It goes without saying that everything happening right now is all a dream come true.
In the last couple of days I filmed for Inside Edition, Katie Couric, and The Today Show. All to talk about my new GetTheGuy book and ‘Ready For Love’ on NBC. This week, there is A LOT more to come.
And yet, while my dreams are coming true, it’s still hard.
People often forget that when trying to achieve their dreams. And that there will be ways in which life is still hard once they’ve achieved them. My life right now is hard. It’s hugely exciting and rewarding, but it’s still hard.
First, there is the pressure to perform. The next few days are going to be the biggest (and most nerve-racking) of my life. I’ll be appearing on somewhere in the region of 12 different TV shows, 10 different radio stations, and in more articles than I can keep track of. Performing is something I’ve done for years now, every weekend at my events. I can speak for 50 hours over 5 days straight (a long way from not being able to give a 5 minute speech in class at school!). It’s become second nature to me.
Except that all of this hasn’t been a ‘performance’ for me. It’s been me. It’s my love, my passion, my baby. My ideas, my thoughts, my stories, my personal experiences… everything is me. As I evolve and change, so does my material. As my story gets richer and more diverse, so do my ideas.
I believe that a great deal of my success has been due to my authenticity, my candidness, and the fact that I’m congruent with my material. So it’s something of a bind. The more authentic I get, the more successful I become, whilst simultaneously deepening the extent to which I let people into my world and my life.
Tomorrow, the number of people who will be exposed to me in that way will be beyond anything I have ever experienced.
And that’s a little scary.
Last week a delightful journalist by the name of Amanda Stern interviewed me at my hotel in New York. She gave me one of the most interesting interviews I’d ever had. She was honest. She was tough on me, and didn’t let me off the hook on anything, but I really liked her.
As the interview was nearing a close she said, “I’m a little worried about you”. She expressed her concern for everything that was about to happen to me. I mentioned to her that although I was scared, I was resigned to staying true to who I am, to what I believe, and not getting sucked into becoming something I’m not. I also said that my friends and family were there to keep me sane and be my rock through all of it. And they do, everyday (I remember when I went back to London to see them recently, I couldn’t so much as ask my mum for a cup of tea without my brothers saying, “Oh look at this guy, he’s gone all Beverly Hills already…pathetic”. I love them so much!).
As I was thinking about what constitutes my ‘rock’ in life, or rather WHO, I began to think of you – my readers, my viewers, my clients. Recently I released our book trailer video, “Kids Talk Dating Problems” – which I’m told might be the most viewed non-fiction book trailer of all time, though I’m not sure. When I released this, alongside the lovely comments from people who saw it as the light-hearted bit of fun it was supposed to be, we also had our share of very strong negative comments on Youtube. Now it’s not that I mind the negative comments. I really don’t. They are part of life and they certainly make things more interesting. If anything they spur me on to create more. But these negative comments do remind me of something…
That when I come back to my own blog I feel like I’m home.
Because I have you. You are my rock. You welcome the new things that I put out with open arms. You celebrate it. You share it. You support me. There is something that to me is extraordinary about this little world we have created together here. It goes beyond you just liking the content of the blog. You actually want the best for me as a person. And that is a rare thing.
It means more to me than you know to have somewhere I can come back to where people know me and love me, and the knowledge that even once the show and the book have come out, you will still be here fighting forward with me gives me so much joy. Let’s face it, there will be new people who arrive here, but I love more than anything that you will be crusading with me on the journey… my original crew : )
All this is to say that you are more than my clients and followers. You are my friends. And I love you.
We are a team, and we stick together. I will keep making videos and articles to support you. I will keep writing posts and staying honest not just about my triumphs, but my flaws, my insecurities, and my doubts. There is nothing we cannot achieve as a team.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for always being there for me.
Always here for you.
Matthew xxx
P.S. I can’t wait for you to see what’s coming tomorrow. There’s an email that’s coming for you at 7am. Stay tuned.
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Hey Matt, deep breath…relaxxxx, just remember life is a journey not a destination ;) It will never be perfect around you but as long as you always reach for the moon you can only land among the stars :) ps. Protect your privacy US media are known to be the worst. Good luck from the sunny London! oh yes it is! ;)
Love you too. You are just great and no more need to be said. Hugs from Germany
Dear Matt,
I am very proud of you! I feel the same way about you! I recently started following you, reading your blogs, and videos: I feel as if we have been friends for years now:) Everything you do is truly appreciated!
Keep on leading your dreams, if it were easy everybody would! Just inhale then exhale, tell yourself it’s going to be alright, smile and continue. Remember we will always be here to lean on <3
AW I feel so lucky to be part of the original crew! I am so glad I stumbled upon one of your youtube videos that helped me so much in feeling hopeful about my future. I have learned a lot from you, and I try to keep in mind the things you say in your videos. Not only did you give me hope that someone out there could actually like me, but I think I like myself a bit more now :)
I really really wish I could be there with you. Maybe one day:) Just remember these words from the one hit wonder Matthew Wilder Ain’t nothin’ gonna break my stride
Nobody’s gonna slow me down, oh-no
I got to keep on moving
Ain’t nothin’ gonna break my stride
I’m running and I won’t touch ground
Oh-no, I got to keep on moving
You’re gonna be fine:) Call me if you need a pep talk
Just the best and most beautiful rendition of leader to his followers. Thank you for taking this pathway in your life of fulfilling your own potential by helping other to fulfill their potential. The best of luck tomorrow, you will be great. The good thing is that whatever happens you will be fine, we will be here to support you and to listen and grow thanks to your advice. Thanks for the value you provide to people. Love.
Hey Matt :-)
Wishing you all the best for tomorrow!
Thumbs Up! Big :-) and Grin ;-)
Lovely Matthew,
We ‘get’ that it is you behind the advice, the stories, the experiences in the book. Your real life stories of your romances in the book really bring home how real it all is to you. I love how candid you are in the book and in your video clips. You do a very endearing thing when you say something cheeky or risqué and follow with a cheeky knowing smile.
I don’t know how you wrote that blog without it sounding cheesy but it is obviously how something comes across when it is genuine and from the heart. I am working on learning to voice emotions. It is so easy to just feel something but not put words to it and then the moment or opportunity is gone.
It goes without saying how gorgeous you are but you are an example of perceived attractiveness. Your charming manner, smile, humour, down to earth, wear your heart on your sleeve way is why we all hang on your every word and genuinely wish you all the luck and success you so deserve.
Kathryn
Xxx
Now that does sound cheesy : )
Dear Mathew,
Thank you so much for being the wonderful person that you are, you are now the biggest thing in my life cuz if my love life ever blossems that would be because of you, thanks for giveing hope, thanks for making me love myself.
Ps. We love you too Matt… Xoxo
Dear Matt,
You’ve been probably told this a thousand times, and I understand, it is quite logical, because you give such great advices, and you have a certain charm that attracts people. But honestly, I consider you more than just a life-coach who helps me in my love life, but rather as an influence, an inspiration, a kind of positive energy, that pushes me to go ahead in the right direction. I never had the chance to know you personally, but this blog you have created here, as you say, this world that we all created together, makes me feel different, and especially close to you. You say that we’re not just your clients, we’re your friends. Well, let me tell you: You’re not just our life-coach, but our best friend, who gives us good advice when we need it most, who leads us and guides us to the right path. You’re the cause of our happiness, well, mine especially. Honestly, I got to where I am today thanks to you, your methods, and your videos. You motivated me. You’re the best, seriously.
I also wanted to congratulate you on your success, your book and your show, you really deserve it. Deep down, I always knew, you were going to make it. People need you Matt, and you really know how to deal with each and every one of them. You’re amazing, I admire you. You’re one of a kind. A true gentleman, a good person and the best coach I’ve ever seen. So, thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for everything, for sharing with us your journey, and.. I found “The One” thanks to you. Matt, you’re a wise man, I really hope that one day, I’ll get to meet you in person. I would want nothing more.
Ps: I’m french so please forgive me for my broken-english. Wish you’d come to Paris one day, believe me, it’s a beautiful city. Lots of love, xx.
Ha Matthew!I’m glad to be part of the original crew! I love how you think and also that your tips apply in general life as well.
Keep the blog posts coming :)
Hi Matthew,
I became speechless from your letter.
I admire you and I hope your program will become a huge success.
Thanks for teaching us to be HIGH Value!
I wish you good luck and strength!
Love,
Leila ( Fan from The Netherlands) :)
Matthew,
I love you because of how candid and authentic you are. What I love most about you, however, is you let us know your imperfections and don’t try hiding them. You let us know you are afraid at times, make mistakes, and have your own insecurties. You turn them all into positives and it has helped me out in so many ways over the past few years. Knowing someone as successful and handsome as you feels the same way I do at times has helped me see myself and other people in a different way. I know now others feel the same way I do. I am no longer afraid to speak to a complete stranger and wonder if they are judging me or if I am good enough for them. You are a genuine person and want the best for us ladies for that I do want the best for you. I am truly happy for you and all of your success. I can’t wait to see you at the end of the month in San Diego. I hope I get a chance to finally meet you in person and give you the big hug you deserve.
I love you too Matthew!!!
Thank you for inspiring me to live life more fully, and helping me connect to my true, authentic nature.
You are the best, God bless.
Thank you for this awesome and honest letter, Matthew! Many prayers and good vibes being sent your way! What an exciting time in your life. I celebrate your inevitable success that is to come. Much love. xxx
Dear Matthew,
Dear Matthew,
Thank you so much for everything you do to help women “get it”!
Stay yourself and you’ll be great!
Nofyah
PS. NBC hasn’t allowed its Ready For Love videos on YouTube to be viewed in Israel. EXTREMELY disappointing. Media Networks forget that these days media is a worldwide market. Women in Israel buy consumer goods and books, too. -Nofyah
Sorry about the other message, I clicked something by mistake, but originally I would like to thank you for all that you have done, you are my rock, and I will continue to support you through the hard and easy times. Good luck with all those interviews,and continue doing a fantastic job.
feel the fear and do it anyway!
good luck to you on your new and very exciting journey….and keep them coming…we love the advise coming from a man…we all continue to learn,grow and evolve
xo
Alina:)
Matthew,
I don’t know where to start but I will with the first thing that comes to my mind when I think of you and your work. THANK YOU! We’ve been missing people like you in this world and you know why? Because you are true. YOu are not a fake person that tries to just sell things for your own good. YOu are doing everything from the heart, putting yourself totally in. You don’t put yourself above any of us, you are simply next to us, giving us your advices, passing us your understanding and knowledge for us to achieve what we want and to become not only better in our love life but in our whole life. You are being the voice in our head that we forget we have, the one that reminds us that we have all what it takes, we have all the potential to make things happen if we really want. You are reminding us that things don’t come just by waiting for it to happen. Nobody will come knocking at our door and give us what we want, we have to be active and go get it. It’s about get the guy, yes but it’s more than that, it’s GET OUT THERE AND LIVE THE LIFE YOU WANT! Be our true self and let our potential shine because we have all the resources in ourselves, we really do, we just forget it sometimes and that’s where you come in the picture. YOu make us believe in our potential again and remind us that even if we can’t control everything in life, there are things we can! :)!! And I think that if we listen to you it’s because we trust you as a person. We really do, because you not only give advice, you live according to what you talk about and that makes ALL THE DIFFERENCE! You are a true person Matthew, you go beyond what most of the people do, you talk to us honestly, from the heart, sharing your reflexions, thoughts and even what you are afraid of, showing us that you are human too. Sharing with us your experience, how you are handling it! YOu make us a part of your adventure and that’s amazing. I’m really happy for you, all your effort are coming together and you deserve it all! It’s definitely going to be intense and a whole new chapter for you, it’s true that it’s not all going to be easy to handle, it’s a big move but you’ll handle the change very well I have no dough about that! You can be proud of yourself. It’s a time to CELEBRATE YOUR ACHIEVEMENT and be proud of yourself. :)
Sorry for this long message, I could still go for hours so I’m gonna stop ^^ but THANK YOU thank you thank you!! :)
Can’t wait to get the book!!
Take care and get some sleep too :)
Maya
Well said, Maya