Don’t you wish you cared a little less about what other people think?
I often say in my events and seminars that ‘99% of people live their lives determined by the thoughts of strangers’, and for this week’s video I’ve done something a bit different…
I take you behind the curtain of mine and Jameson’s strategy for these weekly videos, I share a lesson on how to stand strong behind your opinions, and we give a practical takeaway to stop caring about what other people think immediately.
Don’t be afraid to innovate. Don’t be confined to one thing. Give yourself the space to manoeuvre, and try different things within your personality.
Challenge: Next time you go out, can you go the entire time without getting into the subject of your work? (or whatever it might be you usually latch onto in conversation)
Take a risk and challenge yourself by testing the limits of your own charisma and confidence.
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If you like this kind of “irrelevant sh*t” – not explicit love life advice – let me know in the comments below! I’d love to hear what you made of this one, and how it helps you push the bounds of your personality.
Matt, I have only grown to like you more as your videos have become more opinionated (mostly because I agree with all your opinions!), and I like nothing more than a Hussey rant! In fact, I think like your non-dating videos more, because they are so specific yet universal and are always a balm to my own value system, which frequently feels battered and bruised by the world in general.
It’s true that though I think Kanye West is mad, I do have an appreciation for anybody who cares so little what people think, much like when I see someone walking in the street and just singing aloud – I envy that level of liberation.
Please keep doing what you do Matthew, you are an oasis of kindness, wisdom and inspiration in an often nonsensical, frustrating world.
Great video… but the last lines, the Kanye West thing, really more than classic :D :P
I’ve been a massive sting since i was 14 and I’m now 40- he a total inspiration of a person who stays true to himself – very gutsy. And i shall listen to him more to be more myself.. happy true days..!
Matthew Hussey I just have to come out and say it,you are absolutely brilliant! I LOVE the way your mind works ,you are one hell of a man and I admire your confidence and intelligence and your ability to push boundaries .You certainly bring other people well good reasons to live life to the fullest and the most extraordinarily ,yes you do have to respect Kanye a little bit,there is something about him that you can’t help but admire a little beyond all that madness :)
Hiya Matt…
It’s magnificent to see bloopers and seeing you laugh at yourself while filming! That speaks as much volume as your main point and I love it when people do that.
It feels as though I could just walk in, take my shoes off, and have a laugh with you over tea. The best thing is empassioned opinions in a conversation, whether you agree or not, an animated conversation is the most memorable.
Alas, though, I am left with a burning question. Would you perhaps allow me to violate your right butt cheek? I DO think I am pretty good with a sharpie. Just ask my Mom!! ;) LMAO
LAHUVE THIS.
A new way to teach me growth skills.
Also loved the “grafetti rant”. It showed your love of learning. You find a lesson in even the most obscure.
totally agree with you Matt
Nuff Respec, Matt… Spot-on and fun to watch as ever so innovations encouraged.. and maybe a little cameo from Jameson some day? ;-)
Just to let you know, I love your impact on me ;)
loved that graffiti video! people took notice as i had it up on my page… same with the not gossiping one Matt! BRILLIANCE!!!
I don’t know anything about Kanye West except his marriage to Kim, and frankly I don’t care – I have no interest in him; however, I LOVE listening to you, Matt, and I agree 100% with the bottom line point of your video. It doesn’t matter who you choose, someone will always disagree or disapprove, and isn’t that the whole point? Who cares? We all have a right to express ourselves for who we are, and if people don’t like it, so what?
I love ALL your videos, and I agree with what you said about the graffiti. I’m impressed, actually, that a man your age (younger than me) has such solid, meaningful values.
Keep it up, Matt – everything you do! You’re doing just fine, no matter what any critics may say.
vandalized my A$$. You’re sooo funny.
Matt :) What you conveyed in today’s video is epically brilliant! I actually admire people who dare to challenge themselves by looking at various angles they can show themselves and then if that change can serve or help somebody else in turn, that is even better!
You are an inspiring human being indeed, Matt!
So grateful for your work.
I am a huge fan of yours Matt!! I can’t help but appreciate this video and how you always share such valuable information to help better the many different aspects of life.
You are very Gorgeous and Entertaining too I might add :)
This is so valuable. I feel there are so many concepts that are extraneous to the subject of finding love (such as believing in yourself, having courage…figuring out how to use your energy vs. bad uses of energy, laughing at the world, etc.) that without them, a much more well-rounded, comprehensive and valuable lesson in attaining quality relationships and better love lives would be lost! I trust your knowledge, experience and professionalism, Matt ~ that’s why I’m here in the first place. P.S. Thanks for your generosity in throwing out confessions and lessons you’ve learned in your own life to share with others who can use them in their own lives…xo
Favorite video thus far! I sometimes get hung up on the idea of trying to establish a single ‘high value’ self–multifaceted, the way both you and Stephen encourage your audience to demonstrate–but still a single, fixed, go-to self to aspire to, as though that identity is something that can be achieved and finalized. I think this is a really crucial complement to everything that is already so powerful about the high value woman framework, because it accommodates both self-acceptance and growth & change. Nice work.
I love all your videos, Matt. The advice/tips are always so simple, but yet profound because you express/explain it well in a way that make sense. A lot of it is common sense but we tend to forget. Your videos are great reminders for people to better themselves. Not only are your videos informative, helpful but also very entertaining :)
Dear Matthew,
I have a question, how do you keep your daily motivation at the optimum level? I understand that some of the comments from others (previous video) hurt you somehow- before you injected the strength back in you. I am curious how do you keeps yourself motivated? Thanks for sharing Matthew, I know now that you don’t give a crap much about what others think of you as long as you know that you are doing your thing right. :) have a good day.
Matt, I can’t believe you read my comment in your video! Regardless of your criticism of my multiple elliptical periods (really?) I feel like my point was taken. That is: this video, although not directly about “Getting/Keeping the Guy”, it is indirectly related. So, you let the pendulum swing back a bit. Thank you.
Love it! I appreciate you and your work because you press beyond love life and relationships and speak to the whole of an individual. If we only focus on that one part of ourselves, we miss the bigger picture.