What Men Want: Top 4 Things We Love In Our Dream Woman

You wouldn’t believe how often people ask: “What kind of woman would Matthew Hussey date?”

Well… there’s a long answer and a short answer. The short answer is silly, but it’s one of my MOST ESSENTIAL NEEDS in a relationship.

I need a girlfriend who loves to cuddle.

Yep. I’m a cuddler.

That’s just me though. Not every man is as big on cuddles as I am.

However, there are certain qualities in a woman that ALL men are attracted to. In this week’s video, I’m going to reveal what the top 4 irresistible traits in a woman are so that you know exactly how to get any guy addicted (regardless of his views on cuddling)…

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  1. zarah says:

    Hi I am from south India kerala I love your videos the way you dig up emotions study them and bring it to lime light to help others is a real hard work .May almighty bless you with the best .

  2. elisacinthiasowdy@hotmail.com says:

    Wow !!! This is great !!!


  3. Kynnedy says:

    I love to cuddle! ♡♡♡♡☆☆☆☆

  4. Shabana says:

    Dear Matt
    I’m 36, and have been dating on and off the past 7 years… I’ve met all sorts of guys, boring guys, crazy, needy, wet, commitment-phobes.. That’s just to name a few!
    So, recently I went to a coffee Meetup group where I met a guy, long story short, he was interested in me.
    Now, I’m not a pessimist, but I just have one question, I’m a believer of following your gut instincts, there are several things about this guy that made me think, something doesn’t quite feel right.. Are u able to give guidance on when we should follow our intuition?

  5. Betty says:

    Hey there Matthew,

    I like the advice you offer to all of us.I would have to agree with you on your top 4 traits for your dream woman or actually dream guy. It goes both ways.

    Playfulness – It shows that particular person does desire you and they want you to know it, to make you feel special and loved. Adding something silly, goofy or playful just makes your relationship overall more FUN.

    Sexiness – When you make a sexy comment to him or her, indicating that you find that person attractive, or that you show you really desire them and a subtle little tease (even just one word) can enhance your closeness between that person and you, showing that you care.

    Nurturing – A good one because a person who thinks of your needs and looks after you really cares not only about themselves but about the needs of your partner as well. This should not be one-sided, both in the relationship (if they really care about that person) would want what’s best for each other and to nurture that and to bring out the best in each other. This shows that you care and have love for that person.

    Independence – Being able to experience your own interests, hobbies and likes are important, and being able to have some independence is a good thing. Both of you in the relationship need that and showing that you have trust in each other only makes this bond stronger. To me, being apart from this person for a length of time just makes it more special when you do get to see them. This strengthens both of you to be independent, to trust in each other and all these combined is what will make you both of you a… GREAT TEAM.

    Matthew, great ending, I like your approach! A relationship involves both partners working together, both as a TEAM. When you encourage a team that’s strong together, it creates a winning relationship with a strong bond.

    Matthew, Great topic and descriptions of what (not only MEN) but WOMEN want for their dream soulmate.

    Hugs <3 and cuddles are the best!

  6. What Men Want says:

    Hi Matt, I didn’t think any of this advice would apply to me because I am no longer a young women but want to get back into the dating game since my son is at college now. However….I believe you are spot on!!!! I need to be playful and a little sexy, not so serious. Thank you!

  7. Katja says:

    Great video! <3

  8. WL says:

    Would love to give u a cuddles….u r a wonderful guy.

  9. Rosiane Lorentz says:

    Tem uma versão Brasileira destes vídeos?

  10. Vanessa V says:

    This video was just what I needed. Thank you so much! That last point really stuck with me.

  11. A says:

    Aww, Uncle Hussey cakes….Ill take a couch cuddle, “to go” please. I kinda got stuff to do… :-D <3

  12. Leecis says:

    I honestly can say, I have been cultivating my soul, these last few years, that had helped me develops these traits.
    Now I just need to meet more men… help!

  13. Keira says:

    Psychoanalysing this ; you’re high on hormons and your testosterone levels are kicking. As if you only realised – at this exact moment – how in love you are… for the first time.

  14. Rachael King says:

    Cuddling is so nice and completely underrated I love that feeling of being enveloped and content :)

  15. Lauren says:

    By the looks of your super lovely and stylish pillows I think your not single. No single straight man would ever pick that out LOL! We hope your Happy Matthew.

  16. Nicole says:

    Love this :)
    Love you and your advice.

  17. marilyn says:

    Thanks Matthew-I love cuddles too.
    the way you fell over on the couch is adorable.

  18. Mery says:

    Hey Matt, Thanks, I enjoy watching your videos they are a great guide to follow. Cuddling is my weak point as well, it would be nice to find someone to cuddle with, I guess I just need to find someone one day, Though I don’t go looking either as I am a very reclusive person. Question: I was wondering if you come an do seminars in Australia at all?… Anyway I hope you Enjoy your day too. Thanks again for the Video Keep up the great work.

  19. Julie MacKenzie says:

    I just “loved” this video! Thanks Matthew …. ;) <3 Hugs! I look forward to the next one!

  20. Caitlyn says:

    Love love love this video, Matthew! Great examples to accompany the advice.

  21. Rachel says:

    Please could you send the compliments to my email address as can’t get the link to work.
    Many thanks,

  22. Laura says:

    Independence, sure – but there seems to be a very fine line in how you reveal that to someone. How do you avoid the constant stream of “you’re intimidating” reactions?

    • Montana says:

      OMG!!! YES! I get this all too often. I’m 46, have been there & now have my independence. And a content self esteem. And toys. 4 wheeler, sports car, etc – not the other ones, lol. I do get that comment too often and don’t know what to do about it, particularly because I do tend to get attention of men 5-10+ years younger than me, which is fine with me. :)
      Matthew, help!

  23. AK says:

    I DONT KNOW HOW TO BE PLAYFUL. How can I be playful?

    • Syd says:

      Do what makes you happy. Not one of us are exactly the same.

      Do what playful means for you. Enjoy life and life situations and have a good time with those situations. Be in the moment and milk every moment for fun and happiness.

      Good luck! :-)

  24. Khadija says:

    Yes you CAN !
    Jaimed ton Pull,love the color!

  25. Khadija says:

    Yes you CAN !
    Jaimed tonot Pull,love the color!

  26. H says:

    I know a lot of people are watching this and thinking, “I want that man!” But I am sitting here really wanting..the couch. It looks so comfortable, seriously. Haha! I am taking your words to heart, Matthew. Thank you for another lovely video.

  27. Marla says:

    Hi Matthew
    Cuddles is amazing.. sweet.. intimate and closeness.You are the best!! You like what you do and you’re good at it!!! Thumbs up!!;)

  28. Danielle says:

    Matthew, I think you have likely just made thousands of other women fall in love with you over this video, “I love to cuddle” he said with his British accent and perfect smile.

    MOST women love to cuddle, so you can take your pick.

    When it comes to finding a good man, I’m thinking I will forever be the one that is putting in all this effort, to be playful, sexual, nurturing, create sexual tension.. All of it.. And the guys I meet like it, but aren’t doing any of it back, which means there is no chemistry.
    I always seems cute texts, never just hey or how’s your day etc. I was seeing this guy and sent him this very flirty text in the morning, “I dreamt about you last night and all I can say is I’m still biting my bottom lip thinking about it hours later”.
    His reply? “lol, good morning, I hope you have an amazing day”. Ugggh its a nice thing to say to your mother or coworker but not your girlfriend of 6 months!
    Maybe you should do a video blog on how to get him to engage in these flirty texts or playful comments! I’m a very shy person and I can still be flirtatious and playful, surely a man can be guided to be that way too? And yeah I’ve tried subtle hints.. I think it’s so sexy when you send me a text that is just for my eyes only,etc.
    Ladies. What do you think? How can we get the guy (haha pun intended) to be more of these things?

    PS Matthew, if you need a good no strings attached cuddle partner next time you are in Toronto, give me a call. I promise to be on my best behaviour ;)

    • Floriane says:

      and you say you’re shy??? I personally don’t have this impression reading you. And your texts are very daring, the guy you’re seeing might not be that playful or even share the wish to text back in the same way. Is it smth you try with him to get closer?

      • Syd says:

        i think that’s a perfectly okay response back. He is clearly amused/flattered by it.

        you have to be sexy but not take full control. Like hint at it. Like next time he texts you say “you just got out of the shower” or if you’re taking your dog to go number 2, just say “putting some clothes on to go outside – it’s hot in the apartment!”

        Or say “I took a long bath and it felt soooo good. Totally melted my stress”

        Let him initiate after that. Be subtle

        • Syd says:

          I liked your text by the way. Next time you send him after a text like this, go ahead and show him what you mean… on his lips, but not too hard :D

  29. Charlotte says:

    You are MOST love-r-ly, it has to be said.

    Which girl could keep herself from constantly cuddling you?!

    I know I couldn’t. You’d have to prise me off like a barnacle from a rock!!….hehe ;-)

  30. Melissa says:

    Then get a teddy bear lol Your perfect woman is out there, I’m sure. Until then, maybe you can cuddle with that bear.

  31. Shannon says:

    Hah, Matthew, you’re such a cutie. I’ll see your cuddling and raise you protectiveness. That’s a trait that I almost never see in men but that I really have to have. If you tell me the secret to finding a man who will stand up for himself, the people he cares about, and the people who can’t stand up for themselves, I’ll tell you the secret to bringing out the softer side of strong women (hint: it’s making them feel safe, which you probably already knew #ihavetheworstpokerfaceever).

  32. Helen says:

    Very sexy and not unreasonable either. Loves to cuddle – hey Matt.

  33. Syd says:

    it’s too bad he’s incredibly picky… Bummer!

    • Syd says:

      Maybe he’s not even single. He doesn’t look single.

      Best of luck

      • Caitlyn says:

        That’s what makes him so attractive is his selectiveness. He may or may not be single, but he is definitely very sweet, and seems to really appreciate his followers, and has a genuine love for the women he coaches. You never know what can happen if you meet him… ;) ❤️

        • Syd says:

          he is Gone with the Wind, as in taken coupled up or dancing with Goofy

          I am devastated.

        • Syd says:

          ❤️ I like him a lot , as does EVERYONE. It makes me really happy to be part of everything. He has the most beautiful smile I’ve ever seen and his eyes are shining today, it’s not too shabby

  34. Syd says:

    I can believe that. ;)

    MH is LA’s most eligibile bachelor, not to mention NYC and London… !

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