It always baffles me how often people ignore the warning signs that they’re in a toxic relationship.
Comfort. Ease. Insecurity. Need for attention. Unfortunately all these things cause us to stick with people for 5 years who we would have been better off dumping after 5 weeks.
To put your mind at rest, you’re about to learn the 5 huge warning signs of a bad boyfriend that will tell you when it’s definitely time to let him go:
1. He feels threatened when you succeed
You finally get that promotion you’ve been desperate for, and he responds haughtily, “Well, I guess you’re going to be even more busy now, right?”
This is the sign of a guy who wants to hold you back.
Maybe he’s threatened by your success, or maybe he just hates the thought that you have a fulfilling life outside of him. But you can be certain that this guy isn’t going to be your dream teammate.
You want a guy who jumps up and down and encourages you every step of the way, not a boyfriend who finds a way to turn your sweet success into sour grapes.
2. He’s never curious about you
Some guys are so narcissistic they won’t even realise they’re doing this, but make no mistake: if he shows ZERO interest in your life, it’s because he’s too self-obsessed to even care.
He’ll sit on the phone to you sharing his hopes and dreams for hours on end, telling stories about his family, and letting you into all his deepest philosophies on life – and then…will he even stop for a second to ask “how was your day?”
And even if he does, he’ll pretend to listen for 10 seconds, before bringing the topic of conversation back to his favorite subject: himself.
You can spend your life wishing he’d take more an interest in your thoughts, or you can spend your life with someone who is actually worth the effort. Your choice.
3. He makes it personal when you fight
Even the best relationships have the odd argument. But what tells you everything about a guy isn’t whether you disagree on a few things, but how he reacts when you don’t see eye to eye.
Does he call you names? Does he insult you? Does he fight dirty and bring up personal information that is completely off-topic?
These are all signs of a bad boyfriend who isn’t looking out for you. A great guy will know that just because you’re fighting, he doesn’t have a license to attack you where it hurts just so that he can win the argument.
4. He tries to possess you
You go out with your friends, and he acts jealous. You spend a night with work colleagues, and he pouts and guilt trips you for not being home with him. He gets angry when you innocently talk to the male bartender when you order your drink.
Jealousy and possessiveness are toxic, and can start you down a dangerous path of feeling like you’re constantly having to change your normal behavior just to avoid drama.
This is the epitome of a bad boyfriend, and if you see this kind of possessive behavior, declare your independence immediately and break free of this guy before you forget what real freedom feels like.
5. He never apologizes or thinks he’s done wrong
Those 3 little words. “I am sorry”. They mean so much, and yet there are people who just can’t say them.
If a guy you’re dating never apologizes, it’s either because (a) he never thinks he’s wrong, or (b) he doesn’t care enough to say it.
Relationships are hard enough, without having a partner who can’t hold their hands up and decide when they’ve made a mistake. So look out for this bad boyfriend sign early on, and make sure you avoid like the plague.