Quick quiz: How do you respond when a guy gives you mixed signals in his texts?
He sends a few texts, then goes cold for a couple of days. Then he texts you again… and disappears for another 48 hours. Do you…
- Get mad (and text him to let him know)
- Never speak to him again
- Use my #1 texting technique for effortlessly putting yourself back in control and drawing him to you.
If you chose C (which I hope you did), you’ve got to watch this video.
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…..And the best part! I am dating a grandpa and can not wait to use the grandpa emoji!
But seriously, you always hit the nail on the head!
Thanks Matt
Apologies if you’ve already made a video on this Matthew but I really need some good advice. I’m 21 and when i was 13 i met a guy in school. He was my best friend for years but even though we haven’t seen each other recently we still keep in contact on Facebook. I’m starting to look at him differently, I’m attracted to him but i don’t know how to approach this. How do i flirt with him without making him feel weird.
Great tip. What to say if it’s basically the same scenario, cancels meeting up with excuses but will say ” talk later?” ( which he sometimes does and sometimes doesn’t ;/
Loved this twilight phone post. Funny and helpful! Thank you!!
ALWAYS brilliant, Matthew! The advice already stands alone because it’s so great, but coupled with the creativity of how you delivered it makes this video not only educational, but entertaining!
I love that you use a real life example and explain it step by step. This is such a common scenario, unfortunately, and I’m so glad you offer such sound, practical advice. You’re the best. I implement your techniques very often, and it works every time!!! Thank you :)
Oh, I just LOVE the Twilight spoof!!!
Thank you Matt for the tip !!
BRILLIANT Matthew!!! Give me more! :)
hey matt, i haven’t watched your videos for a long time now, and this is really great one, i love how you explained, now i should memorise it :p, thank you and have a nice day.
Hi Matthew, you just made my day! After a week of exams and too much time spent travelling, I finally come home and find my copy of Get the Guy in the mailbox and on top of that I get a new video from you.
Thank you for your work, your inspiration and support regardless whether it´s about dating, telling me that going to a new danceclass, where I know no one, is not daunting at all, because I can always go home ( By the way, it turned out just fine and I´m going to go there again) or making a video, which I can listen to before an audition, so I´ll be in the right zone mentally.
Thank you so much.
May
Thank you Matthew, another great insight (with great humour)!
I found this so helpful. Keep up the great work! Love your videos.
I’d love to hear more about dating as a single mom. I’m currently in this situation and I wonder if my criteria for choosing a partner should be different from someone who doesn’t want kids since it’s a very different situation.
Love your blog and videos! They have helped me immensely recently and I feel more sure of what to look for and how to go about getting a partner.
Thank you, Matthew, for yet another incredibly fun and insightful video! This one hit home for me as I’m dealing with my own “grandpa-esque” texting situation right now — always a tricky nut to crack :) With your help I’m slowly getting better at dialing back my investment before it’s earned and playfully calling guys out on their screw-ups.
Am I the only one who relate more to the grandpa in this video? ;)
This was great as always!
Do you have any specific videos or guides on being a divorced parent and dating. There are definitely unique challenges when you are trying to split your evening between your children and texting a new romantic interest. I do online dating to meet men. And texting is a huge part of it. I have a hard time trying to figure out which guy is even worth my time especially through texting. They all present themselves so wonderfully and in such vague terms. And I always believe people are telling the truth until they prove me wrong. Do you have specific questions to text him to figure out more quickly if he is worth my time?
I second this request!
Perfect!
Thank you!
Great video!!!
Love it, thanks!
Whenever I delay texting someone back, it’s either because I don’t have the time (or don’t want to make the time) to respond right then, or I have no desire to talk to this person… to which, if this had been me, I probably would’ve cut my losses.
To be fair, I do know perfectly friendly people who do this. It’s a horrible habit that everyone around them is annoyed by. So maybe this guy just needed help understanding that he needs to get his act together.
This video was **almost** perfect timing for me. I met someone a few weeks ago and started texting…daily…several times a day. Lots of flirty message. Sexual tension was DEFINITELY in full gear. We tried to get together on a mutual say off, but he got called into work. We had one more face to face visit (at his work) and we were supposed to get together the following Friday. He needed to get his parents to the airport that night, but said that wouldn’t take long…honestly though, never made “plans” to see me afterwards.
Within a few days of starting our texting I explained that I prefer to talk than text. His reply was a preference to text…minor impasse but perhaps not a big deal once we had a real date.
Thursday night, I pocket dialed at about 7:45. He didn’t reply until 10:30 that night. Here’s his message:
“So I should let you know, I have a serious anxiety about phone calls. I don’t like them at all and it’s actually the hardest part of my job. Just thought I’d let you know”
Wow! Serious vulnerability. I was as impressed as I was disappointed. The next day I replied:
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Thanks for letting me know. I’m kinda getting that. I can certainly relate. I have my own collection of near paralyzing fears.
Last night’s call was an accident. I hit the call button when (my son and i) were singing lullabies.
The challenge with texting, especially given our schedules, is that it’s nearly impossible to get to know someone through text. There’s rarely any content. We lose 80% of our communication. Either side can just disappear when you think your in a conversation. There’s an anonymity to texting that allows people to push boundaries they’d unlikely push in person or on a phone call. Texting is great for a quick hello, a flirt or confirming logistics, but to use it as communication to determine whether to invest your time and energy with someone…its really hard for me.
Im not a “talk all night” kind of person. I enjoy my quiet times. However, there is something endearing, and peaceful about talking on the phone until you’re sleepy when you’re not yet ready to fall asleep in someone’s arms.
Hopefully you’ll choose to trust me and find that I’m pretty easy to talk.
Enjoy your day. I hope the month wraps up well for you.”
I haven’t heard back. I’m giving some space. I actually need to go back to his workplace sometime next week. Not sure if I should stop by to say hello if he hasn’t responded.
Matthew, I’d really appreciate some feedback
Hey Nathalie !! I just wanted to mention I am the EXACT same way about phone calls (aside from basic plans /important ones) but I absolutely just can’t handle talking on the phone to chit chat and it makes no sense to me ! I think maybe I hate any type of awkward silence , or just something I can’t explain it at all’.
But I wanted you to know that is so totally a real thing, it’s def cool that he straight up told you . I finally got to the point where I had to tell people also.
Like I’ll talk on the phone I’m nkt like terrified , I just have this unexplainable loathing when it comes to talking o the phone . Maybe I feel like put on the spot (despite that not even being rational) but I just have no idea why . I wanted to just share this not sure how late my reply is but incase someone else ever comes across it .
Good luck girlie.