The Dating Game Has Changed. Here’s How YOU WIN

Since I started Get the Guy in 2008, the world of dating has been turned upside down. Back then, people were embarrassed to even admit they went for a drink with someone they met on the internet.

But now… women are told that they live in a “hookup culture.” They hear that everyone is flaky (and they have to accept it). They’re told to settle for the next acceptable guy that comes along.

If you don’t buy any of these myths (and you shouldn’t), watch this video to hear my crucial first step to master your dating life in 2017…

9 Texts No Man Can Resist

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  1. Francine says:

    I don’t think you ever have tackle the issue of older women in relationships with younger men (like 10 years younger). These women are in love and hope that their younger lover is not bothered by that fact. However, they worry about getting older and showing the unavoidable less attractive side of physical aging and how that in itself may prevent having a lasting relationship.Yet an older man can easily have a lasing relationship with a much younger woman.

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  3. Amanda says:

    So me and my boyfriend broke up. Because he cheated a while back and I was still looking at his stuff every once and a while. Though I had stopped completely over 4 months ago. ( I know not good on my part.) We decided to “be friends”. He says that he still loves me and likes me a lot and I’m the most beautiful woman he has met. He still loves hanging out with me. It has been 6 weeks and he showed no sign that he was “trying” like he said he was. Then all the sudden this past Sunday he changed. He gave me a kiss and told me that he wants to give us its full potential and wants to build back “slowly”. We can’t hold hands yet but we can kiss. I’m really confused. Is he just saying this because we are going to be apart for the summer and wants me to wait for him. Or does he actually want to give this a shot again. I don’t know what to thing and do.

  4. Amanda Alves says:

    Lately, it seem that way there so many options yet feel more like obstacle narrow down to the one.

  5. Angelina says:

    This awesome guy and I have amazing chemistry. He said I’m the whole package and he’s a nice guy, not a player. We text daily and We have had four dates once a week. Last week he said let’s get together again on Monday because once a week is too long and he misses my face. I know he’s only been single for 3 months and not 100% emotionally available yet but he said baby steps and he’ll get there. My issue is that twice after an amazing date he pulls away and doesn’t text me or answer my texts asking how he is. The first time he didn’t text for three days after our date and said he had the flu. This time he got sick after our dinner date from the food. He apologized the next morning and asked for a rain check for the next night we were suppose to hang out that he had set up. I guess I’m wondering why he isn’t texting me?

  6. sydney says:

    You advised on a podcast to a young college girl to enjoy sex. That pissed me off and that’s why I said you were impure or something like that. If I hurt your feelings, I’m sorry. My standards are high for college women.

  7. Nicola Kearns says:

    I recently had my first ever date from an online site. We got on well until he asked me over pizza (which I had to pay half for) if we were going to be having sex that night or not. I almost choked and replied ‘Not’. His reply was that I may as well realize that any guy meeting me from a dating site is going to expect sex on the first date.

  8. Nicola Kearns says:

    So good Matthew and so true.

  9. S says:

    Hi Matt,a bit off topic,can you give some practical advice on how to control fear of pepole and their reactions?
    Whenever I have to deal with dominant/powerful people, I literally disappear. How can I give them less focus?

  10. Haze Hose says:

    I agree with you Matt however, there is a scarcity of men in my country so being a high value would mean accepting the possibility that I will stay single. By the way, will there be a pdf version of your books?

  11. Sue says:

    Hi Stephen, I really enjoy your blog! Whilst in the bath today sipping a cracking cup of tea (yeah, I’m British), I had an idea for a future subject which I’d love to get to yourself & Matthew. I realise that’s going to be a challenge and hey, why should you trust some random girl to come up with anything decent? Let’s just say that I think Matthew is a ‘Unicorn Maker’ – hope you get the reference, please contact me if you’d like me to elaborate :)

  12. Sasha says:

    Becoming a higher maintenance? Thank you! I was told several times I was that and it sounded like a dirty word…!! And there is nothing wrong about having standards and expecting more from life then most! I’m an entrepreneur, the high achiever type BTW.. :)
    Giving myself permission being a high maintenance so I’m treated well is definitely something I needed.. Thank you!

  13. Linda says:

    I was in bar watching boxing and with my x he place arm around me and cuddling up watch tv. The bar was full of men. I bobed over the road to get the Chinese and missed the end of the fight. On the way home my x said he we were acting like we where in a relationship and we are not going to be. I was upset over this moment I just enjoying the attention. I watch the video and it made me think about my x and how I put up with his bad behaviors and I run after him or I jump to make myself with excitement and make time for him.

  14. Robin Middlebook says:

    Matthew, you are dead on right!

  15. Cindy says:

    Can you talk about “older” women. Notice I put older in quotes. Yes I’m older but young in my heart and head. Problem, I just got divorced after 36 years of marriage and being with him a total of 41 years. How in the heck do I even begin to date again or even find someone who would want a person in their fifties! You always have great advice for younger people but I bet there are tons of us “older” ones who would like to find a love again, and does it have to be someone olde?

    • Diane says:

      I’m with you Cindy. I became a widow after 30 years of marriage. I’ve been with for 37 years. We’re not 20 or 30, but we’re still alive. It’s like being dumped from one world into another.

    • Marilia says:

      Hey Cindy, if you follow more of Matt, you´ll see him saying that his advice is for women of any age and culture. I struggle myself thinking, “How about people in small towns?” But, then I guess it´s still the same advice. It starts with going out of your house more and starting conversations with anyone ;)

    • Deb says:

      Wow Cindy same for me married 37 years but together 44. Now two years single divorced. It is all new for me. You just have to get out there and experience dating to know what works for you. With everything think of it as learning experiences. Have fun have confidence but specially love and take care of yourself first. Deb

  16. Michele says:

    Awesome video Matthew! I absolutely agree with your sentiments! Thanks for sharing this post with us! Most women do settle for less.


  17. Rebecca Brockway says:

    Dear Matthew: Two of your recent ideas have rocked my world. “His reasons do not affect my reality” and “People become better around people who demand more.” Thank you, Matthew. You’re a game changer.

  18. Marta says:

    Yep! Follow The Rules! Be a Rules Girl, because “you are a creature unlike any other”.

  19. Miesha says:

    Yes!!! You’ve said it!

  20. Bay says:

    I almost cried. This observation was so powerful and validating and authentic. Would love to see more like this

  21. Cindy says:

    I like the message about keeping standards. I believe you are right as both men and women have optional and perceive there is more or the grass is greener. This is opposite of me. I like to find someone and work at keeping things good- I just don’t know when is enough verses be taken for granted.

    • Jgirl says:

      Fantastic point about patience vs. being taken for granted! In a previous video, MH said “respond to reality, not to (his) reasons/excuses.” Give low investment for the low investment you receive, but always give good energy.

  22. Войта says:

    “People become better around people who demand more”.
    Love this!

  23. Julie MacKenzie says:

    Absolutely! Maintain your standards! On point again Matthew! ;) <3

  24. Carolina says:

    Thanks for sharing. I Neededed to hear that today.

  25. A. says:

    I needed to hear that today!

    Also where is the rest of that talk? It’s a great pep talk!

  26. Louisa says:

    Love this…. always thought high maintenance was a bad thing though. This guy I have been seeing called me high maintenance once…. but he said it like it was a bad thing? Is there good and bad ways to be a high maintenance woman?

  27. Jennifer says:

    Great video! Good reminder to not compromise your standard just because the world feels impossible sometimes. Was feeling really down yesterday and started rewatching your impact series. Mood instantly lifted. Thanks for all you do!

  28. Domnica says:

    Off topic , Non contact period dilema ;))
    My ex was given away a 3 days trip for the Champions League fenally.Business class tickets , 5 star hotel and him.

    So he asked if I am free in the respective day..I have work but I did suggest he takes advantage of the opportunity (I know hes working really hard)however for me I won’t be able to make the arrangements .
    I hoped to drop it there
    ..but no .. his brother works for the same company and has the power to ammend my roster so he suggested I use him .
    I suggested in return to take his brother .
    He asked me again to try .
    It’s been 16 days in witch I did not initiate contact .
    Going would be a step back evan though I am 100%sure I am capable of enjoying the time with him without actually expecting nothing to come out of this situation.
    We used to take short trips all the time or just randomly spoil ourselves in a nice resort , in the same city ..haha yes , same city.
    It is tempting yes , specially having out team playing but at the same time invloves to much times spent together etc…
    So how do I decline without being dramatic and using resilience, strength , humility…can’t spin it around with my krav maga class or any other class I take …or having a dog haha , he’s weel aware all that can be arranged..well before , not at his point .

  29. Loren says:

    I need more of this haha. Online dating is so frustrating these days

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