Last year I found myself on camera for a TV show – on one of the biggest stages I’d ever been on – in front of a live studio audience…
This clip is going to ‘inoculate’ you for life and have you ready should anyone ever try to embarrass you in front of others.
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Matt,
You did not just an excellent, but an OUTSTANDING job of responding to this woman. Kudos to you! It’s definitely far more powerful to keep calm and not say a word while the other person is making themselves look less and less credible by the second, the more they speak.
I’ve found one of the most powerful ways to deal with people in this type of situation is to remind them of their own words, exactly what YOU did! Perfect!
In addition, to the woman who posted here mentioning that the woman who attacked you had nurturing qualities: I respectfully disagree. Not all women are natural at nurturing others. For some of us, this is not a strongly developed trait and only happens rarely. I think this is likely true for the woman in this video who attacked you.
On top of that, if she actually felt affection for the guy who was affectionate toward her, she would have naturally treated him with affection. Feelings usually create the behavior, and even if she WERE the nurturing type, that would even further underscore the conclusion that you gave of her, since her lack of nurturing was evident with that guy. She clearly didn’t feel affection for him, but she sure had a lot of anger she wanted to express.
I’m not going to comment on the woman in the video, since as Matt said, people often come off differently on reality shows than they are in real life.
What I will say is that I was backstage in the studio when Matt filmed this episode and my stomach tightened up at how he was going to respond. When he hit it out the park with his reply, the room went wild. It was the best moment of the show to witness – really glad Matt shared it here.
Thanks Linda!
Steve x
Yes, I enjoyed this video. I remember this scene from the show. Although I was impressed with your reaction on last year’s show, this video and your teachings will stay with me much longer than the show itself because of the value that was added to it. I definitely would like to see more of these kind of videos that goes outside of the realm of romantic relationships and bring insight into effective/power communication.
Fantastic! Loved it
Thanks Misha! x
I need this. I’m getting bullied at work right now & I’m not the most assertive person until my buttons are pushed & the work bully is certainly pushing them alright.. Cheers Matt (& Steve!) xx
Cheers Dani. Work colleagues can suck big time. Don’t let them get you down!
Stephen x
Definitely more stuff like this!
I’ve been following you for a while even though I don’t really care about “Getting the Guy” necessarily, but just truly enjoy your content, so it must be that I enjoy understanding the dynamics of how people get along in general, so I love this idea of broadening your content to address that more deeply. Thank you!
:)
Thanks Maria! Me and Matt have talked about this kind of deeper content for a while, love that you’re enjoying it!
Steve x
Matt, I do like the video. The style you adapted makes the learning process easier because of vivid examples in the walk through and less abstract. Thank you.
Thanks Teresa – I agree – the illustrated examples really make it clear. That’s why we used Matt’s Elvis Duran radio recording for out First Five Guide too. So people could see the principles in action.
Take care,
Steve x
Heck, yeah. Time to start business coaching-Happy to be your first client!
Hi Matt,
I love this kind of content and really hope you keep making more videos like this for us!
I have previously worked in certain environments where it would really have been useful to know these kinds of things, like how to handle people and diffuse situations.
Thank you for your always valuable content :)
Matt –
With you, it’s about becoming an all around better person. That’s why I’ve been following you. Keep the life lessons coming!
Steph
Yeah Matthew i saw EVERY EPISODE FROM READY FOR LOVE AND I LOVED IT. Altough the comment she was making too you was so rude to be honest i wouldn’t dare to say something afwul too you or anyone you were trying to help her that’s all she was making abuse of your good charactar.
I think it’s better to match me i wouldnt dare to say something like that i wouldnt be embaresed so much OMG :O
im also very kind to people because i dont want to hurt people because i know how it feels, Im so sorry that it has happended too you Matthew your a good guy with good intentions and you were trying to help her.
i hope they air a Season from Ready for love.
Btw i loved every episode and every second. :)
Lovely Greetz from Thirza From The Netherlands.
I just wish there a million other guys just like you out there. :) thank you for the valuable insight and I appreciate your intelligence very much!
Matt, I really liked this video! It applies to so many situations in life. Also, I watched the series when it was online on NBC so it’s funny how I remember the characters and the drama of this clip you showed.
The takeaway lesson that I learned from you is letting the person finish, don’t immediately react, give yourself time to think and to have class in your response. It’s kind of like as soon as one senses that the person is out to create drama then to be aware (for yourself) and don’t take the bait.
Thanks
Hey Matt, thank you for this video :)
This surely will help me in the future with my family and friends :)
Be well.
Hi Matt,
Thank you for these. They are very helpful and especially this one on stage. It is something I will certainly be using as I have a friend that I have been trying to find a good way to tell her to stop insulting me in public. I haven’t said anything to her because I don’t want to insult her back publicly. This is a very good way to approach the situation when it comes up next.
I would love to see more like this. Making ourselves better people all the way around certainly helps with our love lives as well.
Thanks again.
I remember watching this “dumb show” in which I loved the format and the earnestness of you love gurus. This format you have chosen to teach is great too Matt. Its along the lines of when you said you might use movies as examples of different was of expressing attitudes or how to project yourself toward life (Great Gatsby segment–big fave). I look forward to your breakdowns. There are many films that are “What Not To Do” but also quite a few that work and can be used from a human relations perspective.
I remember watching this and thinking what poise that Matthew Hussey has! She pushed his buttons–quite evident in the 3 small gestures you did make in your body language, but you didn’t give her the knife to finish you off. This moment in the show was the reason I began following you. I’d just never seen someone diffuse a situation so gracefully and still be professional enough to not annihilate the other person in doing it.
Thumb Up Matt,
Faith
To Get The Guy, you fist need to “get yourself” i.e. to have confidence and not to react, not to be out of your mind, but remain collected and adequate in any conversation. Thanks for this content, guys! It’s useful and beneficial for anyone!
Matt, this is GOLD.
I love how you come from a place of real understanding in the condition of ‘being human’, and how you share and expand on your experiences so candidly.
Your vulnerability is powerful.
Thank you, thank you.
Zo
Matthew I LOVED this moment when I first watched it (I watched all of Ready for Love – because you were in it, natch) and learned so much from it, even before you did this walk-through. It is in moments like that where I get the most value from Matthew the man combined with Matthew the coach, it was truly admirable. Please keep putting up content like this as well as your dating stuff, love love love it!!
Hi Matt,
I remember seeing this episode (embarrassingly admitting I actually watched the show….) and I remember thinking, “wow, he’s good, I’m impressed” and I don’t impress easily.
It’s actually one of the major reasons I decided to attend one of your retreats (FL 11/13).
You are definitely an “old soul” to not only understand human nature so well, but be able to bring it to the masses to help the rest of us understand.
Not to mention your mum and dad did a great job raising you (have to give credit where credit is due ;) ).
Here’s to you jumping from the “love guru” mountain over to the “life coach” mountain, you’re doing a great job so far!
Cheers!
Janice
Thank you Matthew. I think everyone either has or will have a moment like this in their life. I think you showed a very calm and classy way to handle it as well. I think one way people form opinions of others (especially men) is based on not as much about how you act, but on how you react to situations. I learned a lot. Thank you :)