How’s this for scary?
I’m in the studio on The Today Show opposite Kathy Lee and Hoda. It’s not my everyday situation, and I’m trying to make sure I’m on my best game.
“So, what should a woman do here, Matthew?”
“Well, point number one is (blah blah blah).” I rattle it off with ease because I have it locked, ready to go in my mind. “…and secondly…um…”
My mind freezes. I go blank and panic inside. I can’t remember what I was going to say.
If you want to see my full torture and how this played out… watch this video.
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Matthew.. Thank you so much! I was struggling with this exact emotion today in my own online career and I was beginning to feel paralysed. I was enjoying the validation that I was receiving but with each client, I was beginning to feel the fear of ‘what if I screw up?’ or receive a negative review. I NEEDED to hear your words today!! Thank you so much…I felt like your words hit me in the gut because they were so needed in order for me to just realize that every client is a learning experience and I can only attempt and provide my best service with each client. Thank you ❤️
This was great! Viewing myself as a student of life is a great way to go about living!
I have always been a person who has need to feel validated for the effort I put in to what I do, but thanks to this video my perspective has shifted. That validation doesn’t have to come from soneone else. That it can actually from me! This can be achieved by honoring my self and stop questioning and judging myself! I am who I am and that’s ok! Life is about growth and learning…
So thanks Matt,
I like this comment. Tough to resist the pull of validation, and it’s natural to get a nice boost, but we need not become slaves to it and like she says, best person to validate us is ourselves. That’s primary, and then we don’t rely on outside approval.
thank you, very helpful video
This video is so relevant to me right now and I really needed to see this. I’m doing online dating and going through some issues and I’m starting to get jaded with everything. I’m a fun-loving person but right now I’m not really having fun with my own life. This needs to change and I need to be more of a tourist in my own life. Thank you so much for sharing!
‘You can go to the grave with pride…..’
That’s the reals! Always, big love
I play your YouTube videos on a loop, your lovely voice in my flat.
Hey Matthew,
I hope your day is going well. As always … another great video from you. You do a wonderful job making your videos fun, unique, and a great way to learn (not only with attracting a partner, but in life as well). Thanks, I appreciate all that you do.
Pressure … yes that can make people be a little nervous, I know I have been there also. We want to perform just so and not make any mistakes. Although we are not perfect, we still hope that we won’t be judged if we do not stand up to others expectations (or if others disapprove of us) … or afraid of failure. This can affect how we react to the dating scene or even in life.
I like the baby steps in your video … a nice touch (adorable also). That part put a smile on my face. Who doesn’t like a baby?!
I love to learn and that is a life process. No one person knows everything and we all can learn more, especially regarding your partner (you are interested in or care about). The whole dating and relationship steps are about learning with your partner and each other because this is what truly shows how much you care for one and another. This dating process is learning about each other and when both partners have the desire to learn and grow with each other, then this allows the relationship to be at its BEST! Isn’t that what we all want … the BEST relationship and bond that it can be?! I know I do.
Again, thanks for your videos, Matthew. You are a wonderful person … do not worry about pressure because you are amazing at what you do. Thanks!
Betty
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Genius
Just read a similar message as yours, Matthew, in the NT Times Modern Love Column:
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/05/05/style/modern-love-my-so-called-instagram-life.html?emc=edit_nn_20170507&nl=morning-briefing&nlid=77307366&te=1
Today has been a revolutionary Sunday – and I got my laundry and grocery shopping done too!
Thank you ever so much for the work you do! :-)
Love the image of the legs of a walking baby! I don’t think I ever seen anyone else just focusing camera on baby’s legs and it is an overlook.
You aced it! This is one of my favourite videos. We should all be students and enjoy our lives
Anytime I feel I am about to make a fool of myself in the dating game I ask myself. What Would Matt do? Or say or think. That always Puts me back in check, and really makes consider whether I am making the right move or not. Thank you for your wonderful advice… Not to bad on the eyes either.
I loved it, pressure really ruin everything you want to do or to be, and as you said we should limit our expectations, and not to worry if others will validate us or not
SF local here, lol not sitting at home watching “the voice” tyvm but point taken. That analogy will stick in my mind, tho as someone who does enjoy my city, I like the humble student identity better. Life is a classroom, and I’ve learned that I never graduate to next stage until I learn what life is teaching me. I’ve had to repeat classes more than once, but starting to figure it out! Great video, applies to all of life, not just romance.
Great video! I’ve had the most fun in situations where I ‘just didn’t care’. Whether it was that I was relaxed and had no expectations, or just ‘under’-judged the situation, those are where the adventures happened! Now, to bottle that and take it with me everywhere!
I do play the tourist in my city of Philadelphia, which is easy to do, with all of the changes we have happening.
I LOVE the Retreat; it was the best money I ever spent (aside from my Brompton bike, on which I explore my city!).
Pressure is over rated~ best way to not need validation ~ especially from a guy is to have fun. That’s what we all want – light fun and enjoy – thanks Matt for the reminder ! You’re Epic Dude!
Matthew, you are authentic. That’s difficult to achieve, takes a lifetime of work. Good for you. My respect, my applause, is for you today.
Thank you Mathew and the team.
Thank you, Matthew Hussey. I really needed to hear this message. In the past several years, I have been experiencing many life events that have “paralyzed” me, and I didn’t know why. Because of your video, now I know why and how to start again. Your work really does help people and from that, change the world for the better. God bless.
Thank You! Thank You! Thank you! I am going to think of this the entire week. It is in line with Amos Oz’s opinion that curiosity makes you a better person!
I’m proud of being humble… ;-)
Your videos are so hysterical and heartfelt.
I love your videos. I send them to my boyfriend. I love the recent one on swiping online and reading profiles and the girl in the back drinking wine.
Also the one where you jump up on the bar and lay down it’s so funny.
Your advise is very empowering just to go for it in life in all you do. And I think your video here where you talk about pressure and validation are key.
It great you can laugh at moments where you forget what you’re saying and you can move on from them.