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I watch Matt’s videos a lot and they e helped a great deal in my inretractions with men.
I really liked this piece because it was woman-to-woman. It’s so wonderful when we support our sisters! Thank you to all of the women brave and generous enough to share their loneliness videos. Matt’s right about the power of being vulnerable. I’d like to let them know that their courage was a gift to me today and I hope they get some love back from somewhere in the universe in return.
Matthew, what a great video! You give so much to us, you and your entire team. My birthday is Tuesday. A few years ago it might have be so easy to get caught up in not having a life partner with me on my birthday.
But not today! Instead I took your advice and WAS THE PARTY. :-D (Should put that on the t-shirt: ‘You be the party.’) I created a lovely birthday event yesterday at the beach. Beautiful setting, wonderful people, and healthy food from scratch I mostly made myself. I even met up with a new female friend met right here from GTG.
I haven’t been on your retreat, but I buy your programs, I really listen to what your saying, and I go out there and live my very best life.
Thank you very much for all you do. These videos really make a difference in our lives.
Cheers,
Autumn
Love watchin ur videos and realises theres someone more than just me thats feeling the same things on relationships n being lonely. Someone who actually gets how we all think n feel. Im not alone out their in the world. Thanks all the way from Australia
Hello Matthew. I really loved your video and it struck a chord with me. I’ve been lonely for as long as I can remember and it does hurt a lot. whenever I am in a huge group of people or seeing couples together, I feel terribly lonely, especially when I realise that people who I count on to be there for me when I am low, are not actually there or not understanding what I feel. That if I go to them, vulnerable, they just might shut me down or freeze or run away. Like you said.
What you said about self-worth and vulnerability made a lot of sense to me, especially the latter. It helped me a lot. Thank you for that. These days, everyone is afraid to be vulnerable and I hate it. But the way you explained about it, that helped a lot, and maybe I won’t be so afraid to be vulnerable next time. Thank you.
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:) I liked the vulnerability.. I become vulnerable many a times and feel bad.. But from now on I remember your beautiful video
Loved this video, you are so spot on!!! Keep up the great work!
One great thing about you Matthieu is your vulnerability and you remain genuine through the years. I watch a video you must have been 12 haha sitting in a park in England and giving your advices! I was like “how is that kid?” “How come you have such a great insight on life at such a young age?” THAT convinced me to attend one of your retreats one day. Im still working on that…
Thank you for these videos and especially today. This week. At only 41, I medically retired from my job as a police officer. Yesterday I felt so lonely. I had put all that community behind me and took the courage to listen to what was right for me. I felt I had lost my self-worth and everything I had worked so hard for and immediately started regretting my decision of leaving the Mounties (im in Canada). When you serve others you also serve yourself. Serving others in any capacity increases your feeling of self-worth.
Many people sent me words of support and congratulations via FB but there I was feeling terribly alone. Its so easy these days you read one of someone most important event of their lives, quickly reply, and go back to your life (because its what we do, we peek our head out and continue on our personnal journey)! But the person at the other end may still feel lonely! Yesterday I was that person and I was missing real human connections.
And here I was at home trying to create a blog about PTSD to share my own story about moving forward (because this affects so many people). I have been a public advocate about this issue along my career and thought keeping speaking up would leave some sort of legacy. But instead I felt so alone and sad and it resulted in feeling profoundly depressed, as I kept judging myself so harshly. Discouraged of myself I closed my computer, hug my dog & went to bed.
This morning you give me a chance to reflect on what happened for feeling so lonely. You gave me strength in aknowledging my feelings but also in looking at another way to question myself when this so commun feeling of loneliness arises.
Thank you for doing what you do and doing it with such convictions. And thanks to all these ladies who shared their stories. ❤️
Annabelle,
Your comment “Many people sent me words of support and congratulations via FB but there I was feeling terribly alone. Its so easy these days you read one of someone most important event of their lives, quickly reply, and go back to your life (because its what we do, we peek our head out and continue on our personnal journey)! But the person at the other end may still feel lonely! “.
Thank you so much for pointing out something that so many of us do I will pick up the phone from now and reach out. Good news or bad we can all benefit by true connection with others. I wish you the best as you move forward in your life. Finding a new career or purpose will be the greatest adventure ever.
Thank you Lora. Yes we all feel like getting acknowledged and truly heard, and to connect on a human level is so important. Its a good reminder for myself also! Thank you for your words.
Annabelle,
I am from Canada, too. My cousin is an RCMP officer also. My uncle was an OPP officer. I understand the stress you went through, that maybe it wasnt always appreciated. I know you’ve probably seen many things that hurt you deeply but you had to swallow that down and focus on doing your job. I want to say Thank You. Thank you for protecting and safeguarding the people in our country. Thank you for puting yourself in danger to care for others. Thank you for keeping the peace and upholding the law.
I know about the loneliness and sadness that comes from leaving a position like yours. Everyday you were relied upon and needed to do a really important job. You had a place in the community that held a lot of power and respect. You had unity and fellowship that recognised the role you played. It is an enormous change to your life to not have that everyday. It can leave you adrift, wondering if you are still important, and wondering what to do next. I hope you received some counselling to ease you through the transition. I truly believe that is very important for police officers, firefighters, paramedics. Those highpaced, risky, action filled, responsible jobs. You need help returning to more mundane, quiet lifestyles. My uncle suffered through a great depression after retirement, not knowing what to do with himself, not being called out to do his duty, trying to keep himself busy. It did not turn out well. So I feel your loneliness and pain. I really hope you have solid friends and family around you and I really believe some therapy would benefit you. Please take care of yourself.
Sandra
Matthew, if you want a real community, you should start one. I would love to connect with some of these people. If we had a place to connect and make friends, maybe we wouldn’t feel so lonely. For me, I have trust issues because I’ve been lied to, very deceitfully, by men in the past so I’m very guarded and being vulnerable is super hard. Maybe talking with other women who have been deceived by men would help me feel like I’m not alone.
Thank you, Matthew. My mother is alone for the first time in years after my stepfather went into an assisted living facility. Not only am I learning with your videos, I am sharing them with my mother.
Thank you so much, it was really great teaching. in-spite of being with the family still i am always lonely. but after watching your video i am feeling better. thank you once again
This really resonates with me. I truly believe that loneliness and being alone are 2 seperate things and that they do not equal each other. (Something I have tried to explain to my mother numerous times whenever I’m single).
I feel most lonely when I’m not feeling connected to myself. I truly believe in having a good relationship with oneself and treating oneself with love, kindness and respect, and nuturing it like any other relationship – with time and effort. When I neglect to do this I feel lonely.
There is one other time in my life when I have never felt more lonely – I was in a long term relationship that just wasn’t working. Even though I was in a relationship, i got to the point where I had never felt more lonely in my life. Again this made the big distinction for me – being alone and loneliness are 2 seperate concepts entirely.
Great advice ! Thank you , needed this right now
Thank you Matthew! I needed this video today. I have been watching your videos for a while now and you inspire me.
I’ve been feeling pretty lonely lately and this came at the perfect time.
Thank you for being you!
Hi Matthew,
I don’t know how you do it, but you always find the best way to express exactly what we feel. I have experienced loneliness last year too and the moment I started to talk about my problems and read personal development books everything started to change. I have found out so many new things about myself, experienced new feelings and situations, that right now I don’t have time to do all the things I’d like to do, read all the books I want to read, meet all the people I want to meet, etc. and it’s great, even though I’m single I’m happier and more fulfilled than most of the people I know, I don’t remember last time I was bored. The fact is this: the more vulnerable and open to people you get, the stronger you become!
Your books and videos also have a great merit too, thank you and your team from all my heart for being such an inspiration, thanks to you guys I have discovered a lot of traits about the woman in me I wasn’t even aware of.
I just love you guys, if you ever come to Switzerland I’d love to meet you for a talk, or maybe you consider to have a seminar here
Have a great day!❤️
Well said. Very helpful content everyone would benifit from❣️
I just finished reading Daring Greatly by Brene Brown which is about vulnerability and this video summarizes all that she wrote in her book. All through the first part of your video I was thinking that vulnerability is the answer and that’s exactly what you said! Bravo to us both!
I never really thought of loneliness that way Matthew, it’s opened my eyes to the new possibility that maybe I do need to be more vulnerable. I can’t keep myself locked away from the world forever, I need to open my heart again. Thank you so much. For teaching me that bearing your heart doesn’t have to be selfish… You can bare yourself in front of someone without expecting anything in return. I really appreciate you as an amazing coach and as a human being.
I’m just going through a break up ATM and man the loneliness and feeling of despair, worth I too much. I getwaves of being good but then it hits like. Tsunami again
Hi Mathew,
I have been listening to all of your on line conversations, watching your videos and reading your posts. I am always so amazed at the wisdom you have, for such a young person. I recently turned 54. I’ve been apart and divorced from my high school sweetheart, for 10 years. He was a pro athlete and cheated like a champion, but mostly, left me alone whenever possible, for many different reasons.
The loneliness factor has been in my life, always. I have learned to embrace it most of the time. I am ready to meet someone new, which is why I’ve been watching and listening to you.
I know that happiness and good smiles, attract others, so we need to work on ourselves, in this regard. The loneliness kreeps in, constantly. I’m not willing to compromise on my next connection, romantically, but it is tempting at times, so thank you for your time, spent on this subject of loneliness ❤️
Warm Regards
Penni
2 1/2 years ago I had a health crisis that could have left half of my face paralyzed. My fear of isolation and rejection was far worse than my fear of the disease. When my surgery was a success, I knew I could never again live my life waiting for “the one,” some intimate relationship that would make my life feel meaningful and connected. I began deliberately opening up to the messiness of connection with everyone. I invited my sister to live with me, got in daily contact with the rest of my family, went back to taking on clients in vulnerable situations instead of just teaching, became a volunteer chaplain at the local hospital, even worked with friends to start a project working with low income high school kids in Africa. I’ve only had one boyfriend in that time, and it wasn’t very healthy, so I know I still have some things to learn about intimate relationships. I came to your site because you have long offered wonderful, sensible, thoughtful advice about relationships. But from my experiences of the past 2 1/2 years, I felt something was a bit missing. Sure, many of us could learn better relationship skills, but I have learned in a very visceral way that life and love have fairly little to do with our romantic situation. There is something so much deeper that can fulfill us so much more, that deep understanding of our universal connectedness to all creation. Just as I was thinking this last Sunday morning, I logged in and saw your blog post. Thank you so much for entering this territory, this, the final frontier of well being and human evolution. With your passion, wit, sensitivity, insight, and emotional intelligence, I feel confident that you can make a wonderful contribution to our understanding of our connectedness. I’ll be joyfully following YOUR journey as you continue to guide us in ours.