This might get me in trouble… But there’s something today I have to tell you.
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Will You Ever Find ‘The One’?
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Love at first sight is real. I’ve experienced it when I first met my cat (she passed away a month ago). Haven’t experienced it with a human yet
(Spoilers alert) There’s a French film called Delicacy that I love in which she meets her ‘Soul Mate’ but he tragically dies and she’s grief stricken for years as she’s lost ‘the one’ but eventually she meets a very unlikely companion (Slightly clichéd completely different people, he’s a bit odd, etc) anyway she falls in love again. The thing I love is on the DVD box it basically says (along the lines of) if you open your heart, there’s always room for one more.
“If you open your heart, there’s always room for one more.” That’s perfect. Thank you for sharing that thought.
Dear Matt,
Thank you for your honesty. This video is most helpful. I feel like It is so hard to get out of this mindset of ‘the one’. I guess its also good to look at myself and remember I’m not perfect. Thank you, I needed this.
charise
matt i have to say that you are truly amazing . and today you realy touched my heart and mind , and awakening me from my fulse thoughts and behavior. thank you for being honest true , real and more affective for my life and my love life as well. i thank god for you
Hey Matt!! this is going to seem crazy at first, but I’m going to throw it out there anyway. I totally agree in your statistics and everything you just said. However, I don’t necessarily believe that, in speaking for myself and my friends, that we believe there is only one person out there in the world perfect for us. When I say, ‘the one’, I am just always referencing that one guy who’s going to make us want to be a better person, and someone who we can trust and who is respectful and kind and Hui, hopefully, have great chemistry with. Sure, that in itself is rare, that I have found that personally with one out of every 20 guys. I know those odds aren’t great even, but there a lot better than one in 1,000,000,000. So, I’m only speaking for myself, but I’ve never put too much pressure on meeting at that one person only on meeting someone that meets my value systems and has the crap that I can put up with. Lol! Thank you for all you do I know that you have brought so many great inspiration to my life, and I’m grateful for you.
Yes thats very true you have to build a relationship you can’t just find it
For the sake of change in my comments: is that a ring you’re wearing on your right hand??
great video as usual, and great to know that you’re part of that small percentage of people who actually make good use of their brain and reasoning!
xxx
R
Hi Matt and GTG Team,
Matt , you are on FIRE! Love the passion. I have watched your growth and confidence ( and muscles ) grow since you started and am continually impressed by your progress. BTW you look more handsome every video…he he…
Your biggest Hussey fan,
Della Chow
Vancouver, BC Canada
Or… what happens when “The One” dies or has a serious head injury and becomes a different person as a result of the injury. The hard part is learning to walk away from a significant investment when “The One” simply no longer lives up to the standards they once met.
Thanks for being honest!
Matt, I think you are beeing simplistic. I don´t believe in “the one person” but I am not close to the idea that it may be for real.
I think in this world, as you say, there are a huge amount of persons. What if for some of them there is just one person in this world? What if some people have more soul mates? What if some people work just as you say? Or what if some people, just don´t have none? In the life, sometimes, it happens in all this ways so…Why deny them? I think that you are too sure on this topic when it is not something to know for sure. To have a soul mate doesn´t have to mean that there is not work to do. I don´t know why for you is incompatible. And I have had a first-sigth love and it didn´t mean that it was my true and only love. It know that for the people that haven´t experience it, it sounds crazy (I, myself, didn´t believe in that before it happened to me) but it happens.
In this particular topic I think the wiser attitude is to be like Socrates and to admit that we only know that we know nothing. And that´s good. We don´t have to know everything to be happy.
Matt, i agree with everything you said on this video!
i believe some one becomes the one by how much they they invest in us!Just love you Matt!!!
Love Matt!
Congrats, Matt! This is your best video message ever, in my opinion.
Yes, when we love we work to have things right.
Regards from Brazil!
Mattew, as always, thank you for this… I am glad I found somebody talking about this in a very sincere way… that help a lot to break up a wrong concept that is ruining love lives… I am so glad I had found your advice.
Love to you,
Marisa
Hi Matt!
I love seeing how passionate you are about this subject. Although I don’t agree completely with the entire argument, I do find parts that resonate with me in this particular moment of my life. It is not that’s right or wrong to believe in the idea of “the one”, but it is about understanding that people are in different journeys finding their own truth and what works for them. I like the fact that you bring an “opposing” argument to many of our romantic beliefs so we can expand them and construct our own truth.
Thank you for your awesome videos and for helping me in my own journey.
Besos
“If you want to go fast go alone.
if you want to go far go together”
– i just read this some were, maby you said it.. ore.. i dont know..
But you are right, the fact is that there is no ONE special fore me.. There are many special guys fore me.. because, every time i meet some one new, i think i hit the jackpot..!
And the thought of only ONE special guy is depressing.. Because that quest already seams impossible ..:)
– im still hoping to find some one special. Its hard work, and im trying…
/ Line – Denmark
Matt, I’ve very recently and by accident discovered these videos of yours in a period when I had this feeling that I’m such a rare proactive bird in relations… But after I found your videos I feel I am such an idiot.
You touched my heart, my mind and changed my vision! I felt like sharing these all over the world but an immediate fear arose: guys should not know that I know!!! This knowledge I get from you needs to be my sleeve ace. :) And I also saw you have a ridiculously small number of Facebook shares and likes, compared to the mass exposure you have. So we all fear our secret – which is you – not to be revealed….
I applied a few little pieces of advice I saw in some videos of yours, adapted them to my environment, and I have 4 guys calling! My luck that all 4 are being delicious and having qualities I really like!
You are just so simply extraordinary, great, persuasive, your advice so exciting, powerful and practical. I teach my employees to teach other employees to be proactive, but you have a top proactive attitude!
If I am at this chapter of praising you to the skies, and because I believe I will probably never meet you in person in this life – I’m Transylvanian (a corner of my mind says that if I ever do, I will hug you tight for a whole day) – let me do it right, although you already know you are all of these: most of all courageous, original, getting more knowledgeable in this field of knowing women’s heart and minds through hard work – nobody can get this kind of info unless they study like crazy and is highly attentive to both women and men behavior.
Active, positive and highly consistent. If you were to leave on a long journey tomorrow, you are sure to have left a consistent legacy behind.
I loved this video above and adored died for this another video http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/blog/games-in-relationships/ where, besides the info, you said you are a lovely house animal when eating pizza. It just made my day. So you are honest too.
Insightful and seem to be a good mediator too. Has a couple ever fought in front of you? Although one would not directly perceive this, you are modest too. Not that modesty we sometimes see and rarely appreciate, but that one that comes from another type of inner wisdom.
Sense of humor? A bit, too.
Sporty? Damn it, I’ll give a picture of yours to my the next guy I will finally settle for a while, to set him some standards.
You have so many qualities that I feel like going and taking some psychotherapy. And you are telling me there is nobody who is called THE ONE. You should have found out until now that a good person IS THE ONE and the right match for everybody! So spare me please, your power of understanding gives you a big potential of being the one for a huge number of pieces of women!
I would love to continue but I need to leave the rest for some other time.
Now you know what your qualities are :)
So the next journey at your disposal, as Eckhart Tolle and Gangaji says, is to practice and find who you are beyond these qualities :)
So, in the name of our Mother Feminine Principle , we, European Women who watch you, praise God for your existence!
Well said, Matthew – we have opportunities to find a wonderful person that we could see ourselves with through thick and thin
:) u are not a cinic…you are really clever and pratical…but….. i have met the one….so when are we meeting? LOL! ^_^ Joking…love this video because u are so passionate…and it makes senses, people cant just sit and wait…we have to search and then make it work with someone who have the same goals and standarts …in life, nothing is easy…! :)
The idea of “the One” and other forms of magical thinking are the most paralyzing, damaging forces at work in the world. “It will all work out. Just wait and see” leads not only to horrible personal and life choices, but also wide-reaching policy decisions. Thanks for calling it out as B.S.
“Do not let the [nonexistent] ‘perfect’ be the enemy of the good.”