In this week’s episode of LOVELife I take a call from Tyree on being friends with an ex-boyfriend. Tyree says her ex is persistent in hanging out and just being “friends”, but, after some scrutiny, we conclude that there is little to gain for either of them if they try to form a friendship. Enjoy!
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So sensitively answered, that was lovely x
that is really true thank you Matthew! I just have a question, if they can’t be friends they can’t be something more right? if 2 person were very close and actually in a wrong way like their relationship was wrong, it started wrong and the girl realises that this is wrong and that they can’t be friends anymore. I know there is a lesson out there but if it hurts to be friends again and this will lead nowhere so it’s better to stay away from each other right? Thank you <3 <3
Thank you for this information. I was I a relationship and when I realised it was going nowhere, I ended it. I deleted him as a Facebook friend, but he texted me, left me messages and even called and begged to still be friends, but I am such a softie that I eventually caved in and agreed. This friendship is so hard to maintain as we had an intimate relationship. I’ve tried so hard to be strong, but he just keeps breaking through my “need to be kind to everyone” barrier. This relationship is so toxic to me, how do I get strong and not answer his texts, how do I block him on Facebook without getting the barrage of “please stay my friend”. I want to get on with my life and concentrate on meeting someone who will invest in me and someone who I can invest in. Any comments please will be helpful.
Hi Magali! I could relate to your situation, a few months ago I had been there too, and it was hard because he had been my best friend before we started dating but then after the relationship ended we couldn’t even stand to be around each other without arguing about the smallest thing and even then we still tried to be friends. I suggest you tell him what you truly feel and that he should respect your decision. Tell him you want a fresh start and that you’re allowing him to do the same. If he still tries to make you stay, be brave enough to enforce your boundaries. Change your number, block him in facebook. Do what you feel you need to do. I have had trouble saying ‘no’ to people as well. But once you’ve done it, it will get easier. :)
Very very rarely can a couple break up and continue hanging out constantly. I’ve seen it way too many times and it never works. I actually just went through something with a guy I was seeing and his ex-wife. They kept saying they could be friends and she blasted me over a very private conversation I had with him that she tapped into and it’s just gotten worse from there. I hope that made sense but point being is very rarely is it a good idea to remain buddies and the only time it usually works is if the other realizes they are gay. I mean that’s something you just can’t compete with.
Wow, this video was made just for me. Thank you Matt. You are the smartest and sexiest man alive!!! XX
A fascinating discussion is worth comment. I think that you need to publish more on this subject, it might
not bee a taboo matter but usually folks don’t speak about such
subjects. To the next! Best wishes!!
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