If you’re feeling the pain of heartbreak right now, this week’s video will put you on the path of recovery. There’s a high chance you’ll instantly feel a little better after watching it.
What’s One Way You Choose to Be Brave Through Heartbreak?
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You’ve got to cut it off now, and give yourself time. And be kind to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up because you’re still thinking about someone who meant something to you. That’s human. What you’re feeling is human.
You’re not wrong for experiencing pain. Someone breaks your heart, it hurts. And my brain right now is wired to go to this person for connection, even though they’re not there anymore.
Too many people get left in a relationship where they’re still convincing themselves, “But he’s the one.” If someone doesn’t want to be there, they cannot be that person for you. It’s not your guy.
We always say we want closure, but when someone gives us that level of closure, that’s not an easy thing to hear. The only closure you ever need is, “You don’t want me. You’re not sure.” That’s closure. I don’t need to know anything else. I do not need to know anything else. That is the only closure I need.
And if he calls you or texts you out of the blue, you have that right to say to him, “Listen, it’s not good for me right now to have this communication, because I’m trying to repair myself. I’m trying to overcome this and I’m trying to build a life.”
You have to focus all of your time and attention now on building where you’re going, like ruthless, ruthless, right? Stop worrying about what’s back there.
Just because your heart is injured right now, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do all of the things that build up your life, your energy, your body. Day by day, rewire. I’m going to start creating new connections in my brain.
So you do everything else to get strong even while your heart is still healing, whether it’s going to the gym, whether it’s spending time with friends, whether it’s connecting more with family, whether it’s going on a date with someone else that has potential, that reminds us that there is potential out there. That means when your heart comes back online, your life is ready to go.
It’s a brave thing to do to keep that magic in you even after you’ve been hurt.
It’s okay to be disappointed that someone didn’t turn out to be the person that you needed, but what you mustn’t do is grieve as though they were the one.
Why have to grief as if he’s the one…thats a good one
Thanks Matt
Mellanie xx
Thank you!
Just what I needed right now
Hi Matthew
I am getting over a breakup now. Been 1 month since he broke up. His reply: i love you but i stand myself in the way. Everything was perfect. How we met, the sex, his friends,…guess not. The problem was. He had just broken up 2 months before i met him with his past girlfriend. They had been together for 8 years, she was 15 years older and has 3 children.
And now he is going out and Drinking. I miss him so much. He needs to work in himself and i hope he will find his way in life and be happy…
Wow watched all these videos. I so relate to them.
Also watched the ones about being lonely and worthlessness.
I will keep watching them as I feel so lost in life. Regrets things I could have done better. It has opened up my mind. I know im a kind person and everyone comes to me for advice but I don’t need myself.
Thank you for these videos. You just changed my whole journey.
Anne
Love these videos….Thanks Matthew….Keep them coming! ;) <3
Don’t look back and keep moving forward
Hi. It’s been 2 months of my breakup of 10 yrs long distance relationship.without letting me know he just got engaged n putted in his Watsapp dp.i had a doubt from 2 yrs but from his words he never let me knew. No call no texts nthng he just went away without a closure n didn’t even care to say goodbye also. I still feel like a fool… I am trying a lot to come over it but I m nt able to digest he was the one who made me fall in love with him while I was reluctant for him and now he only walked away like I never existed for him..i want to get out of him fully and show him n world n spcly myself that I am the best and I can also live a happy life and can get a better life partner… But first of all I want to heal myself.. I go to Gym but no changes as half of the time I just cry or over think or stalk him n just wasting my time.. I wake up everyday that today I’ll do some positive think but as the day goes all just become negative again …plz help me to heal myself n become a super confident girl
I’m struggling because I broke up with a guy I’d been with for two years. The relationship wasn’t making me happy anymore and I felt taken for granted…but I keep focusing on what I might have done wrong; or whether I should give him more chances. This post is so right though – finding good people to spend time with is what I’m focusing on.
Moving on past a relationship that had history even before we got together was hard. But I have lived exactly what you have written the last few months…
When we broke up, it was right but it was hard. We were friends before but we had to become strangers again. And then he got a rebound, a friend called him out, and he humiliated me on social media, through which he showed me just how many people he had talked poorly about me to. I was devastated.
But instead of wallowing, I told myself: I CAN control my response. I started eating healthier, exercising regularly, running again, pouring myself into my work and my friends and my education.
Now, on the night before I turn 32, I can honestly say that I am on the path to not just recovery, but renewal and revolution. Although I have yet to forgive him, to some degree I am thankful that he pushed me to be where I am and where I’m going.
Thanks Matthew!
Thank you Matthew
I’ve been dealing with this for quite a while now, and I can’t help wandering why it is taking so long.
It was a bad couple of years. It’s getting better, very very slowly. It feels like every little change for the better us taking so so long… I believe Im on the right path, but still, it hurts way more than I ever thought it would. This video has helped. I’ll be coming back to it a few more times, just to try and keep myself together.
Honestly Matthew, all your emails, your videos, your advice it’s been taking me so far on my path of healing from my heartbreak. I can’t stretch it enough how helpful you’ve been on helping me get on the right path to managing my relationships and heartaches.
Thank U so much Coach May.
Your advice, your videos, your words are stronger than rocks to me and have actually helped me move on in my life in relationship and other aspects. I shared this particular link to a couple of my friends and guess what, they were so grateful as they could now have bearings on how to move on with their lives after their recent Heartbreaks.
Thanks once again, Coach Mat.
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The article, “The Brave Way to Overcome Your Heartbreak”, has been more helpful to me than you know! Thank you for addressing this tough time in a very straightforward way that helps me process my thoughts.
Thank you so much, this is the best advice ever
One way that I am going to overcome heartbreak is to focus on connecting with family and building relationships. I am also going to be focusing on speaking my feelings and be my own cheerleader when things get tough.
I’m trying to do this I have a person who so rude he allows his son to swear at me I want to leave but I be honest I’m scared I love him and yes he does not me he is younger I’m 60 he is 47 going on 16 I need to get away but I don’t want to lose him everyday I wake up I ask god way does he wake me up I not worth anything I hate myself so much sincerely Delores
I lost my 3 year relationship and my job as a tenured professor at the beginning of COVID-19. The isolation is making it hard to recover, and not to think of him. I found an online job and force myself to exercise and find some laughter in every day. The hardest part is that so am 54 and feel like he was my last chance at a relationship.