I received something in the post today that I’m crazy-excited about.
It’s a bracelet that on one side says “Wait?”… and on the other says “Create”.
–Do I want to WAIT or for what I want, or do I want to go out and CREATE it?
I’ve made these up for people who are coming on my Lifestyle Retreat.
The idea for the wristbands is that they contain a mantra that people can use as a trigger for action.
So often when people say, “I don’t know what to do”, it’s really a euphemism for saying, ‘I’m scared of the thing I SHOULD do’ – as we overcomplicate things.
Remember: Life isn’t easy, but it doesn’t have to be complex.
It can be as simple as the choice to either ‘Wait’ or ‘Create’.
John Ruskin, an English writer once said that “Quality is never an accident. It is always the result of Intelligent Effort.”
Now I’m here to tell that you don’t always start with ‘intelligent effort’. Ruskin was right – quality does always come from intelligent effort – but you don’t always know what ‘intelligent effort’ is in the beginning!
Sometimes it starts with just effort.
I want a constant reminder in place for my Retreat clients that when they’re feeling apathetic, frustrated, indecisive, lazy or scared, that there are only two real options:
To WAIT or CREATE.
It’s that simple.
–Which person do I want to be? Which path am I going to take?
I went through a period in my life recently during which I was ‘waiting’ too much, as I had lost motivation in certain ways.
I had always been driven by fear; fear of not surviving, for not having enough money to support myself or my family, but in recent times, we’ve all been okay. Everyone is taken care of and we have everything we need. And so all of a sudden in realising this, I had lost the initial motivation that drove me.
Ironically, when these wristbands came through, I got excited again. I got excited because I realised my new drivers: quality, creating new solutions, and being creative.
My whole motivation has shifted.
In creating these little wristbands, I’ve given way to a whole new set of emotions.
When you create in a certain way, you respect yourself more. You stimulate new ways of thinking and you start to get momentum, creating layer upon layer of success.
I don’t have these wristbands for everyone right now, they’re just for people coming on my Retreat, but I want you to find your own way of triggering the message, and to ask yourself…
–Am I going to be a Waiter or a Creator?
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Questions of the day: What one thing are you going to do TODAY that will prove to yourself you’re a Creator?
If you’ve read this far I know you’re going to do something. I’d love to hear what it is! Once you’ve set it, let me know in the comments below!
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Ruskin couldn’t sleep with his wife because he found her repulsive – she had body hair while all the art of the time showed none on women. He believed the fantasy, not reality. So he’s no great shakes to rely on. His private life was a mess and his attitude to art was sickly twee and sentimental As for Wait or Create – I think it does harm when people may feel they are not ‘doing it right’ if they cannot match this over simplification. I cannot create for very good reasons and I do not choose to wait either – it implies choice and a future of change – I have to ‘wait’and that is that. Either/or has been mankind’s problem for too long. This seems to be a video of flash phrases and PR. Not much else. I may offend, but deconstruct the dialogue and there isn’t much there really.
Matt,
Brilliant! Just got back from holiday where I read the book ‘Supercoach’ – was inspired by the book’s chapter on being a creator and all the benefits it brings.
Your ‘wait or create’ mantra is a brilliant way of bringing all that to mind. Very inspirational and motivational.
Many thanks!
xx
Hi Matt,
I’m kinda in the middle of the ‘wait or create’ situation lately, please give me some advice.
I’ve just broken up with a guy about 3 weeks ago, and he’s the one who ended the relationship. A couple of days ago, I got a text from his mate. I wonder what is my ex’s purpose? Why would he give my number to his friend? This is confusing.
Matt, please help! Thanks!
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How wonderful You feel very excited & The ♥Wait or create bracelet♥ is very beautiful :)
How kind-hearted of you to bring it here :)
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If it is possible to plant something here
I’d plant some beautiful trees & flowers here :)
Happy you feel very excited after creating something very good :)
100% agree Matthew Hussey :)
Always love to create & feel very happy after creating something I love :)
I believe creating very good things is one of the best things human beings can do on this planet :)
You always feel very good after creating very good things :)
& YOU are a true hero :)
After all, you create very good things for human beings & you show them how to create in beautiful ways :)
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Today I will create something I love:
Classical Music :)
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Hello Matthew,
Thx for ur msg. Just put it on my fb Wall. I do take action but not everyday. And, I always ask people to tell me what to do Caus I am scared of the failure! the result is that I lose the control of my life and some people really start to walk over me. But, I really sometimes do not know what to do. I meant it man! I sometimes get blocked!
Anyways, thank you.
Ps: I am noticing some ladies are getting nuts up there. They write and answer themselves. haha. See, they are trying hard to pick you up. Cheer up.
Be safe,
Hoda
Hi Matt!
Great idea the bracelet! I like it pink and it reminds me of you and your coaching stuff. Now I will look for a pink bracelet and wear it!
XX
Anna
Hi Matt!
I’m finally getting a chance to see this video. Please keep them coming. I am immensely enjoying the messages of hope, inspiration, focus and encouragement. The bracelets are a WONDERFUL idea!! I was shocked and smiled broadly when you explained what makes us wait. In fact, it is something that I had just been thinking of about my own life direction. Thank you for sharing what I’ve been thinking. It was freeing and it was the message I needed to *hear* right at this time.
Continued blessings and joy,
Rogenna
Wait or Create — I love it! So simple yet packed with meaning. I really identified when you said we wait out of fear. I often second guess myself and anticipate poor outcomes if I make the “wrong” choice. But when I actually act, it seems to open doors to great outcomes I couldn’t even imagine when I delayed taking action out of fear.
I will use this one regularly. Thanks, Matt!
What a great idea – the bracelet!
I’ve been wearing a particular beautiful old ring from my mother for at least 4 years now, that reminds me every single time to create. :)
As per your question, I’ve been organising today a trip to Zurich over a weekend to go paragliding with a colleague !! :D I had made up my minde bfr leaving london, that my next “monent-to-creat” would be to go paragliding and guess what, the guy in my office is a fanatic lol I’ve stepped on gold :D I am so excited about the whole thing, I can barely hide it! ^^
What is your opinion of Eva Longoria and Ernesto’s relationship?
I LOVED this video. I need to start creating. : )
Wow!! Thank you Matthew…. You are so inspiring I enjoy listening to you speak. Your talks have always guided me in to the right direction. Keep up the good work and hope to hear more from you :)
Thank you so much Matthew, simply for putting more content out there! I appreciate it deeply =)
Brilliant inspiring video Matthew ! Love all your videos. They have excellent content, points and strategies. I just went to the Get the guy seminar yesturday and it was great ! I’m also booked in for the women’s weekend next week in London. I have to say your talent is not just in the tools you equip women with but it’s your ability to inspire people with their love lives !