The Future of Dating? (A Date In 2025)

My good friend and highly talented director Ryan Turner has made an incredible, multi-award-nominated short film that shows how you could be dating by 2025.

I hope you love it as much as I do…


►►  What do you LOVE or HATE about dating today? Leave a comment below…

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  1. Mimi says:

    What I love about dating is the exploration of learning each other.

  2. Mimi says:

    Awesome, I can so relate. I’m going on a real date Friday.

  3. Monde says:

    Dating in 2015 is so surreal, i love this.

    what I hate about dating currently is that people are so confused between old school dating and dating with the aide of technology, i think this mixture of two different times in life is spoiling everything.

    lets just keep it simple and straightforward, without showing off that you live in the technoligical era.

  4. Budsrp says:

    Shouldn’t talk about killing yourself but video was ok other than that Dating site dating don’t like the ackwardbess

  5. Gery says:

    Wow, thank you for sharing this film! I almost teared up near the end. Showing such an exacerbated version of isolation, really accentuates on today’s milder version.
    I love that there are still people who connect in the real world. And those that let their real world be consumed by the virtual one, well, at least I won’t have to waist my time with them.
    I hate when someone expects an instant answer to every single message, when they change/make plans last minute and are shocked when turned down, when they are glued to their phone and wouldn’t try to get to know the person in front of them. I find this hugely disrespectful, when it is a habit. Sometimes it happens, so I try to delay my judgement; yet in the long run this is 100% a deal breaker.
    As for isolation, aren’t we isolated already if we have to wage a war against someone’s phone for their attention?

  6. jane says:

    What I love about dating?
    I love meeting new people, and I especially love that my conversational skills and the range of interests I have – and my social anxiety under control in 1:1 situations – are such that I can always have a good time getting to know someone and giving them permission to be themselves, , even if there isn’t a spark. Now, finally with maturity and social skills, I also know to get out of it without fuss or lost time when I don’t feel comfortable or that I like them all that much. It’s rare that I feel like I wasted my time, though some encroach a bit by demanding it be longer than I want – but wasting time basically only happens when you end up going on too many dates with one person and it proves they’re just looking for something totally casual, or the chemistry doesn’t build. I’ve had a long history of giving people too much of a chance, now I make it a gracious but time-bound social exchange and I determine it’s worthy of pursuit, not circumstance and whim.

  7. Kayla says:

    That was so adorable! And depressing to think people would really isolate themselves to that point. It’s the fear and the unknown that keeps us alive. Things will not always work out the way you want, but the push through and survival in the end is power to build from.

  8. Diana says:

    Loved the video..The first meet is always the scariest. Fear of the unknown. Dating in today’s world is very different than when I was just out of high school. It was a lot easier meeting real live people oppose to meeting on online dating.

  9. Wanda says:

    Internet dating is a whole new arena for me, I really like your practical advice. I am mid fifties, I am meticulously honest in my profile, because I hate the idea of the disappointment in a man’s eyes when he sees me for the first time face to face. Why do men lie about their height, their weight, what is that?!!
    My big thankyou, most of all, your pep talks gave me the language to express why I will never sent explicit photos. “The internet is a soulless arena, and I will never put anything this valuable onto a soulless arena.” Now there are tears in my eyes as I recognize the quiet power in that statement. And it is working so far. My work keeps me in an isolated location, yes, this means I get to choose the timing of the meeting.
    I have engaged in a novel concept, its called a virtual date, it bridges the gap between where I am geographically and where the man is. And yes there are rules, and as much as possible the timing must mimic real life. We agree to virtually date on a set evening, I describe what I wear, he describes where he will virtually take me. (now its amazing how many men are foolish enough to think this gives them licence to virtually tear clothing off my body the moment I am virtually in front of them. You can imagine this sends them home virtually empty handed, they didn’t read the fine print.
    Each time something goes amiss I learn more about setting the guidelines. The second virtual date, is where we swap, he describes my outfit, and I describe the location. So, I loved the 2025 dating film.
    Dating men in their fifties is quite different to in their 20s and 30s, there is an understated desire to connect more to the person they meet, this is something I looked for 30 years ago, this is really lovely to find now.

  10. Rachel says:

    Dick pics and general misogyny.

  11. Melanie says:

    What i hate about online dating is being stood up and lied to, its so hard to keep opening yourself up over and over desperatly thinking the next one will be different.

  12. yvonne reid says:

    I hope never!!!!!

  13. valerie says:

    what i dont like about dating is they say will texted you a lot but wont talk on the phone. when they say they want to meet you it is weeks . you say things like where you are and that they should come and they still dont ask you out. i say next . i then give up.

  14. Victoria says:

    It’s a cute short film!
    So what I hate about dating is mainly finding men that want to date but aren’t emotionally available, or not even really single, or just looking to have random casual sex.

    • valerie says:

      i agree. i meet a guy good looking and he ssaid he was single and only wanted sex. but then he said we had to be discreet about it. i then knew he was with someone.

  15. Dora says:

    I just watched this video with my 10 year old son who is a bit virtual-world addicted. It was a nice example to show to him how their future might look if we don’t try to keep ourselves in the off-line modus as well….
    A time-tracker is not a stupid idea anyway. :D
    thank you for that Matt!

  16. Vanessa says:

    First of all, thanks for sharing! It’s a lovely film.
    In my opinion, dating nowadays has the big disadvantage that people choose the comfort zone of online dating a lot. That means that they don’t push themselves into the learning zone of speaking to strangers, sending subtle flirting signs or learning how to make a guy come over. That is, I think an alarming situation – because frankly, it is a loss of basic social skills, which are also needed to maintain a relationship. I feel like the movie comes down to that.

  17. bettina says:

    interesting movie,congrats to ryan.
    love the playfulness of the dramatic “reality”.
    and that our inner conversation was made by an computer…..
    well,sometimes it would be nice ,to have somebody to kick ouer asses..:)
    but,lets hope,that we stay all close to ourselves and stay connected to other human beings.

  18. Maria Vongkorad says:

    Omg i love it. That is how i feel,alone and looking for my other hslf to connect.

  19. Sibel Ercan says:

    Well, let’s make a short analyze, guys! Firstly, this short movie is basicly very similar to Spike Jonze’s movie named Her (2013) that a writer dates with a digital, ghost woman whom is his advisor also. While you seem to affirm, it criticizes this kind of digitalization. Your movie has a happy end like a fairy tale and Hollywood style. So, I cannot say that this movie is very creative. BUT! I can definitely say that your style is very creative. When I think about the all parts of the video from the beginning, including Matthew’s speech, I claim that it is a postmodern video and has almost metafiction. And I haven’t seen this kind of fiction in the other coaches’ videos. If you go on walking on this way with more creativity, it is possible to rock all the dating videos! Push the borders! But also, remember, we are still in an another age. I assume this artificial intelligence won’t work like that, 7 years later. I hope it will never!..
    And as you asked, for me it is very difficult to find good sides of dating today. What I love about dating nowadays I might say, woman are more free to express their feeling than the past. But also, I hate uncertain situations, words, behaviours in my society. People started to forget giving a promise like dating on a clear day, being sure about loving someone, etc. Keeping someone in the pocket and playing is a big problem. We don’t need digital advisors. We need to be real. Nothing can be switched with a human being. So, you are more valuable than all programs and apps, Matthew!
    P.s. I hope Matthew will read this with the help of his team. Plus, Stephen’s own narratives are more original.
    Cheers! ⭐️

  20. Marcy says:

    I thought the video made relevant points about how things could be. I was very disturbed by the ending though when he vomited. That was completely disgusting and unnecessary. I’m sure they could have come up with a less disturbing way of showing his fear.

  21. Corinne says:

    Such a good film. Heartwarming and funny. But what’s scary is how close we really are to this being a reality … reminds me of the book Children of the New World.
    If dating and interpersonal relationships are this hard now, how much harder is it going to get in the future?
    I wish meeting people organically was easier, but especially in a place like NYC, it feels next to impossible!

  22. Tinder Openers says:

    Dating is part of life because as a human all people like that. That has many people feel open relationship because of my opinion dating is an improvement of life.

  23. Kimberly Kay says:

    I hate the fact that conversation is almost obsolete today. Everyone prefers sending messages instead of talking on the phone or in person. I miss connecting with someone by all the ways of communication both verbal, and none verbal.
    The next thing that makes me uncomfortable is: how to act on a date when I don’t drink, party, or do most of the things that others do everyday let alone on a date.

  24. Karina says:

    Hi Matthew, great little short,enjoyed it a lot.

    I hate how you can chat to people for a week or two on whatsapp after meeting on Tinder and kind of build them up in your head or have this unrealistic understanding of what they actually are like and then meeting them in person you can be totally devastated. I get emotionally invested into relationships and its hard for me to block it and stay neutral with a man. However I accept certain amount of heartache as norm for me, I guess I’m becoming more desensitised.

    I love the possibility of falling in love with a guy before meeting them and then once you met them feeling the same buzz and sparks as via messages. I had two love confessions over the whatsapp messaged, which I found very bizarre and meeting one guy I just did not feel the fireworks. Im seeing another one tonight, he flew in from LA to visit family in UK and we have been talking for a month now. Im so excited I can not tell you.

  25. Elppa says:

    This will likely happen in the future. Because of technology we forgot how to interact with people in the real world. I, myself have a hard to approach a person and start a conversation.

    I guess this is what we call a “reality check”

  26. Dalia Hernandez says:

    Things I LOVE about dating:
    -the in-person connection
    -the company!
    -the exciting and not so exciting things we go out and do on dates from going to the fair/ice skating, to watching movies while eating!

    Things I HATE about dating:
    -things go amazing in person but communication when we are apart is scarce maybe I would like to be connected to him more while I’m away from him? But I don’t know if that’s my flaw or not?
    -seems like a good portion of people in today’s society tend to lean towards temporary pleasures while I try to seek something more meaningful.
    -I haven’t found no one who is worthy of my love because I have high standards.
    -I want to find a guy who sees beyond temporary pleasures.

  27. Nikki says:

    Brilliant!!!!!!!!

  28. Fran L says:

    The anxiety is real when you first go to meet someone, that’s for sure.
    Most online introductions I’ve made don’t get to the date in person stage. We all judge by pictures and chats. How sad we forget we are all human.
    I laughed my ass off watching this.

  29. nagrom says:

    This was freaking awesome.

  30. Lana says:

    This saddens me deeply. If this is what we have to look forward to I don’t want to be there. I know its human nature to take the path of least resistance but if we don’t push ourselves and our fears they become all consuming.
    Perhaps there is a way we can overcome this fear of human connection…. like playing a game for instance. A way we can practice before actually getting out there. So that is isn’t so scary.

  31. Dawn says:

    Loved the film! It’s true that we are becoming more and more disconnected due to technology.

  32. Narges says:

    I HATE how it seems like men and women are blind and don’t even look at each other in public, its like others do not exist. When I am on public transport and outside, I observe people who are mostly trapped in their own little world with mobiles and Apps. Then they get home and feel lonely and start trying to find people again using APPS. Technology is meant to improve our lives, not taking over. We are meant to see each other, smile at each other, compliment each other and make friends/ girlfriend/boy friend which eventually leads to finding one’s partner.
    I LOVE when people have got the courage to approach each other and can make real connection.

  33. Erica says:

    What I hate about dating today is people feel like they have to follow a script. you can’t do this before so many days you can’t call when you want you can’t just live your life with somebody that’s right the way you choose.

  34. Sean says:

    Very entertaining, I really enjoy watching it. We are already seeing this in parts of Asia. Google Virtual Boyfriend for articles.

    As you are always reminding people, if both men and women do not maintain the strength to risk rejection, expect the same to happen here.

    FYI, do not expect your AI to be so virtuous. Instead of scolding him it will most likely recommend a selection of oils. Remember Amazon Alexa and all such devices are not about you, it is what they can sell you.

  35. Susan LaDuke says:

    This is a spot on accurate description of dating now. As a “mature” member of today’s dating scene, I find it depressing, chatting either via email or by phone, putting myself out there and yet rarely getting a commitment to a simple real date. Both men and women claim to want to meet someone special yet when the time comes, they don’t act. Another common scenario is ghosting. I have had this happen twice in the past year or so. After dating exclusively for several months,everything seemingly going well,suddenly contact dwindles and stops entirely without explanation.
    Honesty seems to be nonexistent from the beginning in many cases,disconnect on a human level,is huge. I have male friends who lie about their age, height and other “minor details,” as they call it. My feeling is if someone lies about those, then trust for other more important things is already at stake. It seems obvious they have no intention of meeting someone,and risk being exposed.
    It’s sad both genders can’t let their guard down and be genuinely real. Technology complicates everything- rather than commit to dating one person, the fear they might be missing out on someone better comes into play.
    Appreciate the share…and for the record;the pizza shake; more than a bit gross!

  36. Erica says:

    This made me cry. Because it is so easy to see it coming to this. I fear we are almost already there now. Connections are algorithms first. And to go out in a group, is to be met with eyes down on phones across a bar…not gazing to make eye contact. Very sad.

  37. Anya says:

    “Could This Be You in 7 Years?” I surely hope not! Looks awful. I definitely want to improve on speaking to random people in reality and not behind a screen.

  38. Diva says:

    This is a reflection of our future of dating to some form. We are hard to give and take in a relationship making it difficult to love someone with their faults and habits. This movie screams give life a chance.

  39. Sonia DiGennaro says:

    Very far fetched for 7 years from now, I believe anyway.

  40. Marcela Escovar says:

    It´s scary but almost true. For me is difficult to imagine the future, whereas dating right now is that hard. After following a lot of Mathew´s videos I have realized that women problem can be the way we think about ourselves, how we try to fit always, instead of being the best of us.

    A challenge for the director could be, show in a second line what is going on with her too – to show how similar are we, in this matter, instead of still showing that the guys are the ones who do the first step… what happens if she was the one who contacts him? Just ideas for the other side of the equation.

  41. Nicole says:

    Love the film, thanks for sharing!

    This is definitely beginning to happen now with all of the online dating sites where in my experience you talk to people and then never see them even if you make a first move and suggest doing something. I am newly single as I recently left a long term relationship and have not been on the ‘dating scene’ in over 14 years! It has been a complete culture shock – to answer your question, I do not like being single, I am in a much happier place on a personal level but I do miss having a companion. I find that more and more people are living with the mentality that it is more about hooking up and not having a true connection. I can only hope that there are more old school romantics out there and one day I will meet someone organically.

  42. Judy says:

    We seem to be becoming more and more isolated because of our technology. It’s hard to know who and what is real anymore,

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