Who Should Pay On A Date? (Today Show)
This is one of my favourites Today Show episodes to date (you’ll see why when you watch it). There are a few hilarious moments with E.Jene to look forward to. Enjoy!
From the video…
–What should you do when you see and want to address issues in your marriage, when your spouse thinks everything’s fine – meanwhile the whole situation is making you miserable?
For me, the tone of this question says it all. When someone says “I’m miserable” and the guy doesn’t know it, it suggests more than just a problem in the relationship; it’s an indication of a woman who is too afraid to confront problems in her life head-on.
Even if I gave something that would demonstrate confidence for her to say, when the guy then does what men inevitably do (try to make women feel crazy and irrational), she’ll be too weak to be able so stand up for what she wants.
The reason someone doesn’t confront something is because they’re afraid of loss.
Someone in this situation has to figure out her relationship with herself before she goes and confronts her guy, and that involves getting to place where she can say, “I’m not going to have my self esteem tied to losing this man.”
If you can say it’s more detrimental to be in a relationship of pain than it is to be alone, now you’re going to be coming from a place where you can on to get the things you want.
–Is it okay to date your ex’s best friend?
If he’s the love of your life, go for it. If this is a whim because you’re lonely or in pain, or worse, trying to get back at the guy, don’t do it.
God forbid you’re on the receiving end of that one day.
–Is it appropriate to expect your date to pay for most or all of your nights out together? Or at what point in the dating process should I begin reaching for the cheque to share some of the responsibilities?
A man should pay, but a lady shouldn’t expect it.
It’s tough for women in the position they’re in today to want equality in every area aside from paying for things in a relationship. It puts out a very confused message.
While many men will still want to pay, don’t show that you expect it – even while letting him.
If you want to contribute, do so.
If the guy insists on paying for everything, you have the choice to let him. This isn’t make or break – it’s the expectation that he always will pay that ruins relationships.