What if you’re trying to do something and getting no rewards?

I’m on Clearwater beach right now getting ready to start my 5-day Retreat tomorrow. I don’t have my normal video set up with me, but I’m going to do my best to shoot something on my phone to say hi while I’m here.

In two weeks my show comes out on NBC.

In just three weeks my book comes out in North America.

All this means that my current schedule is pretty unrelenting.

As I write this my trainers are all sat around me on the top floor of the hotel, working on content before we go into action mode for the next 5 days.

Here’s the view from where I am:

It’s always strange the day before going on stage. I sit and think about all of the things I want to convey, and I go through my training manuals to make sure I’m on my game. One of the most important things to do before a speech is to emotionally connect with your material. If you don’t do that you can have the best material in the world but you won’t speak from the heart.

I work incredibly hard and I think about my work a lot. Often people tell me to take a break or to go on holiday. But what they don’t realise is that this IS my holiday. I’m doing what I love. There’s nothing else in the world I’d rather be doing. Maybe that’ll change one day. Maybe I’ll go in another direction altogether. But until it does, I’ll keep doing this all day everyday, because my life is focused on doing what I LOVE.

When I talk to people about their lives and whether they are doing what they love, I often hear this response: “Yeah but for you it’s easier because the successes you get validates the work you’re putting into it. It reinforce your efforts so it becomes easier to work hard.”

There is a lot of truth to this. The successes I’ve gotten HAVE reinforced my behaviour and provided much needed motivation at times.

But here is where this idea misses the point:

I was doing this LONG before there were any successes to report.

For those of you who have been following my work for years, you may remember this video:

I filmed this over 3 years ago when I was living in my apartment in London and none of this had happened. I have even older videos from 3 years before that (which were pretty terrible by today’s standards) when I was really only starting out in coaching. When I first started I was in survival mode. It really wasn’t easy. There was a ton of rejection. Lots of doors closing on me from people who said I was nobody, that I had no experience and wasn’t established enough.

But I did it anyway because, well, what else would I do?

See it’s true that on some projects in life you stop when you’re not getting any rewards.

But when it’s your love, your passion, you do it regardless of the ‘validation’, because you know you wouldn’t be doing anything else in the world.

If your love in life was business, then you wouldn’t stop creating businesses just because one project didn’t pay off. You would just change your approach. If you love business then you know you’ll be creating businesses till the day you die, because that’s what you love.

A painter who is a painter in her heart doesn’t stop painting because no one is buying her work. She paints because that’s who she is at her core – a creative soul who expresses it through her paintings. She doesn’t do it for the money.

I love the lifestyle I get from my public speaking. I love the fact that I get to travel. I love the amazing individuals I’ve been able to meet as a result, and the opportunities it affords me in life. But I was doing this before I had any of that, and I’ll still be doing this when the TV cameras go away. I’d do this if there was NO money in it and I had to sustain myself working in Mcdonalds. I’d be doing this if I had only one person to give a seminar to each week, because I F*****G LOVE learning about and helping people. It’s my obsession.

Everything else is a just a wonderful bonus (most of which I never even anticipated, let alone got motivated by).

Oh and do I need to point out the obvious parallel with your love life?

  • Flirt because you LOVE flirting.
  • Love because you LOVE loving.
  • Be courageous because you LOVE being courageous.

Don’t do it for the rewards – those are all just wonderful bonuses.

I want to leave you with a video today from an up-and-coming artist who is also carving his space out in the world. His name is George Watsky and he’s another great story to follow. His new song is called Cardboard Castles. I have no reason to promote his work other than the fact that his song sums up so much of this blog post, and that I love to help someone succeed in doing what they love.

My favourite line of the song:

“I do things on a shoe string you couldn’t do with a cool mill”.

Because that’s what we do here on this blog. We work with what we have. You don’t have stone? Then build your castles out of cardboard.

I’ll finish with a question aimed at you…

What do you do in your life for no other reason than you LOVE it? If you have 30 seconds tell me by leaving a comment below. I can’t wait to learn about your passion in life.

Massive love to you AND your wonderful life.



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  1. Stefanie Fernando says:

    I love studying and practising astrology. The excitement/adrenaline rush I feel when I type the birth details into the astrology software, and wait for the chart to be generated can never be replaced by anything in the world! I get a lots of questions from females in my life on relationships. When are they gonna meet the special someone, what will he be like, where will they meet him and how their relationship or marriage will be. Since I get asked that more than questions on career or children, I find that I have been forced to look at the relationship charts more ;) The guys just wanna know whether they will make more money, which I have not much experience in reading. After studying astrology, I am more grounded in life and it gives my life a sense of purpose. I am less judgemental of people when I know their chart, because I accept why they are , they way they are. It also helps me to make peace with things that I can’t change and instead focus on matters that require me improving upon. After looking at my own chart, I realize that the issue is not with the guy but rather with myself and what I have to work through. That sometimes, it is all right if you don’t share similar interest and hobbies with someone but what is most important are, are both your values and paths in life similar.

  2. chantal says:

    I LOVE teaching people human nature so that whatever the circumstance they can find peace through understanding and forgiveness. Focusing on dating right now… ;)

    the other day someone took me out for a day of “relaxation”. I put my phone on my lap for the drive in case I got an email. He said, why don’t you take a break today? I looked at him sideways, actually surprised a bit in that moment of shock that happens during self realization. The word “break” seemed so alien given the circumstance…being that all this hard work felt nothing like work, and “break” only applies to something you feel you need to get away from, not something you’re happily chasing. Take a break? Pfffft

  3. wendy says:

    Hi Matthew,i work in catering & hv done for 15yrs i love it bcos i love serving my customers and make sure they get gud nutrition in a clean environment,its very rewarding.Gud luck with your nxt shows iv enjoyed watching the tips on ur videos.I like chivalrous men like yourself & i do ike to advise customers at work too.xx

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  5. Rawan says:

    I love my job, and i’m freshly graduated and i have waited sooo much to get a job of my passion not my dreams. but for my passion and everyday it fills me with joy ND I WANT T DO AND LEARN MORE ABOUT IT.i have learnt that in life to be successful you need to take baby steps toward what you want. step by step you’ll get there for sure. i’m following this strategy towards my health now and y love life too. and simply everything that i want.
    i’m more than thankful that i came to know a dating couch like you who is very special like you who comes out of a place that no one did. I have read tons of books on love and dating and each have taught me something but unfortunately they were wrong or comes from hard to get crap talk. when i used to date guys i never really loved my attitude or i was feeling myself thats not what Rawan is. until i came to ( you can heal your life ) by Lousie hay. Her book covered every aspect of life including relationships. it has changed the ENTIRE WORLD for me. i could never expect to be so much alive and happy to be in love with myself and being myself thats just the best thing you can do to your amazing self. and thats exactly where your concepts and insights are coming from.

    i dont have to be someone i dont want or i fake by being hard to get. i’m now very hard to forget and i have so much guys in my life that i have never had before. being an attractive woman is lots of fun and a pure experience that comes from the HEART. she has to do what she feels right at the same time she has a backbone and know exactly how to respond and how to express herself in a MARS language without much effort thanks to ( men from mars woman from venus ) which is the greatest book i have ever read and i advice every one to read.

    thank you so much for your hard work and i encourage you to do more of what you love Mathew. i sincerely love you like really really love you. i cant wait to receive your book which i ordered a few days ago.

    thanks again you are AMAZING XXXX

  6. K says:

    I love training dogs and their owners. The challenge of understanding the dog’s and owner’s psychology and adapting my approach to meet both needs is extremely stimulating. Encouraging and guiding an owner to enable their dog to become balanced and obedient is hugely rewarding. And the few times where the owner can’t hear what I say because it clashes with their values spurs me on to continually develop myself and my approach. There is always a solution and the empowerment this brings both to me and the owner is immensely gratifying.

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  8. Danica says:

    Dear Matt

    Thank you for all of these; your blogs, books and videos. You have helped me to continue surviving smart. I really truly need all of these and I am one of your biggest fans, though you may not know me. I am waiting eagerly the day I could afford to come to your retreats.

    Lots of love and best wishes,

  9. Tiffany says:

    Hey Matthew,

    This is a great question, its very thought provoking. For my entire life, I swear from the moment I could grasp anything I started to create. I have always been an artist, any which way I can be. Specifically my most current passion is that I love to take photographs, on film rather than digital, and I absolutely love the process of bringing that photograph to life through the various developing elements, unfortunately lack of availability of a darkroom and chemicals has put this love on hold but never fear for I have another passion… Dance, specifically West Coast Swing. I know there are health benefits to dancing however I don’t dance for my physical health I dance for my emotional health, I LOVE IT. The feeling I get when I’m on the dance floor grooving, spinning and occasionally acting like a goof is indescribable. I started dancing in college and eventually was on a dance sport team, sadly those years are past and I have found myself on a new adventure in life I moved to a big city 10hrs away from family (3 weeks ago) and admittedly have been struggling, but through happenstance I have found several companies around the city that offer WCS classes and social dancing and if it wasn’t for the advice that I have received from your program, blog, and newsletter I probably wouldn’t have plucked up the courage to go and introduce myself to a whole new group of people and actively conversed and freely danced with the group of people there, I still feel like I have a long way to go before I’m out of my shell but you have empowered me far beyond I would have expected of myself simply because I know me :) I want to thank you for that and I hope that this helped

    Tiffany D

  10. elizabeth says:


    I just found you today, well yesterday as I have been spending hours checking out your videos and now your blog.

    My grandmother always said that she was the luckiest person she could be because she loved her work. She went to bed thinking of how she couldn’t wait to get up and get back to it.

    For me, this is the scariest question I could be asking myself at this time in my life. Guess I am going to wrestle with it for now.

    So why am I responding if I don’t have an answer…

    It seems like a perfect place to send “your appreciated” out to you!

    Warm regards,

  11. Andrea says:

    Just for fun, I blog about being awesome. I don’t make a single penny off of it (at least not yet), but I LOVE the gratification of hearing that something I wrote made a difference in someone’s life. It’s an amazing feeling to know that I helped to brighten someone’s day!

  12. Sarah says:

    Hey Matt,
    In many of your videos you talk about meeting people through your friends and going out with friends to find the right guy or to expand your social circle. What about in scenarios were you are unable to meet people through your friends or that your friends are not the type to want to go out often… What would you reccommend in a situation such as that?

  13. Ilona says:

    Thanks Matt! Thanks for the live event in London in February. It was one of the happiest days in my life. After I left the event I felt like dancing in the middle of the road all night long.. I felt like hugging the whole world:)
    It was so impressive!

  14. Mel says:

    I’m one of those who may be “on the curb again” shortly, but for me it’s a day by day thing. I’m a grad student, and like you I intend to pursue a career in coaching (I am going into life coaching, and while I’m sure relationship issues will come up, my focus is on the individual). This is my “cardboard castle”. I’m not going to stop.

    Thank you for sharing your own story of perseverance, reflections, for the advice you publish for free (I did buy your book, and as finances become available, will continue being a loyal customer because I find so much value in your work, your life’s calling). Maybe one day we’ll meet in person at one of your seminars. Maybe one of these days you’ll have a life coach who will ask for your consulting services to teach her how to guide her clients in finding and sustaining the right relationship!

    So, for me and I’m sure many others out there, could you write or produce something that would give us an idea of how to avoid the problem of being able to attract men like flies on honey, however we end up having to reject great guys because they move too fast and this is unacceptable to US (women), because we haven’t had the time and opportunity to even get to know the guy! Getting the guy may prove challenging for some, and for others, the problem is getting the guy to slow down to the point where we can get to know him, build a relationship, and then be in a position to evaluate future prospects.

    I love everything you produce, and give total kudos to your book. I’d like to see something about how to get the guy to hold off on his marriage proposal for long enough (like, literally longer than a month!) to allow us time to make clear decisions. This is a very tricky situation; I have never found a way to decline a marriage proposal and still be able to maintain a dating relationship.

  15. erika says:

    wow, that video and advice was inspiring :D

  16. Traci says:

    I recently signed onto the blog so this is my first response, even though I realize the blog was written some time ago. My response for my passion in life is my love of music and specifically singing opera. I spent 10 years between getting my degree and going back to school simply going through the paces. I had a job could support myself and was still singing but as a hobby. I found myself trying to find reasons to not go into work each day. I dreading getting out of bed and the only time I was happy was in a rehearsal for a show. It took me 10 years to realize that in order for me to live my authentic life I would only be happy doing what I love which is to sing. Just like you, Matthew, I would sing even if it garnered no money, recognition. I am now trying to do the same with the other areas of my life…friends, family, and relationships

  17. Monica says:

    Hi, I’m currently a freshman in high school and recently on Valentine’s Day a guy I didn’t really know called after me with his friends and told me he thought I was beautiful. I’m sort of wondering if he might have meant it simply as a compliment, or maybe as a sign that he’s interested? His locker’s also right next to mine, so we’ve seen each other a couple of times.

    The thing is now, whenever I see him, I act like nothing happened. I don’t know if I should try saying hi or not because I’m not sure what he would think after all this time of me not saying anything and, as bad as it sounds, acknowledging his existence. I’m also still not sure if he just meant it as a compliment.

    Should I maybe try to pursue something? I feel like the moment’s passed. Do you think he was interested?

  18. Anete says:

    I love taking pictures. I’m studying photography and I’ve been taking pictures of my friends and friends of friends for years. If someone I don’t know is asking for a personal photoshoot, I don’t think about money and I ask them how much would they like to pay for that. I don’t want some financial issues to stop them from getting nice pictures. I really enjoy time communicating with my my friends or new people and making creative results out of it.

  19. Diana says:

    Hmm..good question. I enjoy dancing and also trying to learn French

  20. Andy says:

    I find myresonance and inner peace in what many call the occult. Astrology, numerology and the like. Feels like home. My love life is on the rocks to some extent. Him wanting me, but also asking me to sleep around. It’s lose lose. Those things are my distraction. They sooth the soul.

  21. J. says:

    Hi Matthew,

    Thanks for this post. It so articulately sums up why I love what I am doing in my life. I work in the field of advanced education and training, and I work to make post-secondary more accessible and relevant for folks from all walks of life. It requires long and crazy work days, but it allows me to be creative in developing different ways of reaching out to people, and to work on things that can really make a difference in someone’s every day life, like raising literacy levels. I love it. Your post also sums up why I love distance running. It requires a lot of time, focus, and heart to stick with it, sometimes it’s painful, and people often think I’m crazy for doing it. But for me it is exhilarating to challenge myself, push for an extra couple of kilometres, or try for a new personal best.


  22. Barbara says:

    So true. The goal is not what motivates you longterm. At least not for me. But I’ve already known that

    As for things I do solely because I love doing them .. there are a couple of things – but practically, learning ANYTHING new.
    Right now, while I’m still living with my mother (a musician, btw), I want to learn anything I can.
    It’s fun, it’s different, and feels great. But there is one thing about that .. learning something is never obsolete. So it will be useful, perhaps not everything, but you never know when you need something anyways.

    I started playing alto-flute just a week ago. I got incredibly far during this week, and started piano a few days ago,

    I’m learning to knit(working on leg warmers right now, because it’s fun. And you can easily do it while you watch something

    I love singing. Singing makes me happy. And helps me when I’m down.

    I started to go to the gym and sauna regularily .. not because it’s healthy (although that is a good point), but because I simply love it. I wouldn’t do it otherwise.

    And I love learning Japanese.

    There’s too much to love for me, haha^^
    Life sure is great!

    • Stephen Hussey says:

      You have too many skills Barbara – I’m jealous. I’m still trying to crack French at the moment! Thanks for writing x

  23. Natália Danzmann says:

    Firstly, I’d like to thank you SO much for this post. Seriously, I was motivated by the rewards only when it comes to my love life, until now. You made me notice something no one else could, which is where my mistake is. Thank you!
    Well, now answering your question: I’m no professional folk singer, I’m actually a translator (which is something else I enjoy doing) but what I LOVE to do without expecting any reward for is singing Irish songs. I will do it until I die, and even if I lose my voice someday, I will still do it in my mind… because I LOVE it!

  24. rachel says:

    I am one of Jehovah’s Witnesses and love serving the true God, Jehovah! Even if he never blessed me, I would do it regardless.

  25. Victoria says:

    What a wonderful and creative “Castles to the Sky “video AND he got the girl! I love to help clients with their communication…I’m a Speech Pathologist with a passion for helping others! Best wishes to you and your staff!

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  29. kristina says:

    The worst place to be is not knowing what hour love to do because you have Brendon programmed to do things that productive but not fun. I used to love to paint but it was discouraged so I never pursued it. You have a very important message.

  30. Cassi says:

    I love the message in the song you posted and the storyline in the video.

    The thing I do simply because I love it is spend time with children. We can learn so much from the youth around us, and it helps us to become better people when we know someone is watching your example.

  31. Thirza says:

    Hi Matthew I just love your website and this blog and your tips just everything. Thanks so much for everything i really appreciate it. Now the one thing that i love to do is Singing but everyone better than me in singing. Ive posted one video on youtube from me singing but i removed it because for it wasn’t good enough. And a few days later i saw Christina Grimmie singing on youtube and than i just thought she i so good in singing i never be good enough too improve her so since than i just leave it. well i love too sing but it never gonna workout like i thought i would. Maybe i just think wrong i dont know?
    And something that i love to do is baking i just love to bake cake cupcakes for everyone. and in the bakery on school is one boy that i like very much. He like the same thing as me and he wants to be a baker later. Just like me and now is he following a eduction to become a baker and next year he is going to that another school to follow that education and i’m afraid that im not gonna see him anymore. Well once i was in a situation that i want to ask his phonenumber well i was afraid to ask him. So i ask a another boy for advice how you can ask his phonenumber and that boy were i asked that advice from says Why? do you like him? and i said to him yeah i do like him from you can now it that i like him i dont mind. So He walks to that boy i like in the bakkery and they have a little man to man talk about me. And have must go to him to hear it himself and he Said sweet for asking but NO. But i think he said no because all the other boys were stand arround him and said to him. Come on give this girl your phonenumber. I dont know? Later i said that he only use his phone to do games on it. And After a while when i working in the bakkery with him (yeah he was their just working) I said I never wanted that (the other boy) ask you that. And he said to me he already knowed it that i was i love in him they way i did and other things etc. Than i said to him i justed wanted first to be good friends and later when im older a realtionship with youi was scared to said that but later on im not regret that i said that. But how can i change his mind the he gonna like me More than friends? well he ask me now more about school and or if i wanna to the same thing as him. And every Wendsday when i have bakkery whe say Good Morning To eatchother. And he ask me once what my favorite Tv Programs were?
    Maybe He dont want a Realationship Now but later when we both older. But i dont have his PhoneNumber He has Facebook i send him a friendrequest But he only comes once a year one facebook? How can i do that? PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE

  32. Anna says:

    Hi Matthew,

    Not to sound too cheesy but my passion is life. Life with all the happy and sad moments, victories and losses, challengies, lessons, and opportunities. It’s a miracle in itself to have a chance to live so enjoying every piece of it is my watchword. As the song from Chicago musical goes “If life is a game I’ll play it the best”!


  33. Kayla says:

    Cooking, snowboarding, and carring for my dog are my main things I do just beacause I love them! :D
    Thank you for sharing such an amzing song too!! I just fell inlove with Watsky, and I can’t believe I hadn’t heard of him yet.

  34. Hanna says:

    Something i do that just fills me up with love is caring for animals, and especially dogs.. Right now i live in India and no matter what dog i meet (often stray dogs) i give them anything i can for food or give them some love. Its not because i want to be a good person or anything i just love them so much! And peoples views on strays are often so wrong.. Maybe i have an eye for which dog to walk up to and not, but every dog i meet is so kind and respectful! And i think it brightens both my day and the dogs after spending some time togheter!

  35. Desiree says:

    Matthew – I have several passions but my top two are singing and reading. If I’m not doing one, I’m doing the other. Sometimes I sing and read at the same time. They both bring me peace when I need time to think, and its who I am.

    Desiree :)

  36. Anamaria says:

    Hi Matthew Hussey,

    to answer your question… My passion is singing… I love to sing, i’m not as good as most but that doesn’t stop me from singing. Anyways your blogs are awesome. I like reading them :).

    Have an awesome day, night ..wherever and whenever your reading this :)

    Kind Regards,

  37. Adria says:

    My passion is Interior Design and Gardening. I help run my family business which is a retail store and I really have little time for my passion at the moment. What I really want to do is open my own retail store and show how spaces can be created with old and new products (Furniture, home decor and plants) I am really good at it and I always have friends and family asking me for advice. I also have a 3 year college education in Interior Architectural Design. I am living in a small apartment right now and leaves little room to do what I love but I just bought a house and will be getting the keys April 12th. I will have about 6 weeks to do any major renovations and then I will be able to start organizing my plan to open up shop. I am excited about it and can’t wait to be able to move into my larger space. I also love writing, painting, knitting and sewing. I hope to do more of those things when I get into my new house and sell some of my products that I make. Scarves, purses and bags being some of my favourites to make. Thank you for asking this question because even if it is never read by anyone it at least got me to write it down. Somehow it now makes it more real and feels possible that it will happen! Matthew you have fueled me to get started on my passion right away! Love to you and what you do! Your are an inspiration! x

  38. Rose says:

    Hey there

    Interesting question Matt – what are my passions?
    At first I couldn’t think of any. Then it dawned on me, I do over 30 hours a week voluntary work – not because I have to but because I choose to. I gave up a wonderful career to make a difference to the world. Small steps are the best way. I received a comment earlier from a young lady who I’m mentoring to take my position (eventually), “I wish that when I do your job, that I’ll be nearly as good as you – you work so hard.” I told her that flattery gets you everywhere lol. On a serious note – it’s amazing to make a difference to somebody else’s life. I love to motivate people or simply be a shoulder to cry on (I’m nosey, I can’t help it hehe). So watch out Matt – I might try to steal your job:-)



  39. Petra says:


    I mentioned this already a few times on this blog – I love coaching and mentoring, or let’s say trying to get the best out of people and inspire them. It is like to give energy and immed. it gets back to you. Such a great feeling! I work in HR, which I love, so my focus is ‘getthejob’ :) and I must say you have been great inspiration for me.

  40. Nanette says:

    Hi Matt,

    My passion when things go sour that I move forward, is listening to music and dancing when no one looking. I’m still trying to break my shield of being shy especailly with a certain guy.
    And he knows it too. Strange thing too, when I see him we main eye contact and sent each other smile. To this today I kick my self (not physically) but there were times that I think he was hinting me that he want to hang out or go on a date but, yes the shyness kick in.

    But if things change i’ll let you know.


  41. Katie Jolly says:

    I keep hearing this song on the radio and thought Matthew might like it as I feel it relates to his life at the moment!


    I stumbled across one of his earlier life coaching videos and have popped in every now and then to see how it’s going for him.

    Big congratulations on your success Matthew. I hope my book will be on a shelf not too far away from yours in the future =)

  42. Aylin says:

    Dear Matthew,
    I love your blogs. they are always motivating, positive, honest and spot on. I ve even started watching your videos as an antidote for a bad day, or if am feeling a bit down. You always cheer me up!
    I love playing the piano. And i love to sing. Haven’t done it in a loooong time. but now, just thinking about it, the joy bubbles up inside me. thanks for the inspiration! Soon I will do what I love doing!
    All the best luck with your TV show! I bet people all over the world are sending you their love and support – and here is some more from me xoxo Aylin

  43. Liz says:

    Creative designer. Computer Geek. People/movie lover. Writer. Musician. Artist. Environmentalist. Photographer. Poetic soul. Fitness chick. Passionate Diva :) That just about sums me up. That just about makes me love being in love with life :)

  44. Genevieve says:

    Hey there Matthew!

    Honestly there are several things that I absolutely love to do simply for the sake of doing them. Whether it be drawing (or painting), writing, or singing, I feel passionate about it. I love creative expression. I don’t earn any money doing any of these things(maybe someday that will change),but I can’t imagine not doing them.

    Also, I just wanted to thank you for all the thought-provoking blog posts you take the time and effort to put up. It always makes my day just a little better when I see a new post.

    Maybe this sounds weird but seeing you on the previews of Ready for Love feels almost like seeing a friend or someone you know on TV, and then you’re like “Hey, I know that guy!”… except you don’t actually know them, you just follow them on the internet…
    Haha anyways, keep being awesome – can’t wait to see the show! Thanks again,


  45. veronica mundell says:

    what a great tune. thank you for the intro. I am also thankful for the reminder to focus on my passion in life and love and live for the sake of it. My desire will take me where I want to go. Have you ever read The Alchemist, by Paulo Coelho? xoxo

  46. Tina says:

    Hiya Matt,

    I fully felt your message. From *Heart 2 Heart* thankyou.

    Be true to who you are. That truth, of who we are, is Attractive! *Love radiates Love*

    I *Love* my Creative Passions

    Warmth, Kindness,
    & support in your
    passionate goals

    Tina x

  47. Dionea says:

    I live in Brazil and I’m already in a relationship (for almost 8 years now), but I like to read your posts because it helps me understand the male mind a little bit more… As for my passion, my boyfriend and I have launched a digital magazine about music about three years ago just for the heck of it – I’m a journalist, he’s a designer, we both love to talk about music. We expanded it to a web portal last year. So far we didn’t see a dime out of it, but we got a lot of respect from labels and other people in the business. We got to interview a lot of people we admire. But it gets frustrating sometimes to see no one wanting to invest in our websites. I seriously thought it would’ve happened for us already…

  48. Kerly says:

    Oh Matthew..
    I just can’t even explain how happy I am that I ever found you on youtube last year..

    You are literally the biggest discovery in my life so far… in an eye opening way,,
    I have learned so so much from your videos, articles, book, online training page..
    You are my biggest inspiration, and whenever I need to be motivated I just watch one of ur videos:))
    I think you are such an awesome person, and I would truly like to meet you one day,..I don’t know if you even do private meet ups, especially now when things are really going great for you. If not I’ll find a way to meet you some day:) I think you would like me:) hehe..

    But on this topic: my true passion is dancing, it is just something I love doing, I get lost in it. I believe people should do what they love, and I am definitely one of those people who will do what I love no matter what:)

    Love you Matthew, good luck with your new show and enjoy the feeling of success..yeah just try to enjoy everything good that comes along with whatever you are experiencing now:) Seize the moments and appreciate every second of your life:) xxx

    • Inggrid says:

      Hi Kerly,

      I am totally with you. Found GTG last year and so glad i did. Same thing,when i need an inspiration, i look matthew up. I also love dancing,compared to my work,but never thought i can make a living with dance. I am from indonesia and i do balinese dance, dont know how to make a job from it.but i want to try because i will dance till i die.

      Trying to be happy and learning from matthew,

  49. michelle says:

    i love to dance salsa. i didn’t start out too elegant, but i just HAD to do it, and keep doing it. it was just something in my bones that shouted out for joy each time i did that mambo…now i can walk up to the best-looking, most athletic guy on a dancefloor, ask him to dance and know he won’t leave dissappointed. i look at people’s faces as i come off the dance floor and i know they’re seeing a hot, joyful, glamorous expert. it’s magic!

  50. Jessica says:

    I just LOVE singing! I wish there was a way to let people know about my passion and my talent! :D anyways nice work, I always read your emails!

    Much Love,

  51. Lydia says:

    Hola Matt!
    I’m totally agree with you! I work in tourism! I’m so passionate about it since I was a little girl! I have to put some effort in learning other languages just to try to be better in order to help ppl! And I really do it from the heart This may sound crazy but I also think I would keep doing it even if I don’t get paid for it just because I love helping ppl and to see their faces when you help them that’s the best reward I can ever have! So I do understand what you mean!
    Thanks for the song, good one!

    Lots of love and courage from Spain

  52. Rachel says:

    What a great post. Very humble too the way you posted the video from the old days! The post reminds me of more advice to follow along the lines of the saying ‘do what you love and the money will follow’. Oh, and my thing is trying to make good perfume. I went on a day course in a tiny little perfume shop in the Cotswolds, and ever since then I’ve been wreaking havoc playing with my potions!

  53. Alicia says:

    Hi Matthew.

    I’ve wanted to share my feelings with you for a long time. More or less along this subject. I have been following you blog for a couple years now and I just want to thank you for the wonderful work you do. You are an inspiration to so many people.

    When I started following your blog I have to admit I was looking for a form of a confidence boost. I mean everyone needs one from time to time but I had severely suffered from depression two years before. During that time I never got suicidal because I still loved myself, but I just felt inadequate on so many levels. I struggled to show others my true and wonderful self. But I knew I could do it. I had seen instances of greatness in me that I leaned upon. I was always the younger awkward sister and felt that I didn’t quite compare to beautiful sister with the new marriage. So I found myself looking in all the wrong places in hopes to gain experience and perspective. Until I found your work.
    I have to say I was a bit sceptical at fist but as I took your advice to open myself up for new learning and start a fresh my world has changed.
    Who I was then and who I am now is completely different, but necessarily in the ways that you’d expect. My expectations when I started listening to you was that I would get great dating tips and insights. That possibly I might feel more secure in talking to guys. And even though that has been a great outcome I seen changes in myself that have shocked even me, the one who saw the potential in myself in the first place.

    I gained a confidence that I couldn’t describe. I was no longer afraid of rejection from not only men, but my peers. I started to walk a little taller and to sing a little louder in my car. I laughed a lot more at things that I saw as genuinely hilarious and embarrassing moments didn’t bother me as much. (Esp. because I know they’re bound to happen haha!) Stressful situations didn’t stress me out anymore and even though some may say it’s unhealthy stress often feels like a distance memory. Why is it that all these changes happened? It’s because I learned to love myself. Yes LOVE myself. I began to love my quirks, my aspirations, my passion, and my head-strong ways. I began to see myself as the beautiful person I am. I look in the mirror and think ‘yeah, she’s beautiful.’ Because as cliche as this might seem I had truly discovered that I’M WORTH IT. Something had changed… snapped. My love of life had a new energy to steam out from; my love of myself. Never before did I expect to have the result that I did. But the way that you talked about an individuals worth I guess rubbed off.
    So my passion has become funnily enough in the past while has changed from wanting to inspire others to loving myself first so I can inspire others. I always knew who I was and thought I knew what I was capable of but until it started to manifest itself in my own life did I realize that I am an amazing person. I am funny, I am talented, I am quirky, and a kind sincere person. I love life, and my family. But most of all I love myself.

    From that realization where I let everything go and didn’t worry about being perfect, or being the top student everything good, and I mean EVERYTHING good began to “rush-in”. My association with friends and family began to change. I started to notice people would always be around me and were drawn to who I was quirks and all. A ridiculous amount of guys started asking my on dates. To the point where I would actually have to reschedule with some because I already had a date that evening. I noticed people would get super animated and happy when I walk into a room. I began to be the confidant of so many friends who even at first acquaintance would share themselves and their deep desire with me. And what did I say to them? You are worth it! You are an amazing person! And I’m glad we are friends!

    So when you ask what I’m passionate about (and I’m a VERY passionate person) I say to you that I love to inspire people. That had always been my ultimate goal. I had a love for life and experiences that drove me to want to place these teachings that I have learned in films to share with the world. I’m in school for film but I’m also a student of life and experience. But the conclusion I’ve come to is that if I want to truly help others I fist have to help myself. I have to love myself if I want to give them the best me. So that is what I’m doing. Loving myself because the people I’m with so that they can be fulfilled by being with me, and in turn discover their own potential. For we can truly do and be anything we want. We just have to believe. And whether love or comes around or not it doesn’t worry me anymore because my worth does not come from what anyone else thinks of me. It comes from within. And so if that love comes around I can truly say that I am being my best-self.
    So Matthew I want to thank you. Little did I know that your words would have such an impact on me. And of course it didn’t happen overnight but it was a gradual progression of changing thoughts and ideas to ones that were actually correct. And it’s almost humorous for me to look back at where I started and where I am going. Without a true love and belief in myself I would have never had the guts to pursue my career in film, I would not be moving to the U.K. even though I’ve always wanted to, I would ALSO not be going on as many dates as I do (thought you’d appreciate that insight), and I would not be able to inspire others. I have had so many opportunities since then and I can say that I know exactly where you are coming from. There’s is nothing quite so fulfilling.

    So thank you Matthew Hussey for having the courage, the passion, and the insight to stand up for people everywhere. For it was what you said that sparked this powerhouse into changing her whole existence into something worthwhile and amazing.

    Hope you have a wonderful day because you deserve it! :)

    Your sister in arms,


    • Matthew Hussey says:


      I’m speechless. What an amazing story. Thankyou so much for sharing it with me. I’m so excited you’re on the journey with me.

      Thank you for taking the time to give me your kind words and talk with courage about the rough and the smooth parts of your story. So glad you’re here.

      Matthew x

  54. Dionysia says:

    What beautiful loving responses to this fantastic post Matt!
    I feel its a fountain of Love flowing around the world!

    And thanks for the song!

    For me, music and sound touch incredible levels!

    I LOVE playing music which melts the heart!

    I played at the Wedding of a friend and was so touched when guests cried with joy in response!

    I touches so many feelings, subtle, expressive even transcendent!

    So yes…on a shoe string, I have to live and breathe this with love!

    You have a glorious week!

  55. Sandra says:

    Hi Matt. I am passionate about the work I do. Like you, I would do it regardless of the rewards. It may surprise some of you that my passion is working as a civil servant helping the unemployed getting back into work. I am privileged to be able to make a difference to people with a life changing event – similar to what you do. I love my job and never ashamed to admit it!

  56. paula says:

    I just love my job too ! CLEANING !!!! If you have fire in your mind, body and soul you can be the best you can be and you just carry on attracting more and more of the stuff you love into your live. It works every single time!!!

  57. Diane says:

    Hello Matt !
    Your question just makes me want to…. CRY !!! Why ? Because you made me realize that I’m not passionate about ANYTHING !
    I’ve been trying so hard to please everyone in my life (family, friends, teachers,…) that I never took time to ask myself what I really wanted to do. I was so afraid of what others would think of me. It’s ridiculous I know, but I couldn’t help it.
    I have a good friend of mine who think I should do some traveling. She says it would do me some good. It’s true that I’ve always wanted to do that, but I never had the opportunity.
    I can’t help but feeling a little depressed about that realization.

    I still have to thank you. With your questions I always have to take some time to think about my life and it’s not something I easily do.

    I hope you’ll keep on helping people like you do for many years because you’re really good at it.

    Kind regards,

  58. veronika says:

    hej – what I love is to experience: new things, situations and people. I love to learn about everything – I’m curious by heart and from the core. Life is so full of surprises and I like to use the bad ones to make something good from it. I love to learn about how my self works and how the world works and also the people within it. If I would start to get specific it would be just the tip of a pin needle, but I want to give you an idea of what I mean i.e. love: I love to write, draw and sing – I like art, theatre and musik. I love to teach and to learn how to teach (this is what I do right now with third-graders) and I love science: medicine, psychologie, history, biology, physics,… they offer lots of knowledge. What I like, too, is to study and practice religions/beliefs – it’s such a big area which is often the basis of what a person starts from to life her/his life and therefore very important. And I like to say thanks – I’m thankful for you blog, Matt, because it is inspiring.

  59. Kelly says:

    My passion is writing my novel, it’s a huge part of my life and it makes me so excited to think my words could make people happy. Just entered a big writing competition with a prize of a book deal, and I can’t wait to get my work out there. It could be my big chance but I know whatever happens I am determined to succeed :D

    Kelly x

  60. Christine says:

    I love to do wall climbing, mountain trekking, and ziplining. Adventure is something I will always love to do.

  61. nabila says:

    hey, matthew
    first i want to tell you that i really like reading what you write and learning from you. and about what i love to do is writing and i do write, i always write out of passion and love because it makes me feel good :D

  62. Barbara says:

    Hey, Matthew!
    I have been feeling a little down lately and your blog made me feel a lot better. I kind of have trouble in love, but I’m not going to talk about it right now.
    I love to dance, paint, sing, make photographs, write and learn foreign languages. I’m actually going to study English and German, because I think that doing what I like is the best thing I can do in my life. These days I’ve also been thinking about writing a story and posting it online to see what reactions I’ll get. My friends already told me that I’m really good at writing stories, so I hope I can maybe make somebodys day better with my stories someday just like you did it for me with this blog.
    Have a nice day! ;)

  63. Anna says:

    What do you do in your life for no other reason than you LOVE it?

    Dance. I love it. It always makes me smile. I dance with a partner (man-woman) and it is the most exhilarating feeling when we are syncronized. And when we aren’t it’s funny. We try and succeed together.

  64. Guadalupe says:

    Hi Matthew,

    I just started reading on how to attract a man. I know I can get any men but it’s been hard to find the one. I LOVE your blogs and I look forward to ready more about you and your success. I LOVE running and I am good at it. Once, a guy that I was dating told me that I was too old (I am 31yrs) to improve my times, I showed him wrong,in less than half a year i broke my college personal times. I LOVE challenges but my hardest challenge is finding thi guy.. Good luck in What you LOVE.

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