in being honest about how you are feeling. Right now the best thing you can do is relax, take your time to get strong again (even if not initially in your love life at least in every other area you can) and then reassess the situation from a position of greater strength.

      You’ll be ok, I promise. Just don’t rush into any frantic behaviours because right now you feel scared. Your calmness is your best ally right now in both making you feel at peace and making you more attractive to him.

      Matthew x

  27. Debbie says:

    Hey Matt,
    I wanted to tell you how exciting your new program sounds! The illustration of the salty and sweet bliss point was excellent! When you describe like that it’s such visual that can remember. Also, thanks for the script of what to say, It’s perfect!This is so exciting!

  28. Annah says:

    Hi Matt!! Im looking forward to the scripts programme! Who isn’t! I do have one question though. Im under the impression that the scripts programme will bo in the form of a live event. Will the scripts be available digitally or in a book?
    Thanks you sooo much for shedding some light into our love lives.

    From one of yoir Hussey fans all the way from South Africa:)

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Hey Annah, tomorrow when the programme is released I’ll explain the exact format. I think you are going to be pleasantly surprised. x

  29. Patricia says:

    Matthew, this video is really helpful. There is an ex who never wanted to be my boyfriend, but of course wanted all the benefits. Even said to mehe would never marry me, because his family would never accept it (because I am not white). However, when we were together, it was always great, but the next day, he was always cold and distant (through text messages), which caused me to alter my personality, arguing with him, because I felt he was playing hot and cold with me. I guess I insisted because he seemed to be the perfect guy for me, perfect age (39), and once he said he wanted to marry fast and have kids. Not with me, clearly. I thought I could feel him feeling happy with me, but his words said otherwise. At some point, he dumped me, saying I was stressing him out.
    It’s been a year, and I am for work in Brazil (I am Brazilian), and he is texting me, and we are talking like friends, he seems interested, but I am afraid he’s just testing me to see what’s going on. I was totally not interested, but I felt like it lighted up a flame in me again, thinking that maybe, just maybe, he changed his mind, because of all failed dates he had in the past year. He asked me to buy something from Brazil, I asked for his address, he said he wants me to deliver in person. I will go back to L.A. next month. Dear Matt, what should I do? What should I say if he starts flirting with me or contacting me again? Thank you!

  30. Angel says:

    Great as always Matthew!! :)

    I really would love to hear your opinions on Facebook status’s though. Sometimes I feel I may give too much of myself away in a status (even if they are jokey ones) and I’m not sure if I need to stop altogether or think about the ones that give value.

    Wondered if you could do a video on how to be high value over Facebook ;)

    Thank you!!!

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Hey Angel,

      I’m different to a lot of people on social media, in that I don’t really use it as a forum to reveal my life drama or the things that are bothering me. I think facebook is a great place to share pictures, keep people up to date with your life (in a positive way) and reach out to others. I think that the nuances of your moods and stresses etc are better left for in person.

      Many would disagree of course, but that’s just the way I like to run my life. I like to keep some distance between my inner world and the internet : )


  31. joy says:

    Help Matthew! I dated a man that wants children, im past my child bearing years :-) He’s 5 yrs younger. He’s a career man and loves his life, loves to travel and he’s not particularly kid friendly. I don’t think he realizes how his life would change and he says he doesn’t think you should have to give up your life when you have kids and after 15yrs you’re able to get your life back etc. We have a great time and would share a lot but he’s still wanting kids. I broke it off with him but regretted it. I feel like he’ll eventually realize that maybe he doesn’t want kids but now I’ve taken myself out of the picture. He still calls to keep the connection open but hasn’t wanted to get together. This week he wants to have drinks. How should I proceed?? Will the script help?

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      The beauty of the scripts is that they give you a structure for having MANY different types of conversations. So even if there isn’t one that exactly caters to this scenario, there will definitely be scripts in there that you can apply to your situation. They allow you to create attraction, communicate your standards and make someone want to stay with you.

      When you get them let me know what you think!


  32. Barb says:

    HI Matt.

    Great example to show standards. But how do you do that when you have been dating a year? I want to see him more than one or two days a week and/or on weekends but I don’t know how to bring that topic up at this point?


    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Hey Barb!

      I will refrain from answering that here because communicated that you want/need more is covered in the programme being released this week. But don’t worry, it’s absolutely possible to do this when you’ve been dating for a year!


  33. Therese says:

    Hi Matt,

    I am so excited about your upcoming program. Can’t wait to see it and I’m already on the early bird list.

    Will you have something on what happens when you do give in too quickly and regret it? I met a guy that I really clicked with and got intimate way too soon. Haven’t heard from him since and I’m really bummed.

    Love, Therese

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Hey Therese,

      In this situation you need to communicate that although it felt great to move forward quickly you feel the need to slow down a little. The programme this week will help immensely with how you communicate this. Stay tuned! x

  34. Laura says:

    Hey Matt,

    I’m definitely interested in being one of the first people to enrol in this program however it will be 1am local time where I live when the program is released. Is there some other way to ensure I am one of the first women to enrol?

    Laura xx

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      The early bird list is how you will find out first about the programme. My best advice is to set an alarm, grab the programme when it is released then go back to sleep! Failing that, just make sure you rush to your computer when you wake in the morning and I’ll be crossing my fingers that the special bonuses are still available for you!


  35. Stephanie says:

    Hi Matt,

    I love this idea and program that you’re planning. It would be awesome if you could publish the script in a book, so that I could get easy access and follow your advice on my own pace.

    Please think about publishing another book!

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Hey Stephanie. Stay tuned for it’s release in a couple of days. That’s all I can say for now ; ) x

  36. Annette says:

    Take me, please, on this list :-D

    Love, Annette

  37. Bruna Barbosa says:

    From food to love, what can’t you teach, Matthew?

    I would love to hear what you have to say when friends put you in the spot in front of a guy that you should date him. I feel this instantly kills the mood and puts an awkwardness there not needed, if you happen to like him or not. But how can you turn a situation like that to favor you?

    Please do bring more videos out like ‘The Bliss Point’. You wisdom does need to be shared!

    Thank you x

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Hey Bruna!

      You just have to be unreactive instead of acting embarrassed. Either shrug it off playfully and say “I’ll think about it ; )” or say “don’t embarrass him that’s not nice” as if he’s the one that is embarrassed not you.

      Stay tuned for the scripts this week!!! x

  38. Karma says:

    This is one of the better videos, Hussey. I’m good at communicating what I want but must say, after hearing you, I’m the saltier communicator. This is the perfect explanation to get me to tone down how I deliver the message and to work on using my natural tension creating skills (if you can call it that!) to make positive tension instead of intimidating the poor guy.
    My new mantra: perpetually seeking balance between salty & sweet. I’ll be like the perfect trail mix when I get this right. Cheers!

  39. Hillary says:

    Matt, I love what you do! I find your videos and books so helpful! I’m actually relocating to England this fall, and I am curious to hear your opinions on English dating vs. American dating. Are there any key points that American women need to be clued into before entering the world of English men?

    Thank you!


    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Don’t be lured in by every accent! Novelty can get in the way of seeking true values ; ). Oh and don’t forget that many English men need 3 pints in them before approaching a woman, so don’t be afraid to make it clear that you want to talk to them. x

  40. Annette says:

    Hello Matt,

    you’re a money-addicted manipulator, but i’m nevertheless excited to learn your latest advice

    Annette :-)

  41. Laura Jensen says:

    Brilliant! =) Thank you Matthew!

  42. Crystal Axe says:

    On it! This was awesome!!’ Thank you so much for your insight on men!!!

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Thanks for commenting Crystal. I’m so excited about releasing the secret scripts this week in the new programme! x

  43. Nicole says:

    Matthew – you are f*king amazing!! THIS is what I’ve been waiting for,. I’ve been following your blog, reading and watching and listening to all your genius and believe this is the most valuable tool you could have created to truly help women and men. The Bliss Point is sheer brilliance -I can’t wait to get my hands on it!! Love you and all that you do!!

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Hey Nicole,

      I couldn’t agree more. Having real things to say in real situations is key. I can’t wait for you to see what I’ve put together for you.

      M x

  44. Christine says:

    Thank you, Matthew, from the bottom of my heart.

    I LOVED your book, but this is exactly what I wanted after reading it.

    Real life scripts for various situations…I know it’s going to be gold!!!

    I can’t wait.

    You’re partner in “love” crime. Let’s do it!!!

  45. Claudette says:

    Matthew, You have amazing, practical and wonderful insight and advice. Thank you.

    I’m seated here as a woman in a relationship with a man and I should have taken this slower. I should have shared my real feelings exactly in this manner.

    I’m now in the relationship for several years, going back and forth. I’m not looking for marriage as it’s a complicated situation, but I need to be more of a priority in this mans life.

    I want to be treated nicer. Not like a day time date or lover.

    How do I back track Now, after years of travel, meals, etc.

    I would like to continue our travels, have him be more giving both in and out of the bedroom.

    Again, I do not want a commitment from this man, but I do want him to be more invested.

    What do I do? Is this a wash since I have done 90% of the opposite of what you have shared.

    Thank you again quite sincerely for your candid advice.

  46. Natasha Marie Potter says:

    Excellent job! Love that your mind keeps bringing new brilliant ideas! It never hurts your easy on the eyes and ears either! Congratulations on your new program. It’s inevitably going to be succesful. Big happy clap belly bump for you!

  47. Lauren says:

    Wow Matthew! As someone who purchased the impact program and your book and a avid watcher of all your vids and listener of your radio- all your advise has been very effective for me and I can’t imagine your material getting much better (it’s already excellent) but this sounds insanely exciting!! Can’t wait! I like fluff by the way. I think it can get you thinking. But juice sounds even better! Looking forward to your new program!! :) You’re the best!!

  48. Cheryl Williams says:

    I met a guy for a coffee and we got on well together at the end he asked if I was doing anything later, and I said I wasn’t. He invited me back to his which was within walking distance to watch a DVD. I agreed but at the same time made it clear that was all I was going back for ie to watch the DVD. He text me the next day and appreciated that I trusted him enough to go back to his place.

  49. Kathryn says:

    Very excited for you Matt. You’re awesome!!

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Thanks Kathryn! I can’t wait for you to get the scripts this week! I’ve worked so hard on them. x

  50. Sherry says:

    Matthew, OMG, you are so right! I thought that I’ve said the same thing in the past, in one case the guy was “hooked” and in another case he lost interest. It was all in what I said, and the way I said it when I “turned him down”.
    Guy 1 I said, “Wow, I’m sure I’d really like that, I bet you would rock my world, but I’m just not that kind of girl, I’d like to get to know you better first” he asked if he could call me, I said yes and gave him my number and he called the next morning. Guy 2 I said “I’m really not that kind of girl” and told him to call me, but he never did.

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Thanks for giving your example of how it worked for you Sherry! Using the right language with people really does make a huge difference.

      Matthew x

  51. Phoebe says:

    That was genius, Matt! .)

    I love how analytical you are, and your eye for detail. Other dating coaches hold back a lot , because they don’t want to “betray” their gender…

    I always found people that are “walking-talking contradictions” to be very attractive- ( smart and challenging, yet sexy and fun aka “salty and Sweet”).


    • Matthew Hussey says:

      “Walking-talking contradictions” – YES Phoebe. Another way of thinking about this is people who are hard to predict because they defy the norms. These people are rare to us and therefore attractive.


  52. Lynn says:

    Hi Matthew,

    After watching this video, I’m gonna be honest …I just breathed a huge sigh of relief and said ‘Finally!’

    There was a situation where I felt disrespected by a guy and I was too scared to ‘rock the boat’ and I just remembered staring at my mobile phone not knowing what to say.

    I was paralysed.

    I knew I wasn’t happy but I didn’t wanna be a drama queen either. I also didn’t want to push a guy away.

    So I became the ‘that’s OK!’ Girl.

    I don’t want to be the ‘that’s OK!’ Girl anymore.

    I loved the Get the Guy book.

    I loved the London O2 Event (particularly the wee ‘Pocket Hussey’ book we got at the end! Because it had things to say in it! Lol)

    I just wanted to say THANK YOU for doing this!

    I’m looking forward to the retreat in San Diego too.Because I don’t want to be the ‘that’s OK! Girl in other areas of my life either ;)

    Thank you to you and your wonderful team

    Lynn xxx

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Thanks so much Lynn! I’m so excited you’ve been participating in our content in all of these different ways. The scripts I’m releasing this week in our new programme are going to blow you away. x

  53. Linda says:

    Hi, Matt, thank you very much for all you do and say about dating men – I would have never imagined that some of these moves/lines/behaviours can be rationalized like this and so successfully, I can say! I still cannot believe that you are so young but sound like a love magi!:-) This video about setting the standards is quite a hit, I wish I’d seen it 2 months ago, when I acted like the second example, passive and boring and no wonder the guy lost any respect and interest…But I can’t stop wondering why it should be like that…why when you are nice and sweet and just want to be with a nice guy without a script and staged behaviour, it all goes down the drain?:-(

    Thanks AGAIN for all the insight – it is worth it, for what I see…

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Hey Linda!

      It’s about knowing how to communicate that you are not JUST nice and sweet. It’s fine to be those things, but there has to be more to you to create real desire and long term attraction. What I show you in my scripts is how to communicate every part of you. And let’s not forget that many people are overly nice and sweet because they are scared of creating confrontation. The great thing about this new programme is that it shows you how to retain your sweetness whilst also getting your standards met!

      M x

  54. Emily says:

    1477? …the year the Duchess of Burgundy began her reign over the Low Countries? …the address of…no, I give up.

    I really like the initial point about how you need to know what your standards *are* before you can communicate them. For a long time I think I really didn’t know what my standards were. I mean, yes, in terms of whether to let a guy come home with me or not, but no in terms of what came later–how much I would put up with being let down or stood up or shut out or generally used. I took a looong time to learn that.

    Probably I was thinking that I was patient and tenacious, and that I would put up with whatever they threw at me if that’s how they needed to be, and we would eventually work it out, as long as they liked me and wanted me. But, of course, they didn’t–at least not enough, or not in the way they had initially. There are many reasons for the way things went in these cases, but definitely one of them has been that a guy who responds well in the beginning to the salty-and-sweet thing (which I didn’t realize that’s what I was doing, but the way you explain it I guess I was) doesn’t necessarily want any more than that.

    You *can* have that thrilling I-want-more moment…and then *get* more, and get full, and get sick of the thing you wanted so much at first. Reeling them in doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll like being in (or that you’ll want them once they’re there); sometimes it’s just the reeling that was the fun part (Poetic sigh).

    But yeah, standards. Good things to have. And I like the way you break down the Bliss Point into a diplomatic-while-sexy thing.

    • A. says:

      Emily makes good points here. Your stuff does work–to a point. I enjoy your programs. I got a guy through them and I’m great at communicating standards while still communicating desire.

      But there is a point where some me just won’t meet your standards, no matter how well you’ve communicated them. He might even say how well you’ve communicated it! And he’s appreciative of your communication skills. But it still might not get the results you want.

      Do the scripts discuss how much time to wait for a guy to meet your standards?

      • Claudette says:

        Hi, I guess I am wondering when enough is really enough. When do you say, “okay, this has been nice, but I was hoping for A, B, and C, and since that is not happening, it’s time for me to move on”

        It’s a good question and I have a feeling in some ways its a very unique and individual question.

        What is your time worth in life and is the man elevating you or are you wasting time? I ask myself this quite frequently. For me, I am building my life in different areas, learning a new language, getting involved in a new exercise program and joining different groups for my interests.

        My “love interest” contacts me nearly every day to meet for lunch, walks, etc. but still, I am not getting what I really want, so I put him off, and I find he only wants to see me more.

        What are Matthews views on this?

  55. Kerri Jane says:

    Great video and content, Matthew! If anyone of us have a love question/theme that we would love to pick your brain on, where can we send that to?

  56. Savannah says:

    This is such great news! Whenever I need a quick refresher/pep talk before heading to a social event, I always run through the phrases and body language tips I’ve learned from your program. You’re right, that’s the juice. The stuff that really matters in the moment. The psychology behind it all is incredibly insightful, but in the moment I rarely remember any of that stuff. Looking forward to it!

  57. Ary says:

    Waw, all this is so amazing! I wish this had come a little early. I went on a date with a guy a couple weeks ago, we had such a great time and found so many things in common, but afterwards he invited me to go to his place for a a movie. I didn’t necessary wanted to go since it was getting late. After watching this video, I feel like it would have been the perfect moment to communicate my standards, but I did go with him anyway and it was still fun, in fact the movie was great, but nothing much happened after that. We kept in touch, but didn’t have anything planned since then, and it has been a month probably.

    He just recently reached out to me, wanting to see me again. He suggested coming to my place at this time to watch a movie or something. My question: Is there any way I can suggest something else more exciting to do instead of a movie night at my place in a way of communicating my standards? Movie night would be awesome, but probably not the best at this fase. Thanks!

    • Phoebe says:

      So he barely even knows you, and his idea of a date is watching a movie at his place or your place?
      Sorry, but he sees you as a booty call. This is what guys do when they don’t want to take you out, but are trying to sleep with you.
      Maybe you can say, “I’d love to, but I will be hanging out at xyz. You are free to join me ;)

      Is this salty and sweet enough ,Mathew? .) .)

      • Ary says:

        Hi Phebe,

        Thanks for your feedback, I appreciate that. I also agree that his attitudes are showing little interest, due the fact that he is not even willing to spend money on an actual date, that just shows how cheap he is. He texted me this week wanting to see if I was still up for the movie, and i ended up suggesting my preference in doing something outdoor instead. He was cool with it, but then he had to cancel since it is Fathers Day on the day we had planned and he feels the need of been with his family…which i totally understand, but my question his how should i face all of this? Thanks

  58. Felicia says:

    Dear Matthew,
    Thank you for the you tube short videos. I am from the poor part of the EU, I will, probably, never have the money to pay for your book or any other program but I am happy to get the free videos. It is helping a lot in shaping the right attitude, the right mind set.

  59. Jenna says:

    Great content as always. Sounds like an amazing programme. I’ve been struggling with getting my boyfriend to discuss things, anything at all which my bother or concern me. We’ve been together for 3 years now and I think I approach issues in a caring, non-judgemental way if possible. Anytime I bring up an issue he becomes super defensive, tells me I’m being too sensitive, it’s my problem not his and that the conversation is too deep, he’ll then either cut me off and tell me to forget about it or send me home like a child :(! I love him but find it so difficult to communicate effectively with him. Any tips please? :)

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Tips coming! I’ve put a huge amount of work into exactly what you are talking about. The good news is you are asking the right questions. I’m excited for you for next week.

      M x

  60. Eliza says:

    Around 40”’ in, looking like a nice watch commercial.

    Very insightful comparison to the food industry. Kudos! As an engineer, looking and finding inspiration and insight in any area, and applying it wherever I need is something I often do.

    Keep doing a great job, guys!

  61. Marta says:

    OMG, I could hear you talk all day! ;) Crush aside, your advice is pretty much always dead on. I find your approach to relationships practical and respectful. I love the no nonsense. You can bet I’ll keep sharing your videos with all the women I know. I believe every woman married or single can benefit from understanding the masculine mind better. Cheers!

    • Matthew Hussey says:

      Thanks Marta! I’ll keep bringing you the best stuff and you keep sharing it ; ).

      Next week is going to be fantastic, be ready! x

  62. De'von says:

    I had 2 dates with this guy I was very attracted to and I was actually trying to figure out what he was looking for as in a relationship and I said I wanted to find that kind of relationship between two people were you just know that you had found the one who you have the desire to stop dating.(I had tears and explained that dating was so different from when we were younger and things were more simple) he said he agreed and wiped my tears. After the date was over and he went home, he texted me and said he had gotten home safe… The next morning when I woke up I replied “wow didn’t realize how late it was last night, I really enjoyed your company!” he replied “yes it was late” I replied “Sorry for the tears, I am much clearer this morning” he replied “don’t fret about it, I guess we are in very different places, we both have alot going on right now.”
    I haven’t responded it was last night, the 2nd date. I don’t know how to respond. I am hearing that he is saying goodbye.. Am I right?
    I love your advice and I hope you can help me.
    Thank you, De’von

    • Marcia says:

      I think you are right, I think by saying we are “in very different places” he is distancing himself from your description of what you are looking for in a relationship. I think he is saying goodbye, at least as far as a romantic relationship is concerned. I wish I had better news, (sorry) but that’s my take on it.

      • De'von says:

        Thank you, Marcia, I thought as mucht! The worst thing is he would have slept with me I’d I had allowed. How is it that there seems to be nothing wrong with that? Any who, thanks for replying =)

  63. sidhra rashid says:


    I have never liked a guy before and now i am head over heels for one.

    The problem is i dont know him and i met him on a rating site “hot or not” so didnt meet him! But i love the way he is, i have him on facebook and he likes the similar things interests as i do. We have similarities and he has not spoken to me or messaged me yet, i am not the type to message guys i never have, this is my first crush.

    He has not liked anything either or my posts and i havent either! but we oth rated each other hot so all i know is that he rated me.

    Help me?

    • Claudette says:

      Hello Sidhra,

      How did you happen to friend this man on Social Media? Do you have friends in common?

      Please forgive me for asking, and I mean this in the most exploratory way, but How are you head over heels if you haven’t met him, don’t know what he is interested in, or what his values are?

      I know that often times, and I am speaking only for myself, I see someone briefly, have a nice conversation with them, and my imagination gets the better of me and I begin fantasizing over the picnics, movies, travel plans, bike rides, etc. that I will have with this person.

      In fact, this happened frequently, then I had a delightful conversation with a man, allowed my imagination to run wild, had coffee with him, and this happened right after my divorce, and felt all warm and nice, only to learn that he was gay.

      We became platonic friends, but that good old imagination can get the better of me sometime. So, I’ve checked my imagination at the door, got in touch with what I really admired about myself, and asked myself hard questions, like what I really wanted in someone else.

      Trust me, my imagination still makes its appearances, but not as frequently. I go on more facts than feelings alone now.

      Please keep us posted.

  64. Jourdan Moschitta says:

    My problem with the “bliss point” is that I believe men should be more respectful of women without my having to tell them I don’t want to sleep with them on a first date. So as soon as they ask, I am offended and repulsed by them and I have no problem letting them know that they have offended me and they should learn to treat women with more respect if they ever want to find someone worthy. And if they can’t handle that truth and don’t want to see me again…too bad. Someone has to tell them. So I don’t really understand how the “bliss point” does anything productive except let the guy know his behavior is fine…just not for you. He needs to know the behavior is not fine. Period.

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