3 Criteria That Make A Great Date (Today Show Feature)

Right now I’m in New York and have just been back on The Today Show! Today’s segment is called ‘The New Rules Of Dating’, in which we cover Chasing, Dating and Texting.

From the video…

Can women chase?

I’m all for women being ‘proactive’, but the word ‘chase’ doesn’t work for me, and isn’t inline with the mindset of a high-value woman.

Even for guys, the mindset of being a ‘chaser’ conjures images of the creepy stalker type who are only after one thing.

Rather than being ‘gone after’, what a guy really wants is a woman who will put her value out there and make it clear to determine compatibility.

3 criteria that make a great date

A great first date…

1) Is time flexible

You want the activity you’re doing to have the flexibility of being a 20 minute date (if things are terrible and you want to escape), through to a 3 hour date if you’re having a great time and want to be able to carry on.

2) Allows for proximity

Choose something that will allow the two of you to build in touches and physical tension. A dinner wouldn’t be my first choice, but if you find yourself at one, be sure to sit side-by-side, not sat across from each other.

3) Is externally focused

If you went for a walk along a river, the surroundings would take the pressure off in allowing you to look around and see what’s going on. This not only gives you more to talk about, it makes silence in conversation more relaxed.

Texting is the perfect way to flirt

Texting allows you to say things you’d never be able to get away with on the phone. For instance, telling someone “You looked gorgeous today”. Texting allows you to be cheeky, playful, and make statements that don’t necessitate a reaction.


Question of the day:

What did you do on your most memorable date? Back in London, my favourite thing was to go for a long walk along the Thames. Let me know yours in the comments!

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43 Replies to “3 Criteria That Make A Great Date (Today Show Feature)”

  1. Bummer … I was waiting to hear Matt’s response to the sleeping with the guy. Matt’s told a lot … but I wanted to hear how he phrased it … he’s great with words!!

      1. Matt says in his book a woman of high value will wait to have sex. I truly believe its important to connect on all other levels before you connect sexually. Sex is the easy part meeting someone whose values align with yours is the hard part.

  2. My most memorable date was: my sister had invited me to be her grad date. We were both dressed to the nines and we had a wonderful time. After grad, we went out with her friends to celebrate – being that I’m 10 years her senior, I didn’t stay too long. But, I didn’t want to go home. I called a guy I had been seeing… We would d up randomly meeting up at about midnight. It was pouring rain, I was in a little strapless dress and high heels – we went puddle jumping. I took off my shoes and we just walked and splashed in the puddles. Eventually, I started to shiver a little so he pulled me in, behind a fence for shelter, and kissed me. In the pouring rain. Under the stars. Me with no shoes… It was amazing.

  3. Best date ever: we got goofy at Rockeoke (live band karaoke), then we walked around downtown. He took me up to the fourth floor of a very posh hotel where he knew about a private terrace overlooking the city. It was quiet, we had a chance to talk, and we got some kisses in. Very nice!

  4. My most memorable date??? Ummm…easy to answer. The one started with a nice dinner in a beatyfull city in Spain and ended being 4 days in a hotel almost with out eating, or sleeping and going out the room. Yeah, we were really busy playing Monopoly. It´s amazing how addictive is the game.

  5. My most memorable date was the first date I had with the guy I was seeing up until Sunday. Even though it was just for coffee, I found we had a great connection and good chemistry. However, after 3 months of dating he decided to end things with me.

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