Choose The Guy You Want, Make Him Feel Like A Man

There are amazing guys everywhere – literally a BUFFET to choose from.

Women have been ‘making the move’ for centuries, and this is something we seem to have forgotten. In this video I want to remind you of that.

I’ve really tried to be innovative in the way we’ve done the GetTheGuy book.

I see the book as my first opportunity to get everything I have down in a way that’s accessible to everyone. My live events are where this whole thing started, but until now there have been both financial and geographical constraints holding people back from hearing the message we have.

The events are incredible, and if you come to one, results (and a great time!) are guaranteed. They’re where I’ve been able to refine my material, learn in real-time from a live audience, and bring my principles and techniques to a place where people go away and get ground-breaking results.

In finding that there were concepts I wanted to put into the book that were near-impossible to describe in writing, I decided to embed the book with what we’ve called “video alerts” – links throughout the book that you can go to to get videos that explain certain techniques in more detail, or to get a visual demonstration from me on stage.

(I’ve had to hide the code here, but it’s yours in the book!)

(I’ve had to hide the code here, but it’s all yours in the book!)

If a picture is worth a thousand words, a video has got to be worth a million – especially when talking about subtle nuances such as ‘the look’ (chapter 6), and for people who learn better by seeing something than reading.

The video above is one of 12 such examples I’ve included in the book, and with this post I wanted a give you a further taster of what’s included.

I’ve gone above and beyond with everything I’ve packed into this thing. I’m so proud of the finished product.

I recently heard someone say that the reason people don’t read more is because books are cheap, and they don’t believe that there could be so life-changing material for a mere $15. Having just finished putting this together, I couldn’t agree more. What you’ll be getting here is CRAZY value. I’ve spent the last seven years studying this area, and in taking on what you learn from the book, your love life be so much better off.

Grab your copy now, and I can’t wait to hear what you think!

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  1. Sydney says:


    + 1 for tomorrow

  2. Sydney says:

    Wrong article to post these comments, seeing as I should be making u feel like a man . Were I a groupie chick.

    But I just want an autographed copy of YOUR BOOK.

    And I will SPAM every single day …. at least…. well How much spamming would annoy a Matthew ?

    25 ? Too much time.

    10 ?

    5 spams.

    per day.

    phew! that’s all I can do on this one.

  3. Sydney says:

    reinforcment similar to the aluminium alloy in to the surrounding areARRS

    Gotta call subar-roo and it’s sub-ah-ru I think.

    Not going to track down manufacturing history of car.
    Not going to call car company to ask them what metals were used to make the exterior.

    So I can construct-fy for this roof top tent

    Saw it in a picture at the dealership

    (and I just gotta have it BK style)

  4. Sydney says:

    Treakking awawy we go with too big a moon roof to fit the rooftop tend that I saw in the picture.

    Gotta fix young’s modulus on moon roof.

  5. Sydney says:

    A – T – T

    T – his

    I – s

    Y – our

    F – after

  6. jax says:

    Hi Matt–
    One thing I really like about your videos Matt is that they are easy to apply in real life. Keep up the awesome work.


  7. novalee truesdell says:

    you met me yesterday at the sf conference and signed my book
    “this moment contains all moments”
    i am still thinking about everything you said there….
    and i forgot to tell you the one thing that helped me the most
    from your man myth program
    i regret that i didn’t
    but am so happy to have had your attention for the time i did
    kindest regards

  8. HY says:

    Hi Matt,

    Thanks for your book and blog posts! There are a lot of information that are not just useful for finding love!

    I have tried some of the techniques though, like leaving a paper message or stuff…but it just seems to not work on me. I mean even after approaching some guys I thought was interested (I mean our eyes met for quite a few times, he smiled) they always reject me one way or another. – there was one time I tried to leave a message to a guy in the library and he said he’s actually working…awkward

    I’m 21 now and have never had a boyfriend/not even a person to flirt with…it worries me as I’m graduating soon to get a job with crazy hours and little life…as a bit of a workaholic, I might end my life like this.

    Would appreciate any advice. I would love to come to one of your events to ask you directly too but I can’t make the time, so…will definitely go in the first possible opportunity

    Many Thanks!

  9. Sarah says:

    Hi Matthew, I love the advice you give us because you also talk about how to improve ourselves in all domains in life, not just relationships.
    I want to talk about an incident that recently occurred because I want to express my feelings about it.
    I’m in university and taking hard courses, so I’m not really concerned about being in a relationship, and to be honest, I’m not really good with boys…but one day I meet someone. He was the typical bad boy type that all girls liked. He smoked, he drank, he never opened a book, he was good with girls, and seemed very confident. We soon became close friends. But it finally happened, he got kicked out of university. We meet up again a couple of months later, and I was very surprised by what he told me. He said that he was scared of not being able to make friends, and scared that he might lose them, that he was very concerned with popularity, and that he admired how I didn’t care about boys but was happy.
    The lesson I learned? Even the baddest, most confident guy has the biggest insecurities. The guy that you girls might be afraid of walking up to and talking to, is not as threatening as he might appear to be. He’s the same as any other person.

  10. Kathryn says:

    We are missing you, now you are living it up in America ; – )
    Sure you are having a great time but we do love you on the blog. It would not work with an American, you are European !

  11. Tina says:

    Hey Matt,
    Hope all is going fabulously 4 u!
    Can’t wait to hear about your incredible journey, so far.
    Keep up your fabulous work, get plenty of rest time,
    relaxation, & remember to enjoy the small moments too.


  12. Lila says:

    I’ve spent the last 6 hours of my life surfing the posts and all your videos (hope this counts as a huge compliment to your work). I don’t think inspirational defines it, it has been more like a mind-wrecking journey. (Prepare to skip girls, it’s going to be a long comment in here)
    The feeling I have right now? If you’re right, I’ve been playing a different game… and as long as everything sounds completely logical, I assume there are many chances that you are. Not different as in football vs. rugby, but as in tennis vs. swimming. There wasn’t even a ball and nobody ever told me! In 31 years! I have mean male friends…
    I always found confussing and frustrating all of the popular wisdom old fashioned strategies, I was so bad at them that even as a teenager my friends told me maybe they would not work for me. “Hard to get” is what bothers me the most, because it seems so unnatural to measure time in days when you already got the message. Actually, as embarrassing as it is, I still try to get better at it. Good news I can quit!
    The worst part of it is getting to realize that I was blaming myself in the wrong way. It’s this I-suspected-it-but-needed-to-be-told kind of twist.
    Right now I have a huge mess inside, as I’ve been doing all the wrong way (and by all I mean ALL OF IT). I think I’ll start with the self-value and increasing posibilities of meeting new men and take it from there. That reminds me… What do you suggest if I don’t have a clue of the kind of man I want? And also… Can you give a few tips on how to say no to nice guys when you know it’s not going to work?

    Just thank you. Maybe this would have made the whole point but my mood is on fire right now, sorry for the verbal explosion.

    Will let you know how it works. For all the women out there struggling, be calm, someone else (me) really sucks at dating and getting dates but is still trying. Get all your punky power out there!

    Hopefully next year I’ll be living in UK, if I do be sure I’m going to one of that amazing weekends, sounds like fun!

    Kisses from tropical paradise.

  13. Grace says:

    Have you made the best seller list yet? I bought a book a few days ago, hoping you’d be closer to your dream.

    Best Wishes,

  14. Alice In Wonderland says:

    Hey, so I left a review on Amazon, but I wanted to make sure to tell you.

    My dad is a motivational speaker, author, and all that, so growing up I was encouraged to read a lot of books, and of course I heard everything. It was funny, because I could say most of the quotes in your book verbatim.

    That’s great! It builds so much credibility in my mind. You have taken principles of success that I already knew and applied them to finding and keeping a guy. To me, that is exactly what women need.

    I got your book on Friday and I am already reading it again, and I’ll probably read it a few more times before I get it down and build my confidence enough to actually do half of the things in your book. I’m not nearly there, but, I made eye contact with a cute guy today and smiled at him, and I haven’t done that in a long time. He smiled back :). Funny how such a little thing can build your confidence.

    Thanks and keep up the good work!!

  15. Sabrina Dayton says:

    I just love you. Wish to have a man as you <3

  16. Susanne Love says:

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    • Susanne Love says:


      & awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww :)
      YOU love your fans in such lovely special way :)
      Really Looooooooooooooooooooooooooove YOU all too :)

      YAY YAY YAY :)

      Hope it will be possible to see YOU on ustream again :)
      That would be fantastic :)

  17. Susanne Love says:

    :) ☀☆☀ Dear Matthew ☀☆☀ :)

    YOU are really always here for us :)
    Always ALL THE BEST for YOU here as well :)

    Unfortunately I did not know how to use ustream :(
    But now I learned how :) & watched your heart-touching videos :)
    One of the best videos on this planet :)

    ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥It’s YOU & your loved ones♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ &
    ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥YOU truly LOVE♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ :)

    ☆☆♥☺♥ Really Loooooooooooooooooooooove YOU all too :)♥☺♥☆☆


  18. Lydia says:

    Hello Matt!!
    I finally made it! I order a copy of your book!! (I’m sorry I could only buy one) But I’m happy ti know that one of the copies will travel to The Canary Islands in Spain! And I’m gonna try my best to spread the word and help you sell more copies :-)
    Your efforts will be rewarded, you deserve it :-)
    Lots of love from Spain xoxo

  19. Meredith says:

    Excellent video and fantastic points you made, Matt!

    Thank you.

  20. Louise says:

    Your video reminds me of what I did.
    I took interest in the new guy in my class, and I notice he does the same for me, but we never talk. One fine day, i was searching for some information, and he happen to be nearby, I walk up and tell him I need help in searching for some information, and from there on, we start talking ;)
    We are near to start dating now, jz waiting till he manage to get his job offer, and then he will come over to meet my parents for permission to date me.

  21. Nofyah says:

    Another fantastic post!

  22. Andrea says:

    Matt, you are a great teacher. I enjoy listening to you, and I cannot wait to get the book. (I have ordered it.)

    By the way, my grandmother used to tell me about the handkerchief. ;-)
    Your example about the dress hit home with me. Even before you spoke out the example, I realized that when I was looking for a dirndl (traditional dress for women), I did not take the first cheap, low-quality and badly fitting dirndl that I ran across – just to have any kind of dirndl. No, I ran through many stores, I even visited a dirndl designer in her studio, and I tried on so many dirndls until I found one that was up to my standard.

    It is great to see that you have the much deserved success.
    I wish I could watch the “Ready for Love” show.

    Thanks also for the Ustream videos.



  23. novalee truesdell says:

    matt, if a guy i like offers to txt me a “naughty” pic , but i dont want it and i dont want to hurt his ego or let him embarrass me or himself, how do i decline politely (keeping in mind that i want to continue engaging with him)??

    see you in SF soon, dont get burnt out before you get to us!
    also, i bought three books and told my friends but dont worry to hard about wether or not you win 1 st place on the best sellers list- just know you are helping me and so many other girls feel whole about ourselves and you doing this by being a great guy speaking and from the heart and thats all that matters

    • Andrea says:

      Novalee, if you don’t want let a guy embarrass you, then don’t send him such pictures. It is his problem, if his ego gets hurt, but my standard would be that I do not give out such pictures. If you google on relationship forums, you will find so many postings of women saying something like “I had sent my ex boy friend a nude picture of me and now he posted it on….(whatever in the internet), and my colleagues at work can see the photo. I never thought he could go that far.”

      Now you say you still want to see him. First wait and see how he reacts when you tell him that his is not your standard. Maybe you then do not want to see him anymore.

      (P.S. English is not my mother tongue, but my assumption is that naughty here means at least partly nude.)

  24. Shayla says:

    I had just got the book … such an awesome read :-)

  25. Ivana says:

    I was thinking about this, and realised that I don’t want to wait, but somehow I’m still doing that, waiting and rejecting.I will try to get what I choose, to practise..

    Thanks. ;)

  26. Whitney says:

    Hello Matt,
    First i would like to praise you. You are truly amazing and i get the feeling that i found you for a purpose and that you will truly help me. I am extremely excited about going down this path with you to find love and the right guy for me. My question is i am a student and i do not have enough expenses to attend one of your live events. So would you recommend that i buy the book or buy the Man Myth video package for 29.95? Are they pretty much the same thing?

  27. Ivana says:

    I was thinking about this, and realised that I don’t want to wait..but I’m still doing that, waiting and rejecting. I will try to get what I want, to practise..

    Thanks. ;)

  28. Jade says:

    I don’t know what city Matt thinks we live in, but Toronto is full of selfish jerks who would not pick up a thing for a woman. I think you sometimes over-positivize (new word) reality.

  29. Angelica says:

    Gosh, it’s insane how much better you’ve become. You’ve always been good, but now you’re a pure genius at talking. I’ve been very impressed by the latest videos, I wasn’t going to buy the book but I think I might have to.

  30. Victoria says:

    You will not believe it, but I really use this small thing with dropping something, usually it is my business card. Then the guy comes with “mam, you dropped it” and I usually reply “I didn’t, I left it for your attention”. :DDDD

    I do it rarely , because in the middle east it is a bit different story. Our guys, especially locals are very proactive, and it becomes disturbing sometimes.

  31. YuetChing says:

    Haha..this video of yours is so funny…can’t wait to check out the other videos when I get your book….you already have 323 comments on your amazon book page! =D Good job!~~~

  32. G says:

    this is so true, do not wait….take action!! you will meet more guys and sift through more quickly the guys not for you :))

  33. Jennifer says:

    Have to say that, of all the coaches I’ve heard on the subject of relationships, and in the self-help area in general… you are the most straightforward, intelligent, witty, honest, charismatic, sincere, humorous, uplifting, and inspiring one.

    Keep up the great work :)

  34. Chris says:

    I love the respect and admiration Matt has for women. We’re not the enemy or something to be conquered. He gets that. And I love the dress comment.

  35. Rumors says:

    When are you coming to Spain???? :(

  36. Madeleine says:

    Hi Matt!
    I have to say that I admire you so so much. I could easily write a book about you. Do you know that we can buy your book in Sweden as well? We can, I bought two copies for myself, because I know I will read them over and over again. You are a great lecturer! Be sure that I know what I`m talking about, having been a teacher for 30 years myself. And your knowledge of the human mind is awsome. You can easily make women listen to you.
    And then of course, you look great.I wish I were young.
    Very Good Luck to you – I hope you will have a great future.

  37. Synthia says:

    I used to be that girl who would sit around and wait for prince charming to come along. But through your blogs & videos, its become extremely apparent that I’ve needed to change my techniques. And I’m not sure what’s happened but I seem to be meeting great single guys left, right & centre. They are out there, everywhere in fact! So Matt, a massive THANK YOU to you & your team for all the hard work!! :-)

  38. rakia says:

    Ur amazing you really know what you talkin’ about. Good Job
    plus ur Funny! weird didn’t know that before :/

  39. Wave says:

    You are very clever sir, cleaver and teasing! Good thing I’m in the Man Myth Programme! ;)

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