In this week’s LOVELife Tika worries whether she made the right decision leaving her relationship.
We discuss why it’s so scary to break it off and why we cling on to bad relationships far longer than we should.
Thank you so much, Matthew! I SO needed to hear this.
SOOOOO Awesome Matt, Thank You So Much
My Reminder :
I need and deserve RESPECT as much as Love and tenderness.
The Love I give is different from the Love I receive.
Thanks a lot !!!
Thanks a lot Matt !!!
Awesome episode. This could have been me on the phone and my break up was months ago. I did all the programmes to get my ex back and ended up breaking up with HIM because he soon reverted to flakiness in our RS. I thought that because he was a great guy I should do everything to hold onto him. But he wasn’t great for me. Some Older divorced men that were once great are too scared to get hurt again and never let go or make enough effort because they’ve done it all before and been abandoned. They get obsessed with the children because that is a safer outlet for the love they desperately need to give. I tried so hard to ‘fix him’ but you are so right in saying that is something only they can decide to do. And it may never happen.
I have taken notes from this episode to re-read as required and to keep my focus on moving forward this time. Thanks add always mh.
” …someone I’m going to spend my life with is not someone I need to persuade to invest in me or lookout for my needs. If you always remember that you’ll know there is someone better coming for you”.
Awesome advice Matthew!!!
This video was the only thing that could get me through the night. I ended my four year relationship with my first love yesterday morning. I know why I ended it, but there is still this nagging feeling in the the back of my mind of whether or not I made the right decision. The past two years of the relationship were long-distance and with me having the stable job, we decided it would be best for him to relocate. When it came down to it, he was always too afraid of making the wrong decision to make any decision at all. I did everything I possibly could to help him… But nothing was ever good enough or up to his standards. I can’t even begin to tell you how many hours I spent alone looking for jobs only for him to throw them away. I had enough. I still love him so much, he has been my best friend for four years and we had hoped to get married. However, it finally dawned on me that the relationship was going nowhere – I can’t be with someone who isn’t willing to invest the time to fix our problem and I DONT want to be with someone who is so afraid to choose their path in life they would rather be miserable in the predictable. Anyways, Matthew, I don’t know if you will ever see this message but I want to say thank you. I spent hours crying my heart out but watching this dried my tears, provided solace, and gave me hope that things will get better with time. Thank you
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