The Sexual Act So Powerful You Won’t Even Need To Touch Him…

Well, I’ll start by saying you may never have seen me quite like I am in this video.

But these are desperate times, and I have something I wanted to introduce you to.

The ultimate sexual act.

So exciting, so sexy, so tantalising that we’ve given it it’s own new name.

And the name we’ve given it just might be the best word ever to be created.


It’s the new dirty word for smart people.

If you’re someone who finds great conversation sexy…

If you’re someone who finds intelligence to be a huge turn on…

If you go weak at the knees for someone who can actually stimulate your mind and create a real connection…

Then this is going to be YOUR new favourite word too.

I’m on a mission right now to extinguish boring small-talk, men who think the best way to talk to you is to be sarcastic or crass, and people who are too busy talking about themselves to really create a deeper connection with you.

My aim is create an army of eloquent, intelligent people who know how to create genuine connections.

And this new sexual act is the beginning.

Watch my official public service announcement and decide if you want to try this new dirty phenomenon.

Enjoy, and try not to get too turned on.

Matthew x


Directed, Photographed, and Edited by JAMESON JORDAN

MATTHEW HUSSEY as Bestselling Author. Bestselling.
DAVID ABED as Charlie

Assistant Director       RYAN TURNER
Assistant Camera      AUSTIN ENGLISH
Grip and Lighting       CHRIS FITZGERALD
Sound Mixer              IAN KRAGEN
Sound Editor              ANTHONY KOZLOWSKI
Color Correction        ROBERT CROSBY —
BTS Videographer     LORENZO SANCHEZ

“Tears of Joy” performed by ADI GOLDSTEIN

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  1. Ariel Greeley says:

    Braingasm. You can have one in public and not get arrested.

  2. Michele Goldstein says:

    Hi Matthew,
    That was so funny but true. I can see the give & take of what each other said. It’s like recreating what they said. Taking their advice. Being intriging & interesting is stimulating & a turn on.
    Thank you Matthew.
    Michele Goldstein

  3. Erin Kerr says:

    OMG That was so clever, so hysterical!! You’re getting good, Mr. Hussey! Keep up the creativity! So great, LOVED IT!

  4. Eda says:

    I cried with a tears of sor… fu..! What sorrow! I almost die laughing. I think this video is the best cure for morning “omg it’s monday today” so see you tomorrow, Matt :) 8am. Don’t be late ;)

  5. Julie MacKenzie says:

    My goodness…That was great Brainal Matthew….You give great Brainal! LMAO! ;) <3 Too Funny!

  6. Linda Morse says:

    LOves it!

  7. Jet says:

    OMG that was good! You are so goofy I love a man who can be all things… goofy, smart, challenging and so easy to look at and listen too. Then there is that added spark of genius about what it means to be human dealing with other humans (male or female, really!).
    I think the goofy (and I mean that as a compliment) highlights what you speak about on meeting new people. Be a bit silly and charming… and Matthew you have that covered in spades!

  8. L says:

    l just love the video, funny but also a good message, as intellect is important but given in a passionate connected way. Way to go Matt ! I will try more Brainal.

  9. Maryam says:

    This was the funniest video I have ever seen of you, Matt! :D

  10. Kat says:

    Totally agree! tried it, and it works! Just like a good punch that stimulates and makes him want more!

  11. Aziz says:

    Funny video! But do you really know what Brainal means?

  12. Michelle says:

    Matt, this was brilliant! Thank you for the laugh. :)

    I miss the days of great brainal, which I have yet to find since my last real relationship – that was three years ago! It’s been hard to find as I find it hard to chit chat for very long for me. I’ve never been one to talk in circles for long and rather be direct. I know the answer to that one, but I just don’t know how to do it.

    Thank you again Matt! xo

  13. Raquel says:

    As an intelligent older woman who’s seen this at work, especially in my present relationship, I can testify how true it is. The key is to strike a balance and not give the impression of trying to show off or brag all the time, I know someone close to me who is very very smart but she usually scared men away because it was all about her… As I told someone who commented she can’t keep guys around who’ve enjoyed her conversations, we also need to make sure that our date feels good about himself so he wants to “come back for more”.

    And Matthew, you can’t expect to please everyone, this world is made up of way too many personalities, some people are way too picky, simply very hard to please and feel that their opinion is “it”, but if any of them are reading this, my advice would be to EASE UP or you’ll stay single and unhappy forever…

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  15. Mel says:

    This is why your my favourite coach. Favourite. If great conversation is sexy what does it mean when you talk to yourself frequently? Do the same rules apply; don’t do it in public and its more fun to do it with someone else?

    Reminds me of an american sitcom I watched, the girl says to him ‘I wish you appreciated me for my mind’ He responds ‘I would if it jiggled when you ran’

  16. Maria says:

    Utterly funny
    I love it.
    I have been told repeatedly by men that my conversation is the best thing that happens to them in their week. However, they date other women, despite my wit and intellectual depth and sharing. So where is the missing link?

    • Raquel says:

      Mary, an an older woman now in a relationship (but still come here to “refresh”) I can tell you that it’s important to strike a balance so as not to come off as a “smarty-pants”. And it’s all about feeling good, men hang around us when we make them feel good… always remember that men’s egos are fragile no matter how old they are or how important they’ve become, so try not to make it all about you (not saying that you do, just suggesting you keep an eye on that), try to make your date feel good about himselves with well-placed compliments, men love being appreciated, so you could compliment on his choice of restaurant or whatever, and you will see him coming back…

      • Raquel says:

        Oops, should’ve proofread before posting, not only I saw your name is really Maria but I made some mistakes when trying to edit something… sorry!

  17. Marie says:

    This brought a big genuine smile on my face. I love how these two break the wall between casual blah and a deep, connecting conversation no longer based on events and people but more on concepts, ideas and emotions. A real human moment.
    I couldn’t help thinking about that film, Before sunrise, which is one of the most brainal films I have ever seen!
    Not a spam, just a soul-mating scene from this beautiful movie :)

  18. Carla says:

    Love the emphasis on “bestselling” in the credits :)

  19. Anjali says:

    This video put an instant smile on my grumpy morning face. Now even the coffee tastes better. I hope you make more vids like this and the retirement home skit. Very funny, with a valuable message. Perfect.

  20. Christa says:

    So THIS is the video you were filming…

  21. Nadine says:

    Awesome! Cracking up laughing! And u right, I do not appreciate sarcasm, can be so mean…and I must admit I quite often just don’t get it! Thumbs up to brainal, yay!!!

  22. Sydney says:

    Why didn’t you attach the music track, you moron ?

    I’m havng a VERY BAD DAY. And I don’t want to tye this $hit into YOU TUBE>

  23. Sydney says:

    She’s not into bands, Charlie.

  24. Sydney says:

    you’re funny!

  25. Saudia E. says:

    Brainal = Believing Relevance, An Inside Nearness, Absolutely Luscious


  26. Aussie Lady says:

    This video has made my day! Not only was I on the floor in stitches but I also thought about the way I talk to guys. Thank you!

  27. Sydney says:

    You can contact me at my other not-fake e-mail address


    P.S. Not kidding.

  28. Sydney says:

    I did not read Matthew’s sexiness article. But I would like to request an AUTOGRAPHED copy for book Get the Guy Keep the Guy, etc.

    If you don’t ,

    I will spam ALL OVER your blog!


  29. Sol says:

    oh matt you are the best, so brillant, so funny, tnx for helping me everyday!

  30. Jill says:

    After my last comment I noticed you said, “men who think the best way to talk to you is to be sarcastic or crass” and it reminded me of a girl I used to live with. Earlier this year I was at a dinner party and she showed up with her boyfriend and he made some sarcastic remark, forgive me I don’t remember what it was BUT I remember thinking “Are you going to let him say that about you? Point being is it baffles me that women let men talk down to them even if he is just trying to be funny it’s no excuse. Just to clarify, I’m not saying you shouldn’t be playful with each other but there’s definitely a line and everyone needs to learn it.
    I have a feeling there was not BRAINAL action that night :(

  31. Jill says:

    So, I had a really hard time taking this serious BUT I’m pretty sure it’s supposed to be goofy :) I have to say, working in a salon that caters to men I actually get this quite often and it’s AWESOME. Now if I can just find one who lives in the area and isn’t married I will be set.

  32. rivy says:

    i loooooove brainal….its better than sex…. i had amazing brainal with a bunch of my classmates at school…talk about mind blowing

  33. Alexandra says:

    I love this video so much Matt! I used to think that people were attracted to just my physical appearance, and every time I felt insecure about myself or the way I looked I blamed it on the fact that men weren’t just into my specific body type (or whatever excuse I used at the moment to not give someone a chance to get to know me on a much deeper level). My body had nothing to do with my inability to derive confidence from other than my appearance. I don’t know the root of this belief but I know it’ doesn’t fit my life anymore. This video has given me an extra motivation to be more outspoken and ask the questions people don’t dare to ask. It’s such a turn on to have great, stimulating conversations with someone and I know, for sure, I have all the power in me to create these kinds of sexy “brainal” moments.

    Thank you for the new perspective. Now I see my own confidence in a completely different more empowering way :)

    Besos sexy thing,


  34. Kristi says:

    OMG! OMG! OMG! (sigh) THAT was amazing! lol.
    ……On a serious note……. That was BY FAR the funniest, most entertaining and yet still informative video you’ve come up with yet. WELL DONE!
    (I saw someone asking for the bloopers on that one and I must agree, that would probably even top this in the LOL to LMAO factor).
    You’ve just made my Thanksgiving (well thus far, turkey/familygathering still to come) ;-)
    So, thank you,

  35. Joané Olivier says:

    oh I love it when you talk dirty

  36. Plamena says:

    Another brilliant stuff from Matthew Hussey ! You give us so much knowledge, wisdom….and love! I want to give you this love back! You are genius, thank you for having you , I love you very much and I wish you all the best in your career and life! Keep inspiring us! xoxoxo

  37. A. says:

    Heehee! That was great! I had brainal this week and it was indeed attractive. ;-) Thanks for the reminder about it going both ways!


  38. Rumors says:

    “It´s true, it´s science” = It´s science because I have dressed like a scientist :D

  39. Laura says:


  40. Alena says:

    Good Morning Matthew!!

    Just watched this on FB and had to comment! So awesome; I just loved the humor. And it’s so true–connecting on a deeper level. Been doing that a lot since reading your book. Definitely practising Brainal on everyone especially that super guy I met (thanks to you). He’s a keeper because most of our conversations involve brainal. Very satisfying! ;)
    Thanks for the fantastic start to my morning!
    Happy Canadian Thanksgiving!
    Love Ya!
    ~Alena xo

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