One Second That Changes Your Love Life Forever…

One moment. One second. One tiny little word that leads to someone  finding the love of their life.

And so many women miss that chance every single day.

If you do nothing else this Sunday, make sure you watch this powerful message…

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  1. Beggy says:

    So if she had hung around one more second ? Even after her coffee arrived ?

  2. Voula Karidis says:

    I absolutely loved how the video shows the potential and opportunity to create a wonderful life with someone if they took that chance. It really made me feel great, full of positivity and possibilities that anyone at anytime could be that person for you. Time and chance become choices in moments of everlasting love and commitment or everlasting indecisions and loneliness. Time always tells!

  3. Angela says:

    I talk to everyone. In elevators at coffee shops in restaurants. But as a woman I see men get weirded out that I started the dialogue first. I ask questions, I compliment, etc etc. nothing.

  4. Monica Dean says:

    2 years ago I met this man online, we both lived in denver. We talked thru text for 3 or 4 mnths before I agreed to meet him. We hung out at the park a couple times and well then we had sex. He then decided that he wasn’t ready for a relationship.
    On and off we talked as friends and we would lose contact but he always found me and we talk again, then he asked if we could see each other again, and he came over for dinner, then again sex,this time we still continued to talk and see each other, then on my fb page it popped up that he was in a relationship. I cut all ties right then.
    Now I have to say that I really liked him alot, his energy was awesome. I really really liked him!
    So after a couple mnths he hit me up again, said gf was out of the picture and would I like to get a drink! This man is charismatic and I’m drawn to him. So we met had alot to drink and sex again, this time we started hanging out evey night and or day, after a mnth he told me he loved me and I have to admit I was falling as well. We dated for 8mths,spent every moment pretty much together. Then he tells me that the gf was still in the picture and that he believes in non monogamous relationships and pretty much that was how he feels. I was madly in love with him by this time, this hurt so much but I agreed to try. This brings us to 3 days ago, he and I have been fighting over and over about his lies and the other gf. I contacted the gf and we talked and I found out alot of shit! Then she tells him and he flips out, and has gone ghost! He has blocked me from everything! I really want this man idk why, it’s like I’m sick literally, what can I do to make him see that I love him and want him and him to chase me and want me only?

  5. Rebecca says:

    This video is extremely impactful for many elements in life. Fabulous! Thanks for sharing.

  6. Rosiemae says:

    Am I doing all I can? The answer is No!!!
    Thanks so much!

  7. Sarah Zuniga says:

    Wow, that so ture but that once split second can be so hard to do beacuse I been hurt so many time living my standard. I’m fears of just want to settle again because I’m unloveable.

  8. Rose says:

    Hwhat do i say to flip the switch for him to to to chase me how do i show my desire

  9. Jennifer Hellstrom says:

    For being such a short clip……for some reason it touched so deep….even though its usually unlike me to admit ….it made me cry! I dont know why? Thats not true……. i do know why
    Realizing something within isnt always easy to claim……thank you matt!!

  10. Mops says:

    Because I was afraid that that guy already has girlfriend, that pulled me back!

  11. Jerie says:

    Whoa… If that doesn’t inspire one to step up their game, I don’t know what will.

  12. Tamalyn says:

    This gave me chills. I cannot put into words the way it makes me feel. Hopeful and hopeless at same time?

  13. Mitch says:

    Thought provoking.

  14. Karen Starr says:

    Wow, I often think about what would’ve happened if we turned it around like that all the seconds count it’s so true.

  15. Susan Collaire says:

    I am not a very sexual person. I am rather shy
    But I been having sex within the 2week of meeting a new guy. I have just turned 50 and last child 16. Whopppiiieee

  16. Jayne says:

    Powerful! I listen to a lot of Jay Shetty’s pod casts and he also talks a lot about time and so now I focus onnhowvI use my time abc who I spend it with. I make a plan every day and I am often reminded by others who take a deep breath when I tell them how much I fit into my week, and U am always trying to fit more in. My dating is like a tap it’s a bit hot & cold on abc off. I don’t really put myself in many situations to meet men but strangely I often get asked out in the most random settings by strangers I have never met, sometimes I go other times I just say thank you I am not interested because genuinely I am not. I often feel I am way too picky and there is always a BUT so it’s sometimes hard for a guy to stick around for long… but I do enjoy watching your videos and subconsciously I think they help me to find my inner strength and find the fun and easy going Janey who enjoys the simple yet finer things… I know he is out there and I have been blessed to have many boyfriends over the years spoil me but I think deep down I am frightened on commitment so subconsciously seek out men who ultimately are unavailable in the longer term which allows me to not commit but I am working on that and I am a big believer that it doesn’t matter how long the search takes if you find the perfect guy the time spent preparing for him is worth it… J x

  17. Deanna M Greenwood says:

    I have chills. I’ve had millions of opportunities just like that where I’ve silently walked away never fully seeing what could be like this short film describes. It’s 630 am here in Florida, today I will say hello and make an impression. Thank you!

  18. Susie H. says:

    Oh my goodness! This makes you really think..thank you!

  19. Rose says:

    Pay attention! Be present! Live in the moment….be aware of your surroundings…be open…

  20. Suzan Zinetti says:

    Careless do more

  21. Lorena says:

    Matthew where can I send a private message? I can’t find an e-mail and the private messages are not available on your fb profile

    • MH Support says:

      Hi Lorena! Due to his insanely busy schedule, Matt can’t respond to individual messages anymore. He does take questions once a month in a live coaching session for Fast Track to Mr. Right members only. – Mars

  22. Mariana says:

    Olga: You will never need a man, you can accomplish anything and everything you want by your own, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t be in a relationship, because relationships are not about depending on each other, they’re about sharing moments together and helping each other to grow. I’m really sorry that you were in a toxic relationship for so long, I know what that feels and how difficult it is to step away, but that doesn’t mean you should’ve never taken that risk with him because every experience makes us more mature and teaches us to be stronger, the only thing you did wrong was to put up with him for such a long time.
    Don’t give up, just be smarter and stronger. Keep loving and respecting yourself.

  23. Pablo says:

    I came to this site as a skeptic, but I have to admit that this video conveys a very powerful and accurate message. As someone who routinely ignores these moments of opportunity out of fear of rejection, I’ve decided to start embracing them and let the chips fall as they may -rejection be dammed!

  24. Regina says:

    That’s deep and so me….looks as though I’ll be single the rest of my life…

  25. Alex says:

    Really great article about One Second That Changes Your Love Life Forever..There is a lot of sense in it. I know that not only women but also mens lose their chance to meet the only person in the world they really want to be with. Once I met my wife a lot of years ago and we love each other till now.

  26. Olga says:

    I came out of a toxic relationship (even emotionally abusive) 3 years ago. I am a strong person but it still managed to destroy my confidence. It made me miss out on so many opportunities in work and self-development. When i watched this video, i pictured what my life would have been if i actually let that second pass by and never got together with him. I feel like i lost 5 years of my life because of him. I got a greate job now and all other things i ever wanted which i could never do with him. BUT i am still single as i am scared of some idiot coming to my life and screwing it all up what I’ve built. Matthew’s videos are very positive and i am watching them hoping they would change my mindset. I am on a dating site but i am running away from meeting anyone in person. I don’t know if i ever can love anyone again, and with the time i feel less and less need in a partner – all i do i do in the way i want without the need of a man’s approval. I am trying to convince myself that maybe i need a man, but then i see I’ve achieved so much only because i do NOT have a man – and this argument bits all the other…And what a man can give me what i can’t get elsewhere? My family loves me so i feel loved already. So, keeping to work on conveincing myself in a need of a man at the mo…

  27. Kathy says:

    What a powerful video. I’ve allowed fear to strangle not only my love life but my professional life as well. Time is not on my side, as I am in the last half of my life (58) and still have not found “the one”.

    There are many women my age who are still looking for their last first kiss.

    Matthew I see all your videos and workshops for the 25 to 45 age group, what about my generation of 50+ who are looking too?

    I’m still looking and have hope that he is out there somewhere looking for me.

  28. Patty says:

    Brilliant and even spiritually very profound. It’s getting harder for people as they sink into screens and avoid real contact. We need to say yes to the real and to real people.

    Trust is an important thing, though, and I do wonder how a woman is supposed to trust a man, given that men can literally rape or kill a woman. You may not realize how hard that is to know and live with in a dating situation with strangers.

  29. Tina says:

    This was very powerful.
    Two weeks ago I made what I feel might be the biggest mistake of my life. I panicked massively and cancelled a date (well in advance…) with someone who is exactly what I have been looking for. (I’m out of a bad relationship recently and just…freaked out).
    Thankfully, he was a gentleman about it and very understanding and we are still in touch daily…but I guess it’s on me to make it go somewhere.
    So, I think I’ll propose another date. I have to do this.

  30. Sibel E. says:


    This is true at some point! As a very talkative person (With the help of being a lexturer), I can communicate easily and be the one who says the first “hi” unless this guy is a rock star. ;) Let’s say this is the line where the game begins. I think how communication goes on and what kind of decisions we should make are also very important. Besides, at the age of internet, I observe some people who are shy or avoid to talk in public they track the others on social media to communicate. This can be about sometimes privacy because of any reason.

    In addition, I like tick voices of the clock. Everybody is busy and time is very important in the modern age. We even sometimes forget to see what is really going on in front of us. This always reminds me “the rabbit” in Alice in Wonderland. Time is also very complicated and relative. Hours are not the hours as we know!..

    As the one of the coolest rockers says,
    “Well, the clock says it’s time to close now
    I guess I’d better go now
    I’d really like to stay here all night…”

    Si belle

  31. Jackie says:

    I can completely relate to this.

    I lost my dad five years ago to Motor Neurone Disease. I cared for him for 2 and a half years. During this time on a rare evening out I bumped into a guy (who lives quite a distance from me) with whom I share mutual friends. During that evening we really clicked, I really wanted to get to know him better but as I was caring for my father I knew that it wouldn’t have been honest of me or fair on him to go down that road.

    I met up with him a couple of years ago through mutual friends again and he told me that he had travelled hours to see me. I was totally taken aback as in the few years since I had last seen him, due to caring for my ill father and now caring for my elderly mother as a way to cope I had switched off from things for myself. He didn’t get the response he was hoping for as I was on my guard.

    I saw him again a few months ago and we clicked all over again. At the time he told me that his brother was seriously ill. (Very sadly his brother recently died). After this last meeting we messaged each other he said it was great to see me again but that understandably due to his brother being ill he wasn’t in a good place.

    Due to the distance we won’t be seeing each other until the end of the year..

    Life goes by so quickly. I know all too well about not leaping.. and that life can get in the way but If you are able to give yourself the chance to say yes to opportunities life can change in a heart beat.

  32. Julia says:

    It starts with the decision and action to say YES. The relationship that I have been in for two years started because a series of YES decisions on my part. Those yes choices were not the initial decisions in my mind (no, I don’t want to do online dating again. Then yes, I created a profile. No, I don’t want to meet him for the first time because I’m too exhausted and need to pack for a trip. Then yes, I could meet at a local park for a quick stroll…) Making those choices to say YES have made all the difference in where I am today. Five years after I went to see MH by myself at an event in Philadelphia and said YES to attending his Retreat. What a tremendous decision to say YES!

  33. Christiane says:

    Once my girlfriend is on the train on her way back home after ten days’ visit, I will send HIM a text to tell him I’m back in circulation and “I’d love the chance to catch up”. It’s decided!

  34. LAUREN K says:

    Love the simple concept. I’m sure I can apply it in a similar setting however, on the subway would be much more difficult in my opinion just because of the sheer number of strangers around and likely listening in to those awkward first moments.

  35. Patti Cole says:

    I turned around in the grocery store line the other evening and got a jolt … right there, right very next to me in line was a gorgeous man — my kind of gorgeous — the most ‘normal’ looking man I had seen since moving to this city several months ago. I was speechless; he was speechless, even though he had come to stand by me, and so closely to me. We both left, speechless, unhappy, alone. My son, upon hearing this story, said, “Mom! This is what you say: ‘Hi. You’re the best looking man’ … or ‘Can I tell you something? You are …’ And he would laugh and I would smile my gorgeous smile, and a connection would be made. The second we had would have been put to wonderful use. Matthew, you know I’ll be using my next ‘second’chance without fail, don’t you! (Ironically,I later watched an episode of House Hunters Intl and that is EXACTLY how the couple had met. Imagine!)

  36. LifeTips says:

    Very inspiring video! Great lesson..

  37. Becky Rueb says:

    It is so true! I sat back and watched people on the bus today without looking at my phone, and it is amazing to me that to think how many seconds we miss while we are looking at our phones

  38. Dara says:

    We do get to choose our path in life, it’s just if we go for it:)

  39. M says:

    I think the bliss of life are those few seconds between “hi” and “pretend I don’t see you”

    Sometimes I wanna say hi it’s me blanla but the guy even look at me – just on the phone !

  40. Lorry Lewis says:

    I get it, you gotta grab these opportunities, but as a woman, I get concerned the guy might be married and here I am, flirting with him. It’s scary, not by taking a chance, but what you don’t know about that person.

  41. Allie says:

    The trouble is women are waiting for this guy, the one who wants a relationship, to take that step. It takes both sides putting yourself out there AND being ready, being open to the possibility.

    Lovely film though. I cried when it didn’t happen.

  42. Lynn Davis Jackson says:

    Holly Banfield, you are so smart to be able to understand how important your health is! There was a time when I was you. I have been in a very compromised health condition. This is very long, but I feel the steps that I took were so powerful in turning my health and life around, that I want to help others so badly, and shout them from the rooftops! Joining a FB support group tailored to my conditions, which gave me support and love from others going through the same type of thing, and also some good ideas and suggestions, was helpful. I feel a smaller group (50-100 people) that just exists for its members, not advertising, is the best choice. It’s extremely important to look for one where the admins keep the focus on positivity and support, and don’t allow those who are attacking, negative, blaming, or bossy to stay on the site. From these sites, I know of many people with ongoing serious health issues who have found love after becoming sick. I don’t know what your issues are, but if they are treatable/solvable, you must be your own best advocate, and research your condition, and seek out the best help you can afford, not just for a love life, but even more for your life. I would pour every moment of time, and $ resource I could spare into this, and not let temptation pull me away. But be careful, and vet your sources. Traditional medicine is good for treating existing disease, but not so good at preventing disease. It’s not just a matter of getting better (although that is very important) but also not getting worse, or adding more disease. There is a lot that will have a real impact that you can do on your own. There are also a lot of charlatans with half-truths, or truths/solutions/supplements for people with different problems than you, who just want to sell you stuff. For me, a LOT of my health conditions improved with an almost completely organic, grass fed, high nutrient, restricted calorie diet, with no sugar, flour, or trans fats (they are hidden, even when not on the label.) I eat tons of veggies, small amounts of fruits, 3 servings of protein, and small amounts of healthy fats. I was a vegetable hater, and a sugar/flour addict, and it was extremely hard at first, and I struggled to find recipes and combinations of dressings and sauces for stir fry that I LIKED that fit the plan I chose. But I eventually found some combos I liked enough to enjoy what I was eating, and over time (many months) cravings diminished and went away, l went from 264 to 120 lbs, and I am HAPPY with my food, so I know I can maintain it, and even happier that I feel so much better, my pain has diminished, and my test numbers are better. I’m in my 60’s. My core plan was Susan Pierce Thompson’s plan (she has a book out, a website, and an online course) and Dr Mark Hyman’s latest book “Food-What the Heck Should I Eat?” If you buy his book through his broken brain website, you may get a lot of excellent bonus resources right now. He is head of Functional Medicine at Cleveland Clinic. Functional medicine looks at treating existing disease in the conventional sense, but talso emphasizes optimizing the body’s performance to avoid disease. This is something regular medicine doesn’t do. But usually insurance doesn’t cover a lot of the screening tests that Functional med drs want to run, and Functional medicine drs are not in all areas, (check out the Institute of Functional Medicine —IFM—for local referrals) so you may need to do your work online, and work with your current dr when you can. How to do this was one of the bonuses I received when I purchased his book. Idk if it’s still available, but I would write and ask. For example, if you have thyroid disease, and especially if you’re having trouble establishing and maintaining the correct dosage of meds, you need to be screened for Hashimoto’s antibodies, which attack the thyroid and is the root cause of thyroid disease in 90% of cases. Many primary care drs, and even some specialists treat the disease with thyroid meds when it shows up on standard screening tests, but do not look for potential causes. Conventional insurance only pays for disease treatment, not prevention. There is much to be learned online, but you need to be mindful, and choose excellent sources. Dr Dale Bredesen is another excellent source on optimization of body processes (good health.) His focus is Dementia patients by getting every body system functioning optimally, but this is what is needed for the best health, too. Start with the areas in which you think your problems lie. These physicians have online purchases that are very helpful if your budget allows, but much of what you need to know is available for free. They are knowledable, good research-based sources. I have a science degree, and have spent years online reading research. My specialty was research, and I can tell good from bad research (more bad than good out there) so if you cannot, trust these sources. Sign up for their emails. Make time to read their emails or listen to their free stuff at a minimum. Trust sources to whom they may refer you. They are selective, only referring good science-based sources. Go in the directions of your known problems first. But I bet you will uncover things that your conventional dr has not addressed, especially in the food/lifestyle area, but also maybe in the diagnostic/treatment area, too. It is true you are your own best advocate! Many diseases are triggered (turned on) genetically by our unhealthy food choices (especially any kind of manufactured food) the contaminated foods we eat, and by the bad bacteria in our guts, fed by the large amounts of sugar/flour in our current diets. The gut bacteria drive our cravings by sending chemical signals to our brains to feed them sugar/flour. This is why sugar is more addictive than cocaine. If you crave sugar/flour/simple carbs (rice) you must completely break with them to starve the bad bacteria, rebuild the good bacteria which are crucial for our health, and get your cravings under control. I promise you, this will happen if you can stick with it. But if you slip, just get “right back on the horse” and resume your no sugar/flour diet, and you will eventually get where you want to be. Sugar is hidden in almost every manufactured food, under various unrecognizable names, and drives weight gain not just with empty calories, but also through insulin, which is the fat storage hormone. Without sugar and my tastebuds being attuned to super strong sugar substitutes (Splenda, aspartame, and Acesulfame-K being the worst—they actually are harmful, not helpful) things like fruits taste so much sweeter to me. If you must use a sweetener, use Stevia, a Stevia/erythritol blend (like Truvia or a generic) or Swerve. At least these are very low to no harm. I used them to get off of sugar. The “good” bacteria synthesize the vitamins and hormones and lots of other good things our bodies need to maintain health, and the bad bacteria crowd them out and cause holes in the gut lining, allowing bad things that would normally pass through the digestive system to enter the bloodstream, causing all sorts of diseases (this is colloquially referred to as “leaky gut” and, yes, it is a real, scientifically-proved thing.) This is why we have epidemic proportions of disease, and new diseases that weren’t prevalent or didn’t exist 100 years ago. Bad bacteria also drive unhealthy cravings, causing dementias, inflammation, weight gain, heart disease, and many other diseases. Trans fats are terrible, as you’ve probably heard, but do you know they are produced during the production of ALL vegetable oils? And restaurant oils are vegetable oils, and as they are heated (deep frying) the natural chemical reaction produces huge amounts of trans fats. Trans fats inflame arteries, causing buildup, blockages, and strokes. Healthy fats (olive, avocado, coconut, MCT oil, even butter) are more expensive, but nutritionally much much better. Just don’t heat them past their smoke point, or you’re producing harmful chemicals. This is all overwhelming at first. Removing sugar and flour suddenly throws you into ketosis (burning fat instead of carbs) and may make you feel weak. If you can give sugar/flour up completely, like an addict needs to do with drugs, you may feel very weak for days or weeks, but if you can do it, it is worth doing it all at once. Like an addict, there are no small, acceptable amounts. Continuing to eat them off and on just perpetuates the cravings. On everything else, make small changes, “set yourself up for success” (Dr Phil quote) by finding things you can enjoy eating (no, it may not be your very most favorite, but if it is at least good for you, and you can enjoy it, it doesn’t feel so much like dieting, and you can stay on a variation of the diet forever, maintaining your healthy weight.) Get rid of the bad things/temptations from your kitchen, and stock good things. Make batches of good things to make it easier to stay on goal when you’re at you’re weakest, make your own sauces and dressings from scratch (make up your own recipe if necessary, it only matters if it’s healthy and you like it!) Clean, chop, and prepare for the next meal or meals after you eat, before the next mealtime comes along and you’re starving, and weaker in willpower, usually in the evening. ALWAYS have something (like chili, salad, stir fry) ready to go. I eat HUGE salads with spinach, shredded carrots, shredded red cabbage, bean sprouts, shredded broccoli salad, diced celery, fruit (berries are best), walnuts (heart-healthiest nut oil), a serving of protein, and a dressing I make from scratch, all with healthy ingredients. “Eat the rainbow.” Resolve to prepare your own foods, and stay away from fast and prepared or manufactured foods. They are all super contaminated, and designed by the food companies to drive you to crave them. I know, I worked as an engineer for a food company initially, and helped do this. Do not listen to their marketing advice as to what is “healthy.” Do not listen to any research paid for or done by them. It is designed for marketing, not expanding knowledge. It is all carefully crafted to get the outcome they want to drive sales and profit, not your health. They do not care about your health, they care about their profits. Familiarize yourself with the “dirty” vegetables and fruits, so you know where to put your money into organic stuff. If you can’t afford any organic, regular fresh, whole food is still way better than manufactured. Remember, you can put your money into good food and good health now, or pay later for medical treatment and suffer the awful and life-shortening effects of disease. Shop the perimeter of the supermarket. If you do these things, check out these resources, follow your curiosity down the path that describes you, I PROMISE you, whatever your health issues, you will feel better and be healthier. This has changed my life! I am living proof, but there are many others out there! Seek, and you shall find. Remember, small steps at a time. Don’t let yourself become overwhelmed. If you fall off, get right back on. Experiment with what you like, and alter it in small steps to be in a healthier form. I wish the all the best for you—as there was a time when I, too, felt horrible and lost. I am praying for you

  43. Donna Smith says:

    If a guy I fancied looked at me in a coffee bar like that and asked me out I’d say yes but in the real world most men I meet are married or in a relationship. I’ve had to resort to online dating because it’s the same everywhere I go aswell but it would save me a hell of a lot of bother spending my evenings on dating sites trawling through profiles. If only!!!

  44. Fran says:

    I have a lot of friends and most are men. They all say, I can’t believe you are single, you have such a great personality. I want to say to them it is because I am overweight and not very pretty, but know they will argue with me even though I am sure deep inside they would agree with me. So, they way I look holds me back.

  45. L280 says:

    Far from reality
    It’s just scary and tiring.
    Starting to date someone, starting to trust a guy and questioning whether his acts are genuine or not and keeping in mind that suddenly he might disappear.

  46. Judith says:


    I TOTALLY agree! STOP looking at your phones and enjoy the beauty of EYE contact. Conversation is a lost art!

    Loved the video Matt- thanks for sharing ☺️

  47. Lulu says:

    That’s was a powerful video!! Thank you!!
    I can totally see how i’ve lost out on so many opportunities. I will be more mindful now.

  48. Vimbai says:


  49. Ashleigh says:

    And the way I mite get rejected or laughed at

  50. Ashleigh says:

    I don’t think I could I’m a very shy person to start of with I need to get over being shy then I could

  51. Mia says:

    Yep. Men should watch this video, with a dose of optimism. I was going to say it skipped all the tough parts, the fights and misunderstandings, but nobody is unaware of that reality. No, if anything that perception has oversaturated a cynical population. This is a nice reminder of what guys are really missing out on.

  52. Joan says:

    A very encapsulating and stimulating video with a remarkable ability to impact on my ability to waste precious seconds of a day, a week, a month and a year not doing what is most important to me but what I have formed habits doing instead!!

    Thank you for your amazing videos, they are truly memory retaining ways to learn about positive and effective dating habits.

  53. Maggie from Poland says:

    There is a method to do something that we are afraid to do.
    Whenever such moment occurs, start counting from 5 till 1 with a knowledge, that after 1, you just do what is it you are afraid of. Talk to a guy, speak up on a conference, do that exercises that you think your trainer is crazy for asking.. whatever actually…

  54. Agnes D says:

    What if his with someone and you felt that spark since the day you saw and introduced his self to you ?

  55. Lana Cole, LMFT says:

    Be smiling and welcoming every day, every second, every part of your way. A brilliant video!! Loved it!!

  56. Lola Alvarez says:

    Very powerful!!! At 63, there’s no time to spare!! So….1, 2, 3, Let’s DO IT!! 1sec.-24hrs. nothing to lose. Everything, everyone’s A WINNER!!!

  57. Sohy says:

    This made me really emotional and I understand now, I haven’t been courageous enough in the past…because of fear of rejection mostly. But also because I wasn’t sure if I wanted to invest my time in this person, not knowing him well enough. I have a need to know quite a lot about someone before I want to commit time in getting to know them. So how can I combine the two: take spontaneous action and give a chance and still not waste time and choose wisely?

  58. Liz M says:

    I am so moved …this is truly beautiful and so true in my life I have had my life change in a moment maybe too many times ~I needed this reminder concerning love thank you

  59. Emily Roberts says:

    Holding back because I still love him.

  60. Farah shair says:

    I loved this… But idk i think sometimes i feel scared to start sth. New! But i’ve decided that from here on out i’ll break all the boundaries.
    Am healing am rediscovering myself am starting over. :) thank u matthew

  61. Ava Yvonne says:

    hey matt thank you so much for your chances. i’m about to enter a little rant because ive had a huge realization. to answer your question, i could start taking chances. in fact, i will. i’m sick of thinking that guys are cute and doing nothing about it. i’m sick or waiting for someone to come around who is perfect and do everything perfect so that we can date and i can have a perfect relationship. i’m ready. i’m ready to stand taller. to be braver. i recently moved to arizona where i have gained a new friend group. they all attend my church and are very good, fun kids. i’m a sophomore however and they are seniors. one day i decided to have a party (this was before we all started hanging out). i had a hard time moving and got really depressed for a while. coming out of that, i started taking chances. this was one of those times. i wanted to have an ice skating party. i was terrified of inviting all these people and cute boys and girls that were older and, at least i felt, cooler than me. i did. i invited. over 20 people came. it was amazing. i trusted God that He had healed me and would help me to be brave. and so i was. before i knew it i had spent the whole night hanging out with who i thought was the most attractive guy. he is a senior. i’ve always been scared to take initiative and to reach out and show interest. i always thought time would fix everything and i just needed to wait for everything to happen with a guy. but this shows exactly the opposite. truly a beautiful film and really changed me. i’m taking the initiative. i’m facing my fears and choosing for myself. i have one lifetime. i want to live it well and be courageous in my actions. i want to be proactive not reactive. i want to become not to wait. patience is a virtue but it only works when first put in effort and hard work. i will search for answers to my questions and reach higher than i have been. i want to choose my friends, my career, my education, my life. but those choices are not supposed to be made in the future at some point way out there when it’s time to get married. i’m 15 and i can start now by practicing facing my fears, taking initiative, striking up the first convo, learning all i can, working hard for myself, being proud of myself and having a divine confidence that comes from who i truly am and not entirely on my looks. i want to become me. not anyone else. i don’t want to wait until i’m older to be my best self. i don’t want to wait until i start dating to figure out how to do it right and make people feel comfortable and happy around me. i choose now to brave. nothing can stop me for i have set my mind to it. i want to chose who i like and stop being scared of them not liking me because “ i’m awkward” or “i have braces” or “i’m not pretty enough” or “i’m not talented enough” what the heck qualifies me then??? surely if i am humble and trying to learn all i can, progress everyday, strive for more than i am, work hard and work smart, be faithful and courageous, and LOVE PEOPLE and truly care about them (which is what i am trying to do and making conscience efforts to be better, kinder, and more reliable), then i am good enough. i am goodnight enough because i am trying. i am good enough because i know i’m not good enough and i still choose to try harder. that’s it. i am enough. if i am enough for God, i am enough for anyone. i choose to live through faith. i choose to like the person i like and express my feelings to them when i decide is best and i will care about them instead of caring about the idea of me caring about them. i want to truly love people not love the idea of me loving people. i want to love myself not love the idea of me loving myself. or being in love with myself. and i choose to be the best sister, daughter, roommate, friend, girlfriend, wife, mother, even the best ME that i can. thanks so much for all you do. i never thought i could like someone 3 years older than me who is getting ready to graduate who is a captain of the vball team and very very very attractive, kind, and sweet to me. i feel confident, put together, and i have somuch fun. it’s hard and most of the reason i am writing this is because i saw him today and i regret not talking to him. we haven’t texted as much and i am constantly scared and trying to shake it off like it’s not a big deal. that’s the things. it’s not a big deal. it’s my deal. it’s my choice. i choose him because i have seen how he is, what he stands for. he is not the end all be all, but for now i want him close to me for this time in my life. i don’t let drama get into my life and i choose to put aside whatever anyone else says. i choose my life. this doesn’t mean ignorance. i understand that i need to learn before i make choices. i am learning and growing everyday. i started exercising 10 weeks ago consitently and i do it at least 4 times a week. i feel amazing and love the way i look. i am working hard in voice and i want to step it up and audition for musicals so i can be prepared to audition for college and study musical theater at college. thanks for all your help, inspiration, challenges, and i have had huge realizations lately. i always thought i was awkward and (it is a gradual process) but the more i try to LOVE people and truly care about them, their interests, and love my life and my persuits and feeling accomplished and working harder and working smarter, instead of just look pretty and wishing things happened to me, the happier i am. i don’t have to compare myself to every other girl in the room now! there is so much moreno to me than meets the eye! i have a whole life, a relationship with God, goals im working towards and an education i am gaining each day. i feel so great and i’m so grateful to you for all your time and effort you put into making your content the best and in helping us. i greatly appreciate your belief in me and your passion in what you do.

  62. Sui says:

    It reminds me of the saying that luck happens to those who are prepared. One must notice the moment, be willing to act, and then take that action. Practice seems to be the best way to develop this “muscle” that applies to life in general!

  63. heather says:

    this video did not even explain how to slow time down and/or put time on our side.

  64. MJ says:

    Difficult to approach strangers. Not something easily done when not very trusting, and you don’t know a thing about that person.

  65. Stephanie says:

    Finding the courage.

  66. Debbie Amsden says:

    A split second decision … impulse reaction to an emotion… this can change our lives… but fear of the unknown and ultimately rejection, this alone…can stop ourselves from changing our destiny. I will endevour to be more spontaneous and open minded and lets see what happens. Thank you very enlightening…

  67. Devasted in Dallas says:

    Ok well what do you do when you’ve taken that jump, that risk and it’s great. Then after a few months in they pull back, state ‘it’s not you, it’s me’. They complain of distance and you’re doing all you can to bridge that. Still they say they can’t be with you because of the ‘intangibles’. You ask for specifics, and they can’t provide any. Now what?! And you’re 42! You just wasted another 9 months!

  68. Evita says:

    I took a chance and reached out and waited for the reply.i got one although a little co.plicated it has opened a possibility and that in itself is posative.

  69. Zoe Harty says:

    Well, it seems as though nobody likes me no matter what I do. But, maybe I could strike up a conversation with somebody at the coffee shop, grocery store etc.

  70. Sara says:

    why is always for the woman to give her best why not man. for me i’m new to such relationships “love lif”, my lover is so kind but i feel like i care more and i give more while he does even give five minutes to call me or just end our phone conversation when one of his friends arrive… i don’t know i this is better ti keep back…

  71. Nicole says:

    Wow. Such a powerful series of events. It really is true. For me it would be knowing how bold I could be.

  72. Romana says:

    Probably by getting the courage to start the conversation with someone I find attractive instead of always over thinking the outcome.

  73. Lori Mintzer says:

    This literally brought me to tears! How many opportunities have been lost…?

  74. Larissa says:

    I did this the other day with a crash at work he said good morning I said good morning and just walked away. I felt like an idiot because I got to freaked out because I got so happy that he said good morning to me that I lost my shit. I at least can get another chance because like a said we work together so I said I would try practicing talking to other people because I just started the job. So maybe that will hopefully help. So great video you’ve helped motivate me even more thank you Matthew!

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  77. Tammy Cherry says:

    Take that opportunity to introduce yourself to someone. It could end in failure or forever. That second belongs to you.

  78. Tammy says:

    Getting out of my comfort zone, being more approachable, stop waiting for the perfect man bexuase there isnt one. Just a perfect man for me!

  79. Tara says:

    It gave me a new way of looking at things. I have not been open to that I could find that someone, anywhere. Being a single mom I do not get very far but now I know keeping my eyes and possibilies open is so important.

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