Is The Internet Bad For Your Social Life?

Do you ever feel like you’re missing out on the best parts of life? That ‘connection’ isn’t what it used to be? Or that technology has created distance between you and people you were once close to?

In this week’s video we ask: Is The Internet Bad For Your Social Life? And discuss what can be done about it…

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  1. Mary Jones says:

    You are so hot in this video. I miss this hairstyle, I’m coming to see you next month in London. Would I be able to rush my fingers through your very sexy hair. Love you lots. XX
    PS. You’ve got me hooked on the Internet, I have to start looking for a new job so that I can afford to go on your retreat which looks AMAZING.

  2. MzSavage says:

    I could go 48 hours without the internet because I love taking to people, hearing a person laugh, and real life hugs.

  3. Kelly says:

    “I wish there were a way to communicate with people…” HA! Love it. Yeah it’s called a phone!!

    :)

  4. Emily Shepard says:

    I love your shirt :).

    Now I’m going outside.

  5. Jo says:

    Great video. I was surprised to discover how many of my friends, (and yes they’re real friends who live close, not random people on fb) that view my Facebook page. Surprised because in the past I’ve asked them if they’re up for going for a drink/ cinema etc but very few respond. They just want to view fb pages or send messages rather than you know, actually go out in the world. That seems endemic..when I commute to work on the train, it’s like everyone is terrified of social interaction. Very sad.. I’ve only just found your sites & find your insights & wisdom inspiring.

  6. Barbara says:

    Just came back from a 2 week (school) trip to Japan – no internet, I don’t even own an smartphone, no problem. It’s much more relaxing, actually.

    Some classmates were going crazy, though. And apparantly a former participant staying in the same guest family as I was playing around with her phone all day (like, you know, the people back home in school), which is rather ridiculous.

    So yeah, I can do without the internet for a while

  7. Michelle says:

    You are so right. I believe that people will eventually start feeling the void, and we will go back to being physically social again. Like most things, it will take on the pendulum effect. It goes from one extreme to the other and then balances out somewhere in the middle.

    Oh and did I mention that you’re gorgeous – because I mean to… lol.

  8. Dora says:

    Hi Matt,
    I was just curious what you thought of Tinder. Do you think it’s possible to meet someone of quality there or, is it basically as they say, just a hook-up place?

  9. Jacqueline says:

    Alarmingly, I’m watching my friends who are older like myself begin to text and e-mail on the phone. I am one of the few humans left on this planet that doesn’t text. The reason I don’t want my phone constantly beeping is to have calm and peace in my brain. An extra benefit is that these non-distractions allow me to ’embrace the moment.’ That doesn’t mean I’m not on my laptop at home as hours easily fly by watching everything Matthew has to say or Stephen has written, working with animal rights, finding songs to sing for karaoke, etc. Life is about balance. When I was younger, I remember my mother saying to me, “Don’t forget to smell the roses.” Since I’m older than most of the women here; I’d like to share with you to savor your time LOOKING at the roses. Time is something we never get back. (I had to change my name so it doesn’t show up on google.)

  10. Marina Casadei says:

    I can live pretty well with no internet!! Actually, I don’t even have internet on my mobile, by choice, and sometimes I spend more than two days without taking a quick look on facebook!!!
    I try as most as I can to use internet only to arrange meetings with my friends and I don’t like it when people start taking pictures (like in a restaurant) only in order to upload it on facebook – I hate it. It pisses me off!!!

    Thank you, Matt!!
    xxxx

  11. Jacinta says:

    Last summer I went on a pilgrimage in France, Spain, and Portugal, for seven weeks. I left my phone at home in the U.S. I found that it made it a lot easier to converse with my fellow pilgrims because I didn’t have something to hide behind if I was feeling shy.

    When I came home, I decided not to get internet access in my new house. I live out in the country, so my phone is super slow so I can read email and that is about it. Forget watching a you tube video. It’s great! Since I have to go into town and find a wifi hotspot if I want to connect, I now use the internet deliberately. No more browsing for hours, which means I have more time and more money for spending time with people face to face.

  12. Dita says:

    you are cute! :) thank you!

  13. Madusha says:

    Hi Matthew,

    Thanks for trying to help so many women around the world! It’s amazing that you have achieved so much at such a young age! I’m curious though…what are you like in your own relationship? Do you find that because you know about the psychology behind dating and relationships that you tend to overanalyse your partner’s behaviour? Or have you managed to balance it all? :)

  14. Susanne says:

    <3<3<3 Dear wonderful LOVELIFE hero Matthew Hussey <3<3<3

    May I say:
    I loooooooooooooove your life-event :)
    I believe it's one of the best events on this planet :)
    Your event is in my heart & I believe God knows if it's possible I'd be there in a heart beat & <3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3

    After all, I looooooooove heaven too & I wanna live forever :)
    I believe good-hearted people will live forever & God knows all the best possibilities :)<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3

    I've not been to so many places, but I looooooooove them :) How wonderful it is possible to looooooooove your live event & heaven :)

    Looking forward to everything that is possible :)

    • Susanne says:

      I looooooooove your live-event because I know I’ll see you and your beautiful team :) & we will have one of the best days of our lives :)
      I looooooooove heaven because I know I’ll be with God & live forever :)

      <3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3

      May everybody enjoy seing you and all your live events & hugs & kisses :))))))))))

      What a heart-touching topic again :)
      Fantastic Matthew Hussey :)

      • Susanne says:

        May God bless us that one day we will meet in person :) I believe we will :) Hope everybody here will meet you in person :)

  15. Lorine says:

    One day I just forgot my mobile at home!!! My office colleagues were shocked. I did feel weird about not having the phone but then I did get a lot of work done. Plus it was less stressful :)
    Someday I would love to meet you :)

  16. sapphire says:

    love this and so true x

  17. Mandy says:

    Hi Matthew,
    Your latest video said it all. I recently came back from a vacation in Mexico, and it’s amazing even in paradise people are on their devices. One day I was walking on the beach enjoying the most beautiful view, and within five minutes I found more than ten people on their devices. I think we have forgotten that the internet is just one form of communication, it’s not the ultimate tool. I will admit that I need the internet for my job to keep up with the latest, but I also make a commitment to keep the internet usage to a minimum. One of my standards is not being on a device while on a date or out with friends. That person has taken the time to spend time with me, not my device. I’m not saying the internet is poor way of communicating. It has allowed us to explore new interests, and it has helped us keep in touch with people around the world. When it comes down to it, we need to find balance. I would rather take time to talk to someone on the phone or meet them in person then sending an email or text. Nothing beats a conversation like hearing someone’s voice or seeing their spontaneous reaction to your comments. My longest without internet was two weeks when I was backpacking on Baffin Island in Nunavut, Canada.

    Thank you Matthew, keep up the great videos!

  18. Nicole says:

    Hi Matt!
    I really enjoyed this video. I don’t always get a chance to comment because I find it takes a lot of time BECAUSE I agree with you. While, I do feel very “naked” without having my phone with me or around me where I know I can get to it, I don’t always want to be on it or communicating through typing everything. Good news, I will be seeing you a couple of times this month :) SO I do have purpose when it comes to communicating with you via social media ha! With that also being said, I wanted to also I comment by saying I have definitely gotten away from texting and twitter. I do Facebook, but I have also gotten away from spending time on there as well. I like it for keeping in touch and updated with the people I don’t get to see every day, BUT I refuse to spend hours on it. So this is good news of course. I also find that if I do step away from my phone, it seems that is when everyone wants my attention and if I do not respond right away, these people will get frustrated with me. I actually did have a friend who proceeded to get in a little “fight” with me because I told her I was busy with school work and didn’t want the distraction, so I put my phone away where I couldn’t access it.
    I thought to myself, “of all the times I DO have my phone on me, I never hear from you, but then I have a legit reason for not answering and you get upset?” and this friend is not the only one that has done this. AND the biggest thing is IF it’s that important to talk to me, CALL me! No one calls they just text and text and don’t hear back and then get mad and give up. These are the same people that are upset when I don’t want to write my whole life story through texting when they want to know what is going on in my life. I offer to make a phone date soon(because they are out of state and I can’t just go out to lunch with them) and they find every reason to tell me they are too busy to talk on the phone. BUT yet you have time to text? I don’t understand it. I agree the social interaction has run away from society. Social media and internet is very convenient and I appreciate it in many ways because of that, but I also find it frustrating that too many people rely on it so much they are not comfortable without it. The same goes for when you are dating. I love getting a text from a guy I like, but if he never actually calls me to talk to me or better yet, asks me out so he can see me…then it is a huge turn off. Anyway, that is my rant.
    I will see you in L.A. next weekend!

  19. Jill says:

    When I went home for Christmas my sister told me one of her friends families has a bag that all phones go in when they have family get together. I really wish my family had done that I think majority of the time I was staring at everyone staring at their phones. With all that said I think it can hinder our social life greatly it’s so easy to misunderstand a message when you can’t at least hear the voice of who you are talking to.

  20. Jem says:

    I laughed when I saw this. I couldn’t have put it better that social networking sites are the fast food of communication. Nothing better or worse sometimes than real life interaction. It is far more challenging. It forces you to be real and in the moment. I was guilty of creating something I perhaps wasn’t when online. I could be more funny, more popular a leader. I’m not a natural leader by nature but could be more influential online. I know I’m not the only one guilty of this falseness. I had a break offline for a year. I came back to who I really was. The good and the not so good but above all the real. I find it’s not myself I need to convince of offline communication it’s other people. So many are so hooked.

  21. Susanne says:

    With all this said, I’d loooooooooooooooooove to come to your live-event :)

    Matt, can you make a video about “How to buy a ticket to your live-event?” :)

    I’d loooooooooooooooooove to buy it :)
    If I knew how to buy it, I could have been the first one who bought it :)

    Maybe I’m lucky this time :)
    Will you come to Germany too :)
    That would be so looooooooooooooooooooooooooovely :)♥♥♥♥♥

  22. fatemeh says:

    Matthew is right , I spent the weekend on a getaway witj my guy . Switched off my emails and internet and only read the texts from my family . It pretty much feels like you’re getting to know the actual person underneath all the appearance . I felt human , instead of being obsessed with the cyber world .

  23. Susanne says:

    :)If we are awesome here, how awesome are we in person :)
    :)If it’s heart-touching to be here, how heart-touching will it be to meet in person :)

    :)This is just the beginning :)
    :)I believe awesomeness is coming :)

    ♥♥♥♥♥ Get the Guy is coming ♥♥♥♥♥ FINALLY :)

    ♥&♥

    :)If Get the Guy is here I believe we are gonna communicate in the best way: With lovely hugs and kisses ♥&♥ everything beautiful :)
    Oh God knows what Matthew Hussey is gonna say to us with all his heart :) Looooooooooooooooooooooooove it :)

    After all, one of the best ways to communicate is to communicate with hugs ♥&♥ kisses :)

    Because if you hug or kiss a person with all heart: True LOVE is always the message :)

    If everybody would communicate in this way I believe we’d live in a looooooooooooooooooooooooving world :)
    Thank God we can communicate like this here :)
    Always loooooooooooooooooooooooooooove it :)

    If I could choose between writing words ♥&♥ hugs ♥&♥ kisses:
    I’d always choose hugs ♥&♥ kisses :)How about you :)

    With all my heart I thank you for this amaaaaaaaaaaaaazing topic Matthew Hussey :)
    Looooooooooooooooooooooooooooove it :)

    Always hugging and kissing if possible :)

    Susanne

    • Susanne says:

      With all this said, I’d loooooooooooooooooove to come to your live-event :)

      Matt, can you make a video about “How to buy a ticket to your live-event?” :)

      I’d loooooooooooooooooove to buy it :)
      If I knew how to buy it, I could have been the first one who bought it :)

      Maybe I’m lucky this time :)
      Will you come to Germany too :)
      That would be so looooooooooooooooooooooooooovely :)

  24. inez says:

    I love you Mat ..!

    Can you imagine i didn’t have www for 3 months!!
    it was like being on holiday! i enjoyed but so glad
    to have it back in my life..as i really didn’t do much
    as all events, clubs, everyone sorts there socials online.
    There aren’t any magazine really any more that’ll tell
    you whats going on.. We’re all stuffed if the power goes!!
    One friend thought i had a life as wasn’t on fb!!
    I enjoyed really and like you rad a lot which was fabulous
    rather than doing rather than doing a lot of nothing!!
    keep up the good work xx ps have you heard of balanced view?
    you may find it interesting…

  25. Susanne says:

    ♥✱♥:)Dear wonderful LOVELIFE hero Matthew Hussey :)♥✱♥

    With all my heart I thank you for your Sunday kindness :)

    May I say:

    I agreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee :)
    I looooooooooooooooooooooooooooove to write & if I meet somebody I loooooooooooooooooooove in person my words turn into beautiful hugs and kisses :)

    Looking forward to all the best hugs and kisses in life :)

    All the best hugs and kisses for everybody :)

    Susanne

  26. Ale says:

    Hi Mat.
    Funny, I’ve just spent 1 full week in Italy (I’m Italian) visiting my parents. The very moment I got off the plane I realised I’ve forgotten my smartphone home, in Paris.
    So I’ve been basically offline for 1 full week (except for when I went online through my dad’s laptop).
    And I must tell it’s been an AMAZING experience.
    You’re totally right : not only I think I’ve been more present and a more pleasant person compared to when I had my smart smartphone with me, but I soon realised how deeply are dependent ond addicted to smartphones and online tools.
    I’ve spend a whole stress-free week ! No stress in order to reply the many whatsapp messages, no stress to get and return phone calls, no stress to know who was thinking of me and who not….I was FREEEEEE

    Great lessons learned.
    And my parents and my dog thanked me for being FULLY (and adorably ;)) present.

    ps. Matt, wWe said Hi in person while in London. No text messages, no whatsapp :) I still prefer the real Matt than the virtual one :)

  27. egle says:

    Although I often have a phone handy, I often go days without touching my computer. When I’m out and about, I don’t even think about it! Yet, we do need the internet, only because everyone uses it. If no one did, we would be fine. The anxiety we get from lack of web connection is probably more of a social anxiety I think. For example, when I’m traveling or on vacation, I am totally unreachable, because I’m in a new place where connecting with people on the internet won’t do anything for me. When I’m home, talking to people on the internet is part of the social rapport.

  28. Monique says:

    Such a needed message for a lot of people in society today. When I’m taking public transit, for example, it’s difficult trying to make eye contact and initiate some type of communication with them if they’re buried in their smart phones.

    People don’t seem to take in the world around them when they’re perpetually checking status updates or playing that addictive Candy Crush game. Take a breather, and enjoy your surroundings and the new people you can meet!

    People who rely on texting instead of a phone call during the dating stages irk me as well. So much miscommunication can happen via text, and you’re unable to hear the inflection in their voice. When a guy chooses to pick up the phone and call me and talk at that moment, instead of sending texts, it means so much more.

    Love the line of social media being the “fast food of communication”. Excellent video!

  29. Judy says:

    This was a very important message today
    We need to interact more by speaking to our
    Friends and not be so attached to our phones
    I had the same aha moment about reading a bookb
    Prior to seeing your video this morning
    Thanks so much for your videos they are very
    Helpful

  30. A says:

    It depends on the 48 hours. It’s funny how for work people think you’re absolutely rude if you don’t respond to an e-mail within two hours. Wow.

    But personally, sure! I’m free on the weekends and I’m not on social media. I can do it, just like I try to connect with people every day in person. But they are all looking at their phones and really don’t want to look up. So it’s hard to be the only one.

    I saw a woman the other day reading a huge hardcover book and wanted to give her the thumbs up. (I was also reading a huge hardcover book.) Glad they still make the hardcovers and some of us still read them! I sometimes find it hard to interrupt people when they are sort of in their space/smart phone in the day-to-day world. (I don’t always like to be pulled out of my book.) But maybe I should interrupt sometimes!

    I’ll throw the question out to the commenters: If you are busy on your phone, would you welcome someone making eye contact with you and talking to you, therefore taking you away from your phone?

  31. Virginia says:

    Matt please keep this hairstyle it is the best for you! You look amazingly good! Just wanted to let you know! Great video by the way :)

  32. Irene says:

    so true!

    walking the camino de santiago in 2009 taught me a really good lesson. I had my stone age mobile phone with me and used it approximately 7-9 times in 5 weeks to call my mom, to let her know I havn’t been ambushed or something.

    Getting up in the morning, walking, meeting people from all over the world, cooking and eating together, sitting together inside or outside talking about anything and everything, writing a diary and if possible reading. I am so blessed to have experienced this. Other things were and became important and meaningful. When I got back I gladly kept up my new owned life style (meaning: being relaxed, value time, value other things more, etc.), and then I lost it due to various experiences. But I maintained my values and stone age mobile phone till 2013 and was very satisfied with it. Then whatsapp (group) was going on and friends had to actually text me or call me to keep me informed and they weren’t always glad about that lol. What got me, was being available jobwise and interacting more with friends I couldn’t meet daily/weekly/monthly or sometimes even in years. So, I thought about it and I did get myself a smartphone in october 2013. I enjoy it now.

    So, it’s more about staying away from socialmedia stuff – that’s where we get hooked, not necessarly the Internet itself, because we still need to inform ourselves about what’s happening in the world etc.

    Not being available over the weekend is manageable, if planse for the weekend have been made before time. Or when I want and need time for myself without being destracted. But nowadays it’s almost impossible because eveything is offered online, but yes, I think I could and have before. Definitely 24 hours and maybe longer.

    Loved it!
    Wish you a relaxed weekend!

  33. Jacqueline says:

    ROTFL —-> “Then I realized it was a phone, I can call them – and that’s what I did.”

    Thanks Matt. If I was in the UK or US I would be there! Someday thought I’ll come give you a hug & kiss on the cheek!

    And we love the YouTube videos. #NeverStop

  34. Kathleen says:

    Hey Matt,
    I loved this video!!! I must say though that “over 400.00 dollars” for one day is a bit on the EXTREME side, perhaps you should have some words with your internet provider. 400.00 dollars…shaaa rightttt
    Anyways I think a lot of people have their heads to far up the proverbial internet ass, such as myself this very moment.
    I will say though that I mostly use the internet to stalk you!!! I’m only kidding!!!, but seriously I do prefer face to face communication far more then any other form of communication, be it talking on the phone or texting, speaking of texting, have you ever had that moment when you decided to call the person who was texting you and your call went to voice mail??? So annoying!!!
    I’m not sure if I could stay off the internet for 48 hours, perhaps I could do it for 24. just being honest.
    also…nice save at the end of the video!!!

  35. Jaagii says:

    Totally agree!

    By the way, loving the hair Matt :)

    xoxoxo

  36. vanessa says:

    Totally agree with you Matt. Made a decision to get a phone for calling and texting only.Came off Facebook for a while as was ‘addicted’ and wasted huge amounts of time distracting my mind from being in the present moment. Am a firm believer in face to face communication as we pick up a lot of ‘non verbal communication’ and ‘cues’ from body language.
    Looking forward to meeting you in London 15th June! xx

  37. Ingrid says:

    Looking forward to the April lifestyle retreat in St Petersburg Florida!
    http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/lifestyle-retreat/ #You ShouldCome

    • Viola says:

      yea, feel uncomfortable without my laptop but truly books and real people are a medicine against such subordination of personality :)

  38. Solana says:

    Hey matt. I recently went to brazil and the same thing happend to me. I Also have an iphone… Anyway. I turn the internet conection off. And it was like a detoxe. Im using less my phone. Its so curious that i have the same feeling, i realise that all my Apps use the internet to work properly… When ive got back home. I made my friends put the phones down, on a pile at the center of table so we can comect with eachoyher, with the people that was around us, instead of the people who werent there. Tnx for all the time you dedicate to us. Dont worry. After my cellpjone detox i still visit your fttmr site and this One, Of cours!! Cheers. Solana

  39. Solana says:

    Hey matt. I recently went to brazil and the same thing happend to me. I Also have an iphone… Anyway. I turn the internet conection off. And it was like a detoxe. Im using less my phone. Its si curiouse that i have the same feling, o realice that all my Apps use the internet to work properly… When ove got back home. I made my friends put the phones un the center of table so we can comect with outself, with the people that was a round us instead of the people who werent there. Tnx for all the time you dedicate to us. Dont worry. After my cellpjone detox i still visit your fttmr site and this One. Of course. Cheers. Solana

  40. TC says:

    Gosh you make me realize how antisocial I can be! I’m an information junkie so going without that everyday fix of my usual streams of learning makes me have a tiny panic attack too, especially since I claim the awkward tribe. My satellite has no Korean subtitled channels so me giving up Internet for 2 days is probably not possible yet but I can put forth the effort to engage with people on a more personal level than a text message or a Facebook post. I find I like the people whose interactions I can visually gauge more.

    Now I’m off to watch Sister Act on my Netflix account lol. Have a great weekend!

  41. Brenda says:

    First Comment!!! :)
    Can I please get a virtual hug, Matt? LOL…

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