It goes without saying that everything happening right now is all a dream come true.
In the last couple of days I filmed for Inside Edition, Katie Couric, and The Today Show. All to talk about my new GetTheGuy book and ‘Ready For Love’ on NBC. This week, there is A LOT more to come.
And yet, while my dreams are coming true, it’s still hard.
People often forget that when trying to achieve their dreams. And that there will be ways in which life is still hard once they’ve achieved them. My life right now is hard. It’s hugely exciting and rewarding, but it’s still hard.
First, there is the pressure to perform. The next few days are going to be the biggest (and most nerve-racking) of my life. I’ll be appearing on somewhere in the region of 12 different TV shows, 10 different radio stations, and in more articles than I can keep track of. Performing is something I’ve done for years now, every weekend at my events. I can speak for 50 hours over 5 days straight (a long way from not being able to give a 5 minute speech in class at school!). It’s become second nature to me.
Except that all of this hasn’t been a ‘performance’ for me. It’s been me. It’s my love, my passion, my baby. My ideas, my thoughts, my stories, my personal experiences… everything is me. As I evolve and change, so does my material. As my story gets richer and more diverse, so do my ideas.
I believe that a great deal of my success has been due to my authenticity, my candidness, and the fact that I’m congruent with my material. So it’s something of a bind. The more authentic I get, the more successful I become, whilst simultaneously deepening the extent to which I let people into my world and my life.
Tomorrow, the number of people who will be exposed to me in that way will be beyond anything I have ever experienced.
And that’s a little scary.
Last week a delightful journalist by the name of Amanda Stern interviewed me at my hotel in New York. She gave me one of the most interesting interviews I’d ever had. She was honest. She was tough on me, and didn’t let me off the hook on anything, but I really liked her.
As the interview was nearing a close she said, “I’m a little worried about you”. She expressed her concern for everything that was about to happen to me. I mentioned to her that although I was scared, I was resigned to staying true to who I am, to what I believe, and not getting sucked into becoming something I’m not. I also said that my friends and family were there to keep me sane and be my rock through all of it. And they do, everyday (I remember when I went back to London to see them recently, I couldn’t so much as ask my mum for a cup of tea without my brothers saying, “Oh look at this guy, he’s gone all Beverly Hills already…pathetic”. I love them so much!).
As I was thinking about what constitutes my ‘rock’ in life, or rather WHO, I began to think of you – my readers, my viewers, my clients. Recently I released our book trailer video, “Kids Talk Dating Problems” – which I’m told might be the most viewed non-fiction book trailer of all time, though I’m not sure. When I released this, alongside the lovely comments from people who saw it as the light-hearted bit of fun it was supposed to be, we also had our share of very strong negative comments on Youtube. Now it’s not that I mind the negative comments. I really don’t. They are part of life and they certainly make things more interesting. If anything they spur me on to create more. But these negative comments do remind me of something…
That when I come back to my own blog I feel like I’m home.
Because I have you. You are my rock. You welcome the new things that I put out with open arms. You celebrate it. You share it. You support me. There is something that to me is extraordinary about this little world we have created together here. It goes beyond you just liking the content of the blog. You actually want the best for me as a person. And that is a rare thing.
It means more to me than you know to have somewhere I can come back to where people know me and love me, and the knowledge that even once the show and the book have come out, you will still be here fighting forward with me gives me so much joy. Let’s face it, there will be new people who arrive here, but I love more than anything that you will be crusading with me on the journey… my original crew : )
All this is to say that you are more than my clients and followers. You are my friends. And I love you.
We are a team, and we stick together. I will keep making videos and articles to support you. I will keep writing posts and staying honest not just about my triumphs, but my flaws, my insecurities, and my doubts. There is nothing we cannot achieve as a team.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for always being there for me.
Always here for you.
Matthew xxx
P.S. I can’t wait for you to see what’s coming tomorrow. There’s an email that’s coming for you at 7am. Stay tuned.
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MH – every time I read your blog posts it reminds me that dreams are not too far out from reality, no matter how far fetched they may be to an outsider. Keep dreaming big, you’ll succeed again and again.
Wow, Mat I literally have tears in my eyes. Thank you so much for being honest about where you’re at on this wild ride that is about to take over your life! I think the effect of congruence is absolutely vital to your work, and no matter where the journey takes you, having such a strong grounding in your community, family and friends will always keep you close to the heart of what matters. Enjoy the stardust, it’s gonna be fun!
Remember the success indicators (outlined in the article link above): “What struck me the most was not Steve Wozniak’s extreme brilliance or his exuberant passion. No, what struck me the most was his overwhelming sense of gratitude. His gratitude for having the opportunity to make the world a better place. To help us all to be able to communicate with loved ones, to run our businesses better and to have an enhanced life.”
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/maryellen-tribby/the-success-indicator_b_1874431.html (The article I mentioned, which didn’t show up in previous comment)
ah cause it was linked to my name! I get it now – geez you guys are smart :*
Thanks for your honesty, Matt. Good luck on your biggest adventure yet. I’m glad to hear your friends & family are helping you keep grounded. Enjoy the ride!
Love from one of your friendly followers!
Maggie :-)
Wow. I just got back from my interviews today to ready all of your comments. They are beautiful. I am speechless. You have made me feel so special and loved, beyond what you may even realise.
It makes me even more determined to keep helping you in every way I can.
You guys are seriously the best, and a true source of happiness in my life.
Matthew xxx
You deserve that, and much more. We love you and we respect you, and we’ll always be there to support you, no matter what. You’re amazing♥
We are honored, Matthew. Thank you for the letter. I’m glad to know that we give you courage to stay authenticity. We need candor in this mechanic world. Do take anti-poison dose daily and stay courageous for us. Grace
I got to add this, please, Matthew. Besides authenticity, you are very creative
Hi Matt,
You are so enlightened… Lots of women have actually opened their hearts to themselves, got rid of their insecurities and gained faith in life just by following your blog, watching your videos and reading your emails… You are a rare gift to this world and we are excited for your future :).
Love always
I have been watching your video’s from the very first few you put up and have seen your progress in that time I would have loved to speak with you but live in a remote part of the world . Go you! For manifesting and being present on your path, you have helped me in my path and I appreciate you and are so grateful for you.
It is my pleasure to have you as part of my life.
Love you Matt xx
And once again, Matthew, you teach by example. As I read this blog, I realized, “Oh. That’s what everyone’s been telling me to do around guys. Just be myself and say what I’m thinking.” Genuine people attract other genuine people.
XOXO
Lisa
Dear Matthew,
Thank you so much for the letter. It means so much that we have helped you, that we mean a lot to you. You are very open and honest and show your care. Some of us really need that! I, for one, have not found that guy, but knowing there is someone out there cheering us on is great. I am cheering YOU on now- you will do great!
Jane
sweet.
Dear Matthew,
Thank you so much. I know that I speak for most of us when I say, ” We love you too”.
I cannot thank you enough for all of your encouragement & advise, they have kept me going.
I am so excited for you. This is indeed great news.
I cannot wait to get my hands on your book, thanks for posting the first 12 pages online. Yippe :) :)
All the best.
God bless you & protect you.
Lennister
Hey Buddy! I feel as I have followed you and the program kinda feel like you are like a great friend…I look forward to the posts and regardless if I achieve love or fame or whatever, I feel like you are missing piece to my soul. Like a soul friend….you say and do and live a life that I strive to mirror. So kudos to the infinite power for getting this far for being true. Genuineness I believe is the best attribute anyone could posess. If I could wish anything for myself it would to be able to meet you andbecome enveloped in that true magnetism you carry.
Continue to do what you have mastered and throw caution to the wind! Enjoy this moment. And just contine to be you. Wish I could afford your retreat and throw my caution to the wind and take life by the balls and live! Lol
Cheers to you! Well done Matthew! I’m just proud to have seen it follow through for you.
Lots of love and much respect! Xoxoxo
Jessica, Greenville – NC
Dearest Matt – I have never been this excited to come home to an Amazon package. I am sitting here with the book next to me, and must force myself to get up and make supper prior to furiously delving into it.
Just wanted to say “thank you” for what you do. You should be proud of your accomplishments as they stem from as pure a sense of entrepreneurship and passion as you can get.
Embrace the nerves, smile, and KIR (keep it real)!
Much love from Canada
Hey Matt!
I’ve been following your videos and blogs for several years now. I talk about you to my friends as if you were a buddy of mine! And you truly are. I couldn’t agree with you more that your genuinity will (and already has) taken you very far. You really want to help people and are really looking out for peopls’ best interests. Thanks for thinking so highly of us and don’t forget us little guys when you do become a superstar ;)
I have just recently started to receive emails from you i look forward to each and every one of them.Want to congratulate you on your book release I’m excited to read and share your advice with other women…dating sucks especially as a single mother of 3.. you give me hope that there will be someone somewhere will want to play catch with my son and scare future boyfriends of my dahters ……congratulations to you and thank you for your guidance ..xoxox
Thank you for all the time you put in helping us out, and making us feel special. You deserve all the good coming to you!
Matt this is awesome!! You are so sweet and honest. I wish you luck in everything you do and those speeches must be long! 50 hours.. I was complaining for my 7 min presentation but there is no need.
Hope you the best! And I always read your letters. Looking forward for tomorrow!
:) <333
Dear Matt,
To have you as my friend is a blessing. I am happy to see the success in your life and seeing you doing what you like to do the most to be there for others.
Your humility and sincerity is something that has always draw me close to you. I am happy to see even that even with the success and well known people you meet on your road you still remain down to earth.
I love you too, always keep that warm true smile and your true you. Showers of blessings in every area of your life.
Love
Vicky.
Hi Matthew, thanks for the lovely letter. I just wanted to clear something up with you. I’m totally confused! I keep getting emails from you telling me about the release of you book, but I already have it. I’ve just finished the first section, but feel like I need to meet someone before moving on to part 2! What’s the deal? Is it the same book but being released in the US? Thanks. S
Dear Matthew,
Here you are stood on the brink. The junction at which your life pivots and changes, possibly for ever. The culmination of all your years of hard work, perseverance and tenacity. You deserve every success, you have earned it are worthy of it and we are here every step of the way.
It is a privilege to have followed your work and see it evolve these past two years; to have attended your event here in London and have subsequently told every girlfriend who would listen, about you and what you do! (*He’s going to blow, trust me ladies – he’s going to be a global household name!)
Your work is vital, so important and it needs to be shared with more people in the world. Thank you for your integrity, your authenticity and passion. THANK YOU from the bottom of our hearts; in many ways your words have helped to heal, inspire and empower in more ways than you could ever know.
With much love, appreciation and gratitude ♥
Shine on and let the new chapter begin… Go get ’em tiger!