Trying to get a guy to commit can seem like an almost impossible task for many women. The more you push, the more he resists, and so you’re left dumbstruck as what to do.
I remember back to a time when I was casually seeing a girl, but I had just got out of a long-term relationship and had no intentions whatsoever or being in a relationship with her (or anyone else for that matter).
But I must have seen her about 7 or 8 times, and it got to the point, in mind at least, where questions were starting to arise as to what we were doing together and what the situation was between us.
Being a naive, but caring guy, I decided to be upfront about it
I was so adamant that a relationship wasn’t the right thing for me, I felt the need to express this to her, even though I really liked her (I wanted to be single, but I didn’t want to lead her on).
Dropping her off outside her apartment after another night together, I told her everything on my mind; that I wanted to keep seeing her, that I really liked her, but that I couldn’t fully commit to another relationship right now.
I had played this over in my mind a thousand times before actually telling her, and every time I did, I expected her to be angry, upset and vexed.
But it turns out that this was the perfect opportunity for her to demonstrate how high-value a woman she was. After I’d finished, she turned to me and said, “I wasn’t asking you to marry me!” – immediately making me feel like a complete idiot for having put so much thought into what was essentially just a few casual dates.
Get A Guy To Commit By Using Emotions To Topple Logic
I really didn’t know how to react to this, and driving home I couldn’t get her off my mind. She didn’t care if we were in a relationship or not. She was so relaxed and unfazed with her response that it only made me want her more!
This attitude of hers, coupled with her busy schedule, left me rarely seeing her – making it very clear to me that if I wanted to be with her, I had to actually make a commitment.
She was the only thing on my mind for days, and now the more I’m thinking about her, the more I want to be her.
It doesn’t matter how much I can logically tell myself at this point that I don’t want to be in a relationship – I want to be with her. And it’s very, very hard to fight emotions with logic.
And so about a week later, we’re in a relationship – One which lasted several years
Now you might be thinking that for this article I’ve just decided to reminisce about an ex. But I use this example, even though things didn’t work out between us, as there are so many things to pick up on for women who want to get a guy to commit…
- Be patient with the early stages of a relationship
- Never pressure a guy into making a decision by giving him an ultimatum
- If a guy tells you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship – don’t react to it
- Make a guy realize that if he wants the best from you, he has to make a commitment
If right now you’re finding it hard getting a guy to commit, follow these four rule, and I assure you that he’ll be yours before you know it.
When it comes to getting a guy to commit, the more natural and congruent you are, the more you will ‘click’ with the guys that you’re seeing.
So now you know the basics of getting him to commit, it’s crucial you know what to do once you’re in a relationship…
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