5 Tinder Tips to Get Him to Ask You Out

What’s the secret to getting a guy to ask you out on Tinder??

No, it’s not a naked selfie.

The secret is… well, there isn’t really one secret. To be honest, there could be several reasons a guy hasn’t proposed a date yet.

In this week’s blog video, I’ll show you exactly why he hasn’t taken things forward and give you 5 killer tips you can use in any conversation to guarantee he actually makes a move.


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  1. Tammy says:

    Thanks again Matthew for a top notch video. I don’t like Tinder much either but it seems a necessity in this day and age. I’ve recently been attending a social group of ppl in their 30s and 40s and ppl will sit at the event and go on Tinder sometimes. (Talk about anti social) So I’ve had to bite the bullet. Though I am using a similar app to Tinder not Tinder itself. You’re right your comment on this video or another about needing thick skin isn’t wrong. I was on it a couple of days before I wanted to bail. But your comment made me feel like I wasn’t alone and I’ve pushed through. I put on my profile I want marriage and kids as I’m now ready for all that. So as to deter some time wasters as well. And I was surprised at the response though not all are genuine. I want to thank you for the bit you said about challenging them about being weird Tinder ppl that continuously msg. I took that concept and have been honest with the guys that I’m more of an in person kind of girl than online but I joined the site out of necessity as it’s the way the world is going. And they have been keen to meet almost immediately when I’ve told them that amongst a bit about myself. Before I watched your video my luck wasn’t as good with my first shot. Not every guy has responded without fail at wanting to catch but that just showed me where that persons priorities are at. Some enjoy the fantasy of it and the ego trip I think but aren’t in a place they really want it yet. So again thankyou for going against your “rules” and covering Tinder. I also want to say I was surprised at the confessions of some of the guys wanting marriage and kids too. So they are out there ladies. I was near giving up.

    • Tammy says:

      I’ve also weeded out some time wasters and set a standard by saying I’m not on here looking for sex or a one night stand or to talk dirty pretty much straight in. And if they keep pressing it. Unmatched :) You have to be true to yourself.

  2. Bluebird says:

    I’m single, 40, a little over waight, I have adhd, ocd, ptsd concerning my ex husband( he won’t leave me alone, he has our kids ) prolaps, no teeth but bottom front, no money, no car, no job, not street or book smart. I AM however verry intelligent although I do have a lot of blonde moments, verry loveing, kind, shy, but try not to be, imnplayful, religious, I bleach in absence till marriage, I can be funny.

    My qustion is am i a person guys would avoid, like the last to be picked for the sport team. Or are there guys out there who would like to date me, looking for possible marriage?

    I do like guys who are a little build, not over build, tall, the taller the better. No he dosent need to be a modle, I just need to find that physical eyepoping attraction from my point of view not the worlds. I just don’t feel pretty enough, or good enough.

  3. Angela M says:

    Saw the video and loved the swipe thing at the beginning! So amusing! Otherwise, I think you hit the nail on the head! Another funny article about using Tinder and said profiles I found hilarious (besides yours) was this one (I hope you share with your audience) : http://blogs.davelozinski.com/general/profiling-tinder-profiles
    Everything from both your video and his words are so true! Thanks and keep up the great work!

  4. Mariana says:

    Can I say that I applied the “gelato” line and it INSTANTLY got me some conversations on happn?! This is genius, thank you Matt!

  5. Vanessa says:

    So right on! I love you Matthew! Smartest man alive you are. This video is so funny with you with funny backgrounds love the toilet flush! Genius!

  6. Kooky says:

    thank you my dear for another amazing video :*
    what I’m going to say has nothing to do with this video , it’s about one video that had related to the boxing , to be honest I didn’t like what happened to your eye ” black ” when you were boxing , not because how does it look on you , but because my concern is your health ” the side effect of the punching on your body” , my dear you should see a doctor and ask him what you should do to keep boxing and not damaging your health . I don’t like to see you getting hurt by boxing , but if you love it then keep boxing and may god protect you .


  7. Elena says:

    Hahaha,Matt you are hilarious you make me laugh;)I love all ur videos! You are great thanks for doing this:)

  8. Adrienn says:

    Good video again, but the most I loved was the adventure time on the tv in the background :D

  9. Tamara says:

    Hi Matthew!
    I love Tinder.. I’ve had a time when there was a new guy every week in my agenda, a plan for a date. It was fun. But there were guys that were not worth my time, that indeed.. just texted over and over again.. With the guys that I liked gave my number and I spend a date with them. And did have fun.. Haven’t found my guy yet. Going back dating soon, just took a break though, but I’m not sure I’m gonne find him here. But it’s good practise and who knows who you befriend with?

    Thanks for the tips! Love them.. haha
    Giving guys a challange..


  10. MF says:

    Hi Matthew,

    This is a different email and request. Would you have any advice for a romantic asexual? Do you know what an asexual is?

    I really want to get the guy, and it does not matter if he is asexual or not. I am romantic, and I will be willing to have an open relationship if it would be possible.

  11. A says:

    OMG that swipe satire in the beginning, CLASSIC! So, funny, Uncle Hussy

    <3 ya so much

  12. Sydney says:

    I approve of these chicks.

  13. Julie MacKenzie says:

    That was great advice…as usual…Even though I’m never going to be on “Tinder”…It spills into other areas as well…Love the videos…Keep them coming…So funny! LOL!

  14. Sonia Elizabeth says:

    Hi..I want to thank you for your info..I met a guy at a bar started a conversation with him he asked if I had a Boyfriend because he didn’t want to have any problems..I said..no..if I did I wouldn’t start a conversation with him in the first place..we talked for awhile then when I was about to leave..I asked him if he would like to have a coffee or drink sometime..he said yes..so I asked him for his number..I dial the number so he would have mine and of course for me to make sure he wasn’t giving me a false number..Then I got up shaked his hand and said..Nice meeting you..hope we can catch up sometime and left…Do you think I did the rite thing?? If not…What should I have done?

  15. Jamie says:

    My issue is not time wasters when chatting extensively with men, so much as it is men who bring up sex within the first few exchanges of dialogue of a conversation. This isn’t just on Tinder “The Hookup App”, this is on all of them, from the free ones to the ones I pay for. Talk about treating someone like they are a robot or not human! I feel like I’m spoken too many times on these sites like I’m a whore! I’m asking these men very innocent “get to know you” questions like, what are your hobbies and interests? Where would you like to travel if your could? Etc. I am not the one bringing up sex to these men. How do I get rid of these “time wasters” and find men on these apps who actually want to date or meet me and get to know them, instead of just wanting sex? I’m sure if I was willing, the meeting up would not be an issue, but because I actually just want to meet for a coffee, that’s when I end up waisting time chatting to many men, but have very few dates! Help!!!!

    • CRISS says:

      YEH. That’s what i don’t like about tinder. So many men think it’s a free home delivery sex app.
      I kinda got tired of getting called a materialist, or a pretentions women bcs i like to meet a man in real life and then decide if i want to sleep with him.

  16. Hafsa says:

    Thanks so much Matthew I will definitely try. Be be a little bit bold. Even if I don’t have Tinder,I heard people there only want to have fun and serious.

  17. Cindy says:

    Such a clever Tinder coaching! I wouldn’t use Tinder if my bloody life depended on it (no offense) since I hear how the guys at work talk about it, but you managed to stage the whole reality of it brilliantly AND give great advice to boot (no pun intended)… Loved the rubber duckies next to you by the pool…perfect touch ;)

  18. Amy says:

    Cringey humor aside (#2 ) this is EXCELLENT. Solid, easy, smart tactics in under 5 minutes.

  19. Victoria says:

    Hi Matthew. Too bad you’re way too young for me or we would be trouble ;). Anyhow. Loved the bathroom selfie. Guys usually ask me out after talking for a day. My issue is that I don’t feel chemistry with the guy and find that very difficult to do. If the guy is not completely hot I lose interest. How do I become attracted to the right kind of guy rather than lose interest in the first five minutes ?

  20. Paige says:

    Good tips! On my okcupid profile in the last section I have something like, “Please message me if..you want to know about xyz.” I have something really esoteric and not very common listed so that always grabs male attention. IT is a nerdy topic which shows that I am more than a person with boobs haha! And that I am intelligent of course!

    I always list something I am interested in, but not necessarily something I am good at. Also another tip to get him to ask you out is when they say, “I like this Spanish restaurant.” The woman should reply, “I have never been there,” or “I haven’t been there in a long time.” This keeps the door open for the guy to ask you out. Or you to even make the first move and say, “I have never been there, we should go some time.” Always works for me!!

  21. Sheila says:

    You make me laugh with ur talks in the bathroom toilet…..u r really funny and EFFECTIVE! Keep up with ur great advice Matthew! Great communicator!

  22. Marci says:

    I tried Tinder. In the first 15 minutes of having the account, I found 2 guys who seemed primarily interested in sex. Deleted my account and will never go back. It’s still useful information in the video for the other online dating sites.

  23. Rosie says:

    These tips are so helpful and make sense! Thanks Matt! Wow a gift u have. Xo

  24. Ineke says:

    Haha, love the toilet insert. You’re crazy, but in a good way!

  25. Jenny says:

    Matt, congrats on finding me on Tinder…The gelato line came straight from my profile, exept mine is a worldwide quest. Still looking for someone up to the challenge!

  26. Mella says:

    The flushing your dreams away a nice touch…you get a smile out of me every time :)

  27. Sandra L says:

    This video was your best yet! I am going to watch it again and maybe again. You need to make more like this very creative quality production. The message was exceptional too. Very inviting and very well done. Thank you for the wonderfuly original tips!

  28. Faizah says:

    Thank you Matt,
    These are very helpful tips.. and your messages ideas always work like wonder. I have tried them multiple times and they always get me the result/answer that I was looking for.

    P.S. I couldn’t help not to say “EWWW!” at the end (>.<)'

    Love you! :D

  29. Laura Chase says:

    I love the video!!! Especially the funny sarcastic air in it
    Thank you for making me laugh…

  30. Annelize says:

    Excellent about the Tinder tips!!!!

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