This might get me in trouble… But there’s something today I have to tell you.
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Will You Ever Find ‘The One’?
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Hi Matthew, I have been following you for about 2 years now. I even attended your seminar in Dallas last year. And this is one of the things that struck a huge cord for me. NO ONE IS THE ONE, SOMEONE BECOMES THE ONE! Blew my mind. So many women AND men need to hear this. Relationships take work, but I like how you also mention here in the video that someone isn’t the ONE if they aren’t meeting your standards too. Because that’s important. This is such a great and important message. Thank you for sharing it! Looking forward to seeing you again in Dallas!
Love and Thank you!
Bailey
another amazing insight, seems so obvious but never looked at it this way before, thanks matt x
Hello Matthew,
Give yourself a little bit more credit…You are right!
Nobody is perfect, men or women, and as a girl I want to find a man, who is perfect in my eyes with his flaws and imperfections, which I have those imperfections or quirks as well..: ) And that makes us so unique to another person…
The question is though, how do we know, when a man is worth ‘fighting’ for…? When all our criteria on our imaginary list of characteristics and desires in a man is met? Or when we can see that both want the same things in life and from each other, which is the foundation to build on…?!
I love this! I have always thought this and everyone would think I was crazy and cynical when I would say things like that. The idea of “The One” makes people put up with so much that they shouldn’t in relationships.
hey matthew,
I completely agree with you on that. but here we are talking so much about love but i feel like i don’t really know what that means. I was in a relationship for 5 years n i thought i was in love at the time , but it faded away n i felt nothing so i broke up . now im currently dating another guy but i have become cynical towards love. can u please make a video regarding this matter. it would mean a lot to me and you would answer a question that many people might have wondered about.
i hope you see this!
big fan xoxo
Hey Matt,
I love your energy, advice and work, but this was the first video which I did not quite agree with.
In my short analysis of your message I came to the conclusion that the ONE does exist, but the 100% perfect relationship does not exist.
What do you think guys?
What about the concept “Mr Right Now”. Its sort of taking “the one” concept and putting it in this sex and the city, single lady world. We are all looking for the right person. You, me everyone, that is ; the right person for us. “The one”. Not like there is nobody else. But more that its the person we decided on. The one we want to hang around with for a longer period of time. And these things you dont know at first sight. Or atleast , one should be careful not to let the mind wander off into a fantasy of what could be, when in reality one has no god damn clue about the future, let alone the shiny new person standing infront of you, looking dreamy.
I agree with you. Its best to have a sound foundation and build something up from scrath. Built to last, built to hold through the storms of life. “The one” isnt presented, its created as a concept of trust and devotion between two dedicated people in love with eachother.
Great video, Matt.
Hi Matt,
lol – in your face!
let us look at it in another perspective:
“the One” = qualities i’m looking for in a man vs mistakes i don’t want to repeat, qualities i want in a relationship, manners I don’t want to deal with vs. manners i prefere, deal breakers i’m fed off of, etc. –> the close to perfect man we would be happy with.
After a hand full of failers women and MEN tend do have a picture on how the opposite sex should look like and be like. I don’t think that’s wrong. It’s human.
I refuse to accept that women are so naiv to think that the perfect relationship is ready-made. They just have to wait and he will come to them. Ok, there are some women out there who sadly think that way but i don’t see anything wrong there, so long as they give every man a fair shot. If they didn’t that would be wrong because they may have fallen for other qualities than the ones listed in their heart.
as you said: there is no ready-made relationship but there could be this one person (with qualities) we could get old with and that person is in my opinion “the one”. And “the one” could live next door or be the person we great every day but haven’t spoken a word with, who knows.
Relationship is investment but it’s worth it for “the one” if we give every man a fair chance to become or be “the one”.
Take care! :)
AMEN, Matt.
I found this video completely different from the others you use to make. It was very intense and I was moved by your seriousness. And also it was sad at the same time because you didn’t smile until the end when you say good bye. This makes me think this subject seems to concern you, or it could be just my imagination. Well, I hope people finally understand the concept because it looks hard trying to work with such a rooted belief without hurting anyone’s feelings or just get tired and give up in the middle of the process
Thank you for this bite of reality.
Isa
PS: It’s good when you get serious, but it’s better when you give a good range of smiles
Spot on, Matthew! The better we know ourselves, the better we are at finding “the one” who complements us as individuals. Relationships require work to build something lasting after that initial spark. I think people get hooked on the initial feelings in a new relationship that make them feel special because someone is interested in them. We don’t think about the work and time required to build something deeper and lasting.Maybe some people intentionally serial date to get that special feeling without realizing they are hooked on it like a drug.
This may be my favorite post from you! You hit so many reasons why “the one” is not the way to limit my options. Yes, I want to find ONE person to share my life with – but that’s not the same thing.
I feel better equipped to do what’s need to find my ONE…though I know it won’t be easy.
I truly believe in what you have just said. I’ve changed my perspective from “the checklist” to what I don’t want in a man. This has opened me up to many more opportunities and in the process have met a wonderful guy. I don’t think the but “one” exists a real relationship takes work and arguments. We have core values in common and he’s definitely worth it every minute of every day.
Well for many of us single men looking and trying to find love is very difficult for many of us now, due to the real change in the women today since most women are just very unfriendly too meet unfortunately. That is why finding the one for us is very impossible today. Back in the old days finding love was very easy just like our family members had it, and today women are the very complete opposite from the past.