There’s a myth about confidence that it’s something you can just magically think yourself into.
But there are also ways to boost your confidence and get started right now, without any therapy, books, or spiritual mantras.
Use this strategy, and you’ll begin to feel like you can move mountains…
Let’s Transform Your Confidence Together.
There isn’t one key to being confident.
There are several, but one of the keys to being confident is to do difficult things in your day.
To do challenging things, because every time we do a difficult thing that’s a proactive measure we can take, that is completely within our control.
It’s not something we have to think our way into.
It’s just the act of doing something difficult. Sends a message to our brain that we can do something that’s hard.
That we don’t have to listen to that resistance that says, don’t do this.
We don’t have to give in to that message our brain is telling us, that this is going to be too painful, we should back away from this, because every time we back away…
That sends a message to our brain too.
That when things are difficult we’re not big enough.
We’re not bigger than the discomfort that we’re facing.
In the phases of my life where I’m really on my game, I go to the gym, but doing that one difficult thing…
Going to the gym, and experiencing that pain, that discomfort…
At the end of that hour two things are true.
One. I’m proud of myself, and being proud of ourselves is massive for confidence, because now I’m not looking for external validation that I’m okay today.
That I did a good job, or that I look great, or someone thinks I’m handsome, or any of that. I’m not looking for that validation.
If I do something difficult in my day I feel proud of me.
I don’t need it from the outside in that moment, or it might be more accurate to say, I need it a lot less from the outside, and the more of those things that I do that I’m proud of the less and less I need that validation from anyone else, but it’s almost like dominos to me.
It’s like you knock down the first domino.
The first difficult thing, and even if that’s not as big as some of the more difficult things in your life you have to tackle.
That first domino knocks down the next one, and that knocks down another one, and each one makes you more proud of yourself, and feel more empowered, and more able to go and do the next thing, and that’s where momentum comes from.
Momentum isn’t something that you wake up, and you have in your day.
Momentum is something that you gain by knocking down that first domino.
When we wake up…
It’s not about suddenly having momentum or courage.
Do the thing you’re scared of first, then you get the courage, then you get the confidence, then you get the momentum.
Confidence, courage, momentum is a reward for doing shit.
Twice a year I run a live retreat, and on that retreat I spend six days getting people to do the difficult, uncomfortable things that they’ve been neglecting in their lives, because just doing those things…
Having an intensive six days of doing difficult things kick starts everything in their life, but it’s not just because of the difficult things they do on the retreat, it’s because the retreat itself is a process that they take home with them that gets them to stick to the promises they’ve made to themselves, ’cause that’s the ultimate goal.
It’s not to do one day of difficult things.
The ultimate goal is, how do I get myself everyday to be wired to do the things that I need to do for my life that are gonna take me forward?
One of my favorite phrases is, if you want an easy life, do hard things today.
If you want a hard life, do easy things today.
And what the retreat does is it shows people how to do the hard things today that create an easy life tomorrow.
If you know that your life isn’t where you want it to be right now, and that you need to start developing your relationship with discomfort, with difficult things, and taking a new path in your life that’s gonna get you there.
Come join me on the live retreat, and if you can’t do the live retreat, and for whatever logistical reason you have to be at home.
I have an at home study version where you can go through the entire process from home too.
All you need to do to apply for the retreat is go to, MatthewHusseyRetreat.com.
Check it out, and see what it can do for your life.
Let’s start doing difficult things together.
That’s why you’re here.
That’s why you watch these videos.
It can’t be to just get your fix once a week, and have five minutes of inspiration.
… Then we’re failing if we’re doing that.
It has to be more than that.
This has to be a journey we’re proactively going on together.
Not one where we just sit around, and talk, or muse on ideas.
Let’s start doing difficult things together.
Go to, MatthewHusseyRetreat.com begin the process, and I will see you there.
18 Replies to “Why It’s WORTH IT to Do Hard S#!T”
HOW DID YOU KNOW I’VE BEEN BINGING GREY’S ANATOMY MATT omg wizardry
Thank you so much for this message I hope my love life will change & will become a happy relationship,I real feel motivated after listening this message, thank you so much I hope God soon will make things be good
I’ve just experienced this in my life. You’re spot on When you do the hard things first, the rest of your day gets so easy. If you put them off, they build up until life seems so hard just to get up in the morning from the weight of all the hard stuff that’s waiting for you.
Very cool 5 minute video that makes such a valid point! Now I will make it my agenda to do something hard and challenging every day. I’m pretty sure I do most of the time, but it’s great to be reminded. You’re right also how it can change one’s outlook for an hour, a day, and then a lifetime.
I need this!!!
You can do anything long you made up your mind it maybe hard to do it long you start the process and believe it or not everything has end and god with you always hold on to that faith and trust yourself you be that person again never gave up
You spoke to me at just the right time This has nothing to do with my love life! Im 3 months into a dream job, but I have had some not so glowing feedback from my manager. I’m facing a hard talk with him this week – but I want to succeed in this role. It’s going to be “hard shit” but I need to believe in my abilities – and accept some criticism to get where I need to be. Thank you, Matthew for your sage advice
U re such a nice man.. Thanks for your write ups.. I love them
Hi Matthew. I absolutely love your video’s. You are a great life guru. But please change the name of your website ‘howtocatchtheguy’. It’s not a helpful title. Almost goes against your messages and not everyone wants a guy. Some people may want to be with their same sex. I’m heterosexual and it still makes me feel uncomfortable. Howtocatchyourself is the message I get from your videos. Catching a guy is a message that we are not good enough at the moment if we don’t succeed. Today’s message is really good. Getting up and feeling proud of yourself is the key to keeping going. Being single for a while is a good thing as well! Especially after a traumatic break up. Looking forward to your next video x
To learn and grown
Deserving of happiness
To fine a man who falls head over heels for me
U r right on the mark when u say do the hard shit 1st, channel that energy when u r hurt to do something that will bring u up – Matt I have tried and done them too , but there is a point in life when u fell in love again and was not only got severd but broken into million pieces that u can’t even put yourself together anymore- just too damaged and exhausted – it’s fine to work on ur self and ur confidence but as a social creature we want to be loved. And what if u consistently fail in that part of life ? Would u not think that its u and blame yourself as to why u can’t find love like some do ??
I did the home study course and my life has taken off. I’ve written two books in 6 months and one maybe made into a film. And I’ve seen through a man who has been trying to control me with hypnosis since I was 3. I’m 51 now. Matthew Hussey, thank you with all my heart for your words of refined wisdom, they stick in the head at the toughest of junctions and light the way that’s right for me.
I would recommend the home study course to ANYONE.
Wow, Matthew, get out of my head! The woman avoiding what she’s supposed to be doing by using too much Facebook and Netflix is SO me. There are several things I’ve been wanting to do for years that I’ve never truly dived into because it’s just so easy not to. The couch is comfy and the Doritos are cheesy, as Mark Manson said in an article he wrote. I’m never going to get where I want to be if I don’t just suck it up and do it, already!
Wow this is the wonderful information I’ve ever had. Thanks for giving us a valuable information sir I’m glad now.
Thank you Matthew. Really needed this kick up the backside.
Great advice…Thanks for that Matthew!
I enjoyed this so much. It’s a confirmation of my daily actions without a name. One question, when do you know to stop doing the hard things
I never pray for an easier life just strength and wisdom. But I need my life to flow…
I love this video! It’s so true — confidence comes from doing the hard thing, not the easy thing. Once we overcome challenges, we feel better about ourselves. We even view the hard thing as not all that hard afterwards too. It’s often our fear of failure that makes some things seem hard, though that’s not say everything we face is easy.
Perfect timing too – I found this video in my inbox yesterday and mentioned it on my blog. Push through and do the hard thing! It’ll pay off.
Thank you, Matthew, for always offering such great advice!
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