Are you a list maker? I am. It’s how I get things done.
But doesn’t life sometimes just feel like an endless “To-Do List”?
If you want to feel like you’re truly LIVING, not just ticking boxes, check out my new video…
I’m guessing you don’t just follow my work for love life advice…
And I know that in 2021 you have goals outside of your love life that are deeply important to you. I want to help you achieve them.
This week’s video is going to show you 7 techniques I use time and time again to make an impact on whoever I’m speaking to and create new opportunities in my life…
Are butterflies just “Disney-movie” feelings or should they be an expectation I have for Mr. Right?
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This was a question someone asked this week in our VIP members area, and I wanted to share some thoughts, because the idea of “instant attraction” (or even instant love) is a common societal belief.
So here’s where I stand on it…
If by butterflies you mean, some kind of animalistic feeling of chemistry, then yes. It’s very hard to stoke a flame if there isn’t a spark already.
If by butterflies you mean after a first date your heart is inflated like a balloon, your brain clicks into a feeling of absolute certainty, and you “just know” this is The One, then no.
To be fair, I have heard from people who said they “knew” their partner was The One by the first date. But remember, (a) this is often easier to say in hindsight, (b) it doesn’t mean it’s the case for everyone.
Many people have also told me how they fell for their partner over a matter of weeks, or even months (maybe even someone they knew as a friend for years). For many people it takes time and connection before they realise they have something they want to invest much deeper in. Hell, many guys can start dating their future wife without even being sure if they want a relationship right now – it’s only after a few months of dating do they realise they have someone they don’t want to let go of.
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If we know that it can take longer than a first date to be certain about someone, it pays to be open-minded.
If we’re too dismissive, too quick to throw someone on the “no” pile, or never give anyone a chance because we don’t feel “Disney-movie” feelings at the very first moment, we can end up lost, looking for a unicorn that doesn’t exist.
Chemistry? yes. Crucial. Important. You need something that makes you want to be near this person, that leaves you thinking (or even fantasizing) about being more intimate.
But that’s just the first seed.
Before it can grow into a big relationship tree, you need the right soil, nutrients, solid foundations, water, sunshine – this is all the stuff that represents actual investment and compatibility, both of which are discovered by sharing meaningful time with someone, seeing how they live, what they spend their time on, and having honest conversations.
The Disney stuff is fun. But guess what? Even Disney stopped believing in their propaganda. The beginning act of Frozen is a parody of old Disney tropes, with Ana falling in love at a party with a Prince whom she instantly decides to marry, and who later turns out to be a self-serving villain.
So, yes, feelings matter in the beginning. Just don’t overrate them.
Have you ever felt insecure about something that’s happened with your partner and got yourself worked up in your mind? I have. Many times.
If you can relate to being the kind of person whose emotions and anxieties can be easily triggered in a relationship, this video is really going to help you…
Happy New Year!
Do you want to be more confident this year? No, really. Not just say it, but BE it? Do you finally want to step into your life, feeling not just comfortable in your own skin, but owning it, ready to take on whatever challenges come your way?
If so, these 7 minutes might be the most important 7 minutes you’re going to have today, because they are going to shape your mindset for the entire year. Seriously.
Happy Holidays,
I hope you’re having a beautiful time wherever you are, and whatever (potentially modified) version of the holidays you are having right now. I’m sending you love, lots of love.
As we roll into the New Year, it seems like as good a time as any to talk about our standards. We think of a new year as being a time where we reset our standards, don’t we?
OK let’s talk about it.
The infuriating phenomenon of men disappearing in the early stages of dating.
In this video I tell you what to do, and I share the secret to showing your interest in such a way that he keeps coming back for more…
If you find yourself currently in a long-distance relationship – or “situationship” – then I made this video for you, my loyal friend.
In it, I give you the 4 questions you should ask to figure out if it’s all worth it…
Maybe you began this year with visions of finally creating the love life you always dreamed about. But then this year happened, and it made dating even more complicated, more exhausting, and more futile than it seemed to be already.
In this week’s new video, I’m going to give you a blueprint for what to do to still move your love life forward…
I wanted to step outside of the dating conversation for this week’s new video.
Relationship or no relationship, the quality of our lives is the quality of our emotions. And many of us feel plagued by our emotions. Whether it’s depression, anxiety, sadness, shame, guilt, fear… we can find ourselves living in a constant state of suffering.
If you can relate to this, please watch this before you do anything else today…
