Why Sucking at Something Makes You MORE Attractive

Today, I talk to my wonderful friend (and one of my all-time mentors) Karen Rinaldi, who has written a book all about how attractive it can be to suck at something – and she even shows how you can learn to love it when you fail.

It’s changed my life. I know it will change yours too.

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And the arms go up as we prepare for Eagle and then we swoop in and there it is. I can see why they call it the Eagle, very majestic. That tucks and that leg comes all the way around that leg which is, that’s pretty close. And, full Eagle. Oh God. And into resting blog pose.

Now you may be wondering why I would do yoga if I suck at it so bad. Well recently I had an epiphany courtesy of my dear friend and the publisher of the New York Times best-selling book Get the Guy, Karen Rinaldi. Karen recently wrote a book called It’s Great to Suck at Something, and I have been itching to interview her on this subject because I think it’s fascinating in a world where people are increasingly unwilling to make themselves vulnerable and make mistakes. A world where we curate our public image constantly. We always want to be seen to be doing things well, to be living life at the highest level. We so rarely allow ourselves the freedom to actually suck at something.

When I interviewed Karen we talked specifically about how the concept of sucking at something applies to your love life and your dating life. Check it out. The audio isn’t as good as it normally is from us, because we screwed up on the audio on this one. But I think that’s pretty fitting on a video that talks about sucking at things. Check it out and I’ll see you at the end of the clip.

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Matthew: “The stereotype is that if you do something well, that’s hot, right?”

Karen Rinaldi: “Yes.”

Matthew: “But there is something very, very attractive about someone who has complete abandon, and can suck at something. Can do something they’re not good at, but without that self-consciousness.”

Karen Rinaldi: “Right.”

Matthew: “What do you think is attractive about that?”

Karen Rinaldi: “Leaving your ego at the door is really sexy. Just think about people who just, you know, when you watch them in a moment of abandon, right? And it could be a moment only. You ever watch your…oh it could anybody. It could be your kid, it could you parent, it could be your friend, it could be a lover, right? And you see them across the room and they don’t know that you’re watching them, right? And they’re just kind of going on and goofing off, and they’re being like silly or something and you catch this moment. That is so much sexier than when they’re all dolled up and all kind of like ready to go, ‘Hey baby,’ you know? And you’re going, ‘Ah.’ No, it’s that moment of abandon and that letting go of the self-consciousness and ego. It’s so sexy, I mean, I feel like we’re forgetting that. I think we’re just not paying attention to those moments enough. And that’s a shame, because that’s really what, you know, again that’s where all the good stuff is hiding, right?”

Matthew: “Yes.”

Karen Rinaldi: “So, a greatest first date in the world, in a way, not the greatest but one of the great first dates or early dates, would be go do something that neither one of you can do.”

Matthew: “Yeah.”

Karen Rinaldi: “If you can’t ice skate you should go ice skating together. You’re both going to fall, you’re going to feel like idiots, and you’re going to laugh and you’re going to get straight down to your vulnerability.”

Matthew: “It’s authentic.”

Karen Rinaldi: “And you’re not going to be able to hide from that. That would be a good date.”

Matthew: “I like it.”

Karen Rinaldi: “You know?”

Matthew: “I like it.”

Karen Rinaldi: “It’s like that kind of brings you down to earth. I always think that the word for ‘humility’ and ‘humiliation’ have the same root. So, humility is awesome, humiliation is one of the most painful things in the world. They actually have opposite balances and they come from the same thing. Which is about, you know, from ‘humus,’ which is the earth. So, it’s like being brought down to earth. So, isn’t it interesting that we take this word and we kind of go in opposite directions, which is humility makes us more grounded and more self aware. And humiliation is our fear. One is grounded-ness and one is being afraid of…I don’t know even know what the interpretation…of being like on the ground.

Matthew: “You know that makes me think that the difference–they have the same etymology–the difference between them is meaning, right?”

Karen Rinaldi: “Yes.”

Matthew: “And both humiliation and humility–”

Karen Rinaldi: “Mm-hmm” [affirmative].

Matthew: “They’re both going to bring you down to earth, but depending on which one, you’re going to decide the landing. Right?”

Karen Rinaldi: “Beautifully said. That is beautifully said, exactly.”

Matthew: “You’re going to come crashing down, or you’re going to land in a way that you enjoy.”

Karen Rinaldi: “Yes.”

Matthew: “And humility is just the acceptance, you can’t be humiliated if you accept–”

Karen Rinaldi: “Your humility.”

Matthew: “You accept where you are, who you are.”

Karen Rinaldi: “I was going to say they’re over here, but they’re actually this close.”

Matthew: “Yeah.”

Karen Rinaldi: “So it’s really your framing and your value on it.”

Matthew: “Yeah.”

Karen Rinaldi: “So it’s up to us, right?”

Matthew: “It comes down either way, you choose the landing.”

Karen Rinaldi: “You choose the landing. And it could further your experience and it can stop you. Your choice.”

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Karen is one of those people that whenever I happen to be in New York she is one of my first people to call to go and have lunch with, because I always want to absorb what’s in her mind. And the funny thing is she’s been talking about this book for years. I’ve literally been talking to her about the “suck at something” concept for a long time. And it’s only just come out. That’s why I’m so excited about it because I have been waiting for her to release this work. I have read through this book cover to cover now and it has actually inspired me to do things I wasn’t doing before. I am now doing yoga despite sucking at it, in fact, because I suck at it.

What are you going to suck at? Leave us a comment. What’s something that you’re going to do, not even necessarily to get better at it but just because you want the joy of doing it. Because I believe on so many levels there are psychological benefits to doing something that you’re not good at. To going through that process to being humbled by it, and I also think in the context of what we talk about a lot on this channel, it will make us all more attractive, more relatable, and more enjoyable people to be around.

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  1. Claudia says:

    Karaoke. I suck at that but have a great time laughing at myself

  2. Charu says:

    Great video Matthew ! But my boyfriend judges me when I suck at things and that makes me less open to trying new things in front of him. We have talked it over but its in his deepest nature and he cant change. He fell in love with the perfectionist in me and wants always to hear the better storys about me. Thats unrealistic!

  3. lourdes abad says:

    I want to know what to suck and its procedure on how to do it.

  4. Laura says:

    I frickin’ love sucking at things. Sounds counter-intuitive, but the feeling truly makes me smile.

    I realized this when I was in the Fringe Festival last year, and spent 10 full days trying new things with people I didn’t know. I made a ton of mistakes, and I loved every single one, because I learned from them, and I felt the humility that came with it. It was certainly grounding.

    Thank you for putting this video together, Matt, and for so eloquently describing the feeling for the rest of the world. It’s liberating, and I know other people can benefit from this.

  5. Kristine says:

    Hi Matthew,

    My name is Kristine from the Philippines, i am a 36 year old single parent. My ex and i broke up 3 years ago and i have been single since then.

    Then i have met this amazing guy on a dating app, he is 41 years old a Nurse from Canada. After we constantly talking through text and videocalls on WhatsApp, and there was no dull moment every time we talk. We both agreed that we like each other instantly and that we definitely have great chemistry and connection. He like that i am outspoken and we are both open to our feelings. He was here in April but I don’t know him that time yet. He will be coming back here in October for 3 weeks and we were planning to meet. Unfortunately, something happened and changed everything. ☹️He will still be coming here for vacation. But i dunno if he will still meet me.

    What happened was..
    I had a really bad day at work one day, and i called him 5x he isn’t answering and on the 3rd call he declined but i still kept calling. I was calling him because, i thought he is the only person that can make me feel better that time. He blocked me on whatsapp and unfriended me on Facebook after that, then after few hours we spoke over the phone he said that he was at work and he cannot answer my call. The unfriended on Facebook is i dunno the reason. Then, he unblocked me on whatsapp the next day. We still had a few video calls but it’s not the same anymore. It already felt awkward. Then this was his last text.

    “Hey, I know it’s been awhile since we chatted. I’ve been working every day and been really busy. But I think you might also be right that I dont have the time to be able to give you the attention you need. I would still like to chat if you want but if you cant I also understand that. Anyways i hope your feeling better and your not so upset anymore but I feel like you will be. I’m sorry if I’ve hurt you”

    After that i sent a couple of messages saying that i still like to chat him too, and that i still hope that nothing changed.
    But days gone by, and he never text me anymore. I sent him few more text asking how he is. If everything is ok. And he isn’t replying anymore. He just seen my messages and i dunno if he is even reading them.

    Matthew, I really like this guy and i never felt so attracted to someone like i am to him, i never felt so excited talking to someone but him. And I really would like to restart with this guy. I wish you could help me, on how to restore US. How to go back the way we are.

  6. Carla says:

    Hi Coach Matthew,

    Thank you, Another heart felt inspiring message.

    I loved Karen’s first date idea,” Chose an activity that you

    both are new to or suck at.:)

    I love how you listened to each other face to face. Karen

    brought up the words Humility and Humiliation.

    Matthew, I love how you surmised her thoughts,

    “We Get TO Chose where we land.”

    You two made me smile, simple but profound.

    still smiling.

    Good job

  7. Susan Krouse says:

    I recently went trail riding on my new 7 speed bike for 3 hours with the guy I’ve been dating. Little did I know it was set way too high for me. I ended up hitting the wrong brake handle, flying over the handlebars and landing face-first in the grass. I just layed there and laughed. I was so lame. He came up with his hands on his hips and had to ask me if I was hurt. LOL
    He still talks about “how cute it was”!

  8. Di says:

    I love the ocean and recently I started dating a guy that is very experienced at surfing etc. He took me out on a SUP for my first time and despite not falling off we still managed to have a good laugh at my unique technique. I’m hooked now and having a ball. My second attempt was in the ocean which was fabulous despite falling in a few times. I sucked at it but still laughing and having fun.

  9. Elena Flores says:

    I’m ok of course, not perfect, little overwight, but healthy, I have a good eating habits, my daughter is vegan 5 years ago, so I cook the same for the both of us, I’m not, and I eat everything when I go out, ounce a week, I don’t excercise, I know, that’s what I suck at, I am trying to find ways to loose weight, I know what I need to do, but always curious to learn things that’ll help me, thanks, and by the way, I have a great boyfriend and someone else who I love as a friend and so happy about it, two children, boy 27 and girl 23, s grandson 2 year s old, thanks for asking, and helping people to be better ♥️

  10. Asha says:

    I would like to ride a bicycle as I didn’t have a bike when I was a kid. I’ve had 3 lessons last year with a tutor but scared to try it on my own.

  11. Ngozi says:

    I used to be shy saying I love you. Now am in it a fake lover who had told he will not marry me. Am calling and his responding.

  12. Joy says:

    Thank you so much for this email! I was laughing so hard while having my coffee & watching you attempt Eagle Pose. One of my trade skills is teachig yoga & I’ve emphasized “humility” before in my classes. It’s so reassuring to hear Karen & your’s perspective (& the etymology, wow!).

    I looove dancing but definitely don’t have the coordination. YET whenever I do dance in the public, I get so many compliments usually about how much fun I’m having. I’ve definitely embraced the “goofball” qualities of myself & people adore it -something I wish I could tell my younger self to do sooner!

    Thank you again for another delightful relatable video, godspeed at goofing off & sucking at stuff more & more!

  13. Mariangelica says:

    Great interview!! It made me feel better about myself since there´s a guy I really like that always happens to be around when I am doing silly things!!! Or saying nonsenses, jajajajaja Tks for sharing the video. And I suck at a lot of things!!

  14. Melissa says:

    As a yoga teacher…I gotta say your eagle pose with pretty spot on..lol. I love to dance club dance and always wanted to take a modern dance lessons so decided to give it shot. Appreciate the reminder that we have a choice every day to choose how we look at each circumstance we find ourselves in…coming from a place of humility or humiliation. Either way love yourself as you are.
    Thank you Matt.

  15. Jen says:

    I’m not coordinated at all so anything that requires coordination I suck at. I think I tripped over the door step three times on my first date with my now boyfriend. Lucky I’m good at laughing at myself (I’ve never cared what others think as long as I’m happy)
    Look at young kids – they don’t seem to worry about being goofy. I think adults these days can learn a lot from being childlike again.
    My friend and I have a “child day” once a month where we do activities like rolling down grassy hills, eating ice cream, finger painting, playing on the play equipment- sure we get some strange looks but we have heaps of fun

  16. Swati says:

    Singing and dancing

  17. Fin sangi says:

    I love to dance, i’m not a dancer but i really want to be good at it and i don’t want to be suck at it hahaaa and singing

  18. Carolyn says:

    I’m learning Cuba salsa dancing. It’s very humbling. Not sure if it makes me any more attractive but I don’t care. I LOVE IT!!

  19. h f says:

    few years ago, i was eating at a restaurant and there was this guy I liked who worked there, so when i was done eating and on my way out, i saw him at a table rolling up silverware. I went over to tell him “happy st pats day” but accidently said instead, “happy thanksgiving” and he said that he also was thinking about thanksgiving. We both had a great laugh.

  20. Anastasia Button says:

    I suck at writing and have been told this my whole life. I wrote and published a book anyways. ♥️‼️

  21. Jessica says:

    I super suck at Brazilian Zouk. Im now at lvl5 and still going, still sucking at it, but I enjoy that part of me so very much. Being clumsy and goofy feels so earthy..lol. Im passionate bout learning it.

  22. Andrea says:

    I’m going to bowl. I suck at it- but its fun and I can laugh at myself!

  23. Lakshmi says:

    I’m going to learn to dance. I’ve been putting it off not because I don’t want to be seen as a goof but because I’m lazy and unorganised. To the topic, the choice you make between humility and humiliation for that landing is rooted in your ego. As Karen said, leave the ego at the door. No one can become good at something without starting as a complete nobody at it. We start at zero. Humility leads to seeing our mistake and growing, while feeling humiliated leads to giving up and starting to rot. As she put it, it is Your Choice. Humility, being humble means you are in-charge of yourself and you know yourself better. Even if you were in a situation where people humiliated you intentionally, its up to you to take it or leave it. Their behaviour talks volumes about them, not you. OMG, you are shifting the plane of relationships, love it :)

  24. Piorrine KOBUSINGYE says:

    I stuck at many things for sure
    For instance;coming up with my opinion on something,attending beauty contests,etc
    But thank you Matt now you got my back.
    I will implement each and every idea that ever exist in my mind
    Thanks once again

  25. ROSA says:

    I suck at starting love relationships….nothing seems to work, if I do one thing and then I do exactly the opposite, either way it doesn’t work. I’m exhausted and disappointed.So I’m just basically giving up, I have tried it for long time. Thanks Matt anyway for all your advices. From a place of humility I admitted that I’m not fit for a love relationship. I wish you all good luck and happiness.

  26. Cathy says:

    Am suck at changing my shyness to the better, to be able to approach my true soul mate

  27. Mork says:

    I went to 2 auditions for a musical and sucked at it. Result: I feel like a loser. I practiced so hard before both auditions. Anyway, I hope this idea helps me through ☺

  28. Kimberly says:

    I suck at trusting people.

  29. Dkat says:

    I sucked at dance but now I’m good at it .. I can’t tell you to this day I sit fall on occasion in pratice but that’s just the way it goes… I love challenging myself I took a self defence class which at first I sucked at .. I plan on taking more classes when I get a job . Ooh I suck at getting hired but I keep plodding away … I stink at men geeze that one I’m thinking about giving it another shot. . Ive got a bucket list of thing I want to try .. goo luck with yoga but just a hint the elbows touch on top of each other and the leg goes to the back of the calf not the front … I do yoga too..

  30. Veliswa says:

    Wheny teacher shoute because I didn’t open my mouth when I ding at school… Ok feel very embarrassing

  31. Loretta says:

    Dating lol

    Language – I never feel comfortable talking to family members in native tongue. even though I can understand what is being said.

  32. Alena says:

    As a 47 year old, roundish mom of 4, I am learning to play ice hockey.
    I can kind of skate, can’t stop, have no endurance and at least once during each practice, am on the bench divesting myself of gear due to hot flashes.

    It’s awesome fun and my family is looking forward to watching me play my first game ever next month.
    I totally suck at it, but I absolutely love it!

  33. Gina says:

    I suck at choosing guys and at dating and I keep doing it… does it count?XD

  34. Mercy Umunna says:

    I hate it when a guy see to be high-minded or feel too big to say hello to a female. But I will try to suck at saying hello to any male around me when it’s necessary even if am the first to do so since there is no harm in trying new things.

  35. Alessandra says:

    This week I’m going to my first ever swing dance class. I’m not a good dancer but it looks so much fun, so I’m just going to do it anyway, even if I suck at it!

  36. Lia says:

    Singing. Not that I don’t often try to be at least decent, but when it comes to singing, even when I’m bad, I’m always going to do it.

  37. Mia says:

    Tennis for sure! I’m mostly good at sports with with and without a ball but not a bat. And it could be a good laugh missing the ball ⚾️

  38. Malu Celli says:

    Very timely video. In the last 5 years I threw myself at snowboarding (at the age of 38, as a Brazilian). I worked super hard and because very good at it – which is a source of pride and immense joy (snowboarding is my yoga). Last week I traded equipment with a friend and decided to ski. It was hard and humbling to suck at it again at a snow sport, to not be cool on the slopes anymore and to see the baby slope that I’d go down at 100km/he doing 360s now being terrifying again. Perspective is everything. Very grounding!

  39. Shellie Drent says:

    At the gym I’ve been trying a reverse lunge using an exercise ball… not so easy… I teeter and lose my balance and whenever I do there always seems to be someone watching and smiling. Usually I’m the type that would master it at home first. But for some reason I haven’t cared/worried so much about it lately. Love this video! Thanks.

  40. Sharon says:

    Think I’ll try sucking at a bit of salsa dancing Mat

  41. noralyn parales says:

    honestly im shy

  42. Sue says:

    In my 20s, I decided I wanted to take up violin playing. The conservatory laughed at me, said I was too old. So I found a kind teacher using the Suzuki method who let me also play in the children’s string orchestra. Even though I never got really good at playing, I loved it so much!! Going on a bus tour in Normandy, France performing in old beautiful churches and sleeping in schools was one of the best experiences of my life!! Thanks for reminding me to do what I enjoy, not only what I am good at!!

  43. Yui says:

    Flirting a man!
    I am suck at chatting or texting message to man.

  44. Meriem says:

    Thanks for doing what you do.I ll work with your advice

  45. Luky says:

    Dating for sure LOL

  46. Kate says:

    I suck at dancing. Tried a Flamenco class nonetheless, great fun but I think the teacher was so relieved when class was finally over. :-) And I suck at singing, but it didn’t stop me from singing arias with a cute guy in the gym’s parking lot one night. Was a great moment too, unfortunately, he didn’t seem to like me enough to invest more after that…

  47. Debbie says:

    I’ve always quit stuff because I hate not being good at it. I have friends who sing so I won’t do karaoke with them. I am as uncoordinated as you could be so yoga and athletics…nope quit those. I accidentally entered an art contest as a teenager, won, and still quit all my projects that don’t turn out right away.

    I’m going to dance and do yoga and go buy a sketch book. Today! I’m done fearing that I’ll look silly.

  48. Echo Phipps says:

    I actually really suck at dating, no matter how much I try. Lol!

    For the longest time though, I sucked at ballroom dancing, but I loved it! After a while I was able to improve my skills. Now it’s becoming my new hobby!

  49. Gale Scaramuzza says:

    Funny, I am doing yoga because I suck at it. I heard someone say that pushing through the resistance in yoga is like pushing through the resistance in Life. My ‘resistance’ in Life is dating. I resist being taken advantage of, criticized, controlled and abused. So I am not ‘getting’ all those things now, but I am not getting Love, either. I just wrote today, in my journal, “My parents were NOT able to Love me, emotionally connect with me, listen to me and validate me when I did something right. Now I Don’t think ‘that’ is going to happen, to me, anymore. I just changed my future because I am not projecting my past onto it, anymore.

  50. Marisa says:

    I love this… I ust love this.. it is amazing how simple you both put in words something that is so emotional. I had experiences where I was sucking at somthing in public and were the most fun for me (and for everyone there LOL). In fact, I think when I suck at things it was too sexy that those particulars moments I feel now “I was really ME”, the more authentic part. One of the times I was dancing for the first time in a Salsa class, and I am suck dancing salsa… so it was a turn to dance with a man youngest than me (everyone in the class were complete strangeers for me). The trainer guide us to particular salsa movements and every single time we both tried our best, but we end doing the opposite movement, opossite directions, etc… and it was so fun that we could’t stop lughing.. at the end of that round the trainer said “Everyone did it right less two people (and he looked at both us in a funny face), and it was too much fun for a single salsa class… I never met that man once again, but I am sure he would remember that. It was so sexy that even when I did not feel atrattion toward him in the begining, I was more connected to him: This sucking at salsa pulled out real conection and real interest. I am thinking to have more of this!!! just for fun…

  51. Lauretta says:

    I’m really athletic so I can pick up most sports easily but when it comes to anything artistic I’m like um….help please? I’ve definitely noticed that I get upset when my paint nite painting isn’t as good as I would liked but you’re right, we’re not perfect and we should embrace the things we’re not good at! next paintnite I’ll go into it with a new perspective.

  52. Darlene says:

    Interestingly, despite needing and wanting to increase my competence in the dating world, hence being a member here, I am actually not afraid of sucking at dating. Because to me I feel that the attempts to try it without having perfected it will bring me closer to success or at least something very fulfilling that I never considered before.

  53. Louise says:

    OMG! I’m so grateful that you are presenting this idea. I just tried something that I suck at, at the urging of my crush (blush) and it turned out great. I accomplished something that I previously thought was impossible for me and he was happy to know that I did at his urging. I know this brought us a closer because I trusted him and that made us both feel good but until I actually watched this video I wasn’t quite clear what exactly happened.
    Thanks for doing what you do.

  54. Pranjal mudholkar says:

    Instead of going to the parkour trying to correct your eyebrows ,Suck at self styling them.

  55. Robin Vaught says:

    Stand Up Paddle Boarding, love the outdoors ocean and sunshine, but feel awkward trying to stand and stay up !! LOL

  56. Cathy Crous says:

    Thanks for this…really great food for thought…

    I suck at a lot of stuff, and in my older age, I really buy into relationships, humanity and humility…esp. the landing choices…A few yesrs ago, I would have been a lot more arrogant in relationships, and it lead to a lot of loss. Now I just realise, that Life is all about Love and relationships…and running away from what we suck at, isn’t really a choice…

  57. Marcy says:

    Matthew, this is so timely for where I am at today! I just had a similar conversation with a friend the other day about how I want to free myself up to run toward the things that I’m afraid of and to be able to sincerely laugh at myself more. There are so many things I’ve never tried because I have been afraid to make a fool out of myself! And I just started seeing a man who is so excited about life and great at not taking himself seriously. I love the point of how I can choose my landing… I am going to get out of my own way and do this! Thank you Matthew. Amazing content as usual!

  58. Analies says:

    I have no sense of orientation. North and South don’t mean anything to me, or miles, or kilometers. People laugh at it. I laugh too.

  59. Kobbs says:

    I love dancing and jiujitsu. I do not have a natural talent for either one, and am regularly embarrassed – but I keep going because I enjoy them so much – I almost always leave class with a smile. :) I’m not good at dating either, but I’m not giving up!

  60. Julie says:

    Awesome video! ;)

  61. Selene says:

    Good thing that I always put subtitles because English is not my native language. Yep, I felt adorable when my tongue got stuck when I talked to my long distance boyfriend for the first time in person.

  62. Elisabeth says:

    About 6 years ago my ex husband bought a motorcycle. Neither of us knew how to ride. He had some small experience, and as he began to learn I decided it was something I wanted to try. I am a small person, short, petite and usually scared to take risks. When I got on that bike, I felt like my heart was beating out of my chest. I screwed up a few times, dangerously doing a wheely! I brought the bike down from the air and kept going. Now it’s 7 years later and I ride with ease. Though I look back now and wonder what my ex husband thought of that moment.. when I wad screwing it up but just kept going. We both shared that moment and I remember him being proud of what I was doing. Now, we aren’t together and it’s time for me to explore what in my life I could work on, and suck at for a while. With this experience, it gives me hope that even with sucking at something, with practice and time it can become a strength. Maybe that’s where the attraction bit comes in too.

  63. Shawna says:

    I suck at living life sober. I get paralyzed by my fears which turns into extraordinary anxiety. So, then I drink alcohol yet again. I would love to get to the point of not allowing my fears to hold me back from living the best life possible.

  64. mi says:

    You’re pretty good with the eagle. Why not demonstrate something you actually suck at! ;). This is great because I tried to do a Ted style talk this past week and failed miserably. I did learn a lot from it and had many blank faces staring back at me. You clearly don’t suck at that so I’m learning!

  65. Tammy says:

    Thank you for this video! I absolutely suck at dancing but it is the one thing I want to do so badly. When I go out with my friends, I beat myself up everytime and wish so badly that I could just get up on the dance floor and and thoroughly enjoy myself dancing but my inhibions are just too strong.
    My friend and I were just talking about this a few weeks ago while out. There was a lady who was up dancing, not a care in the world, and I commented how envious I was of her; to be able to just let herself enjoy without a care for what others may think.
    Maybe I need to read this book and finally let my inhibitons go and allow myself to openly suck at something…and enjoy life!

  66. Donna says:

    Hi Matt thank you for you inspiring work.. I fit this video so well. I finally rejoined the ymca after years of absence. I was on a treadmill as walking my phone in hand, I dropped it . As I watched it go between my legs. I ended up at the end turned fell in the floor. People around me laughing asking me if I’m ok. I said I was worried about my phone. And then said thats yalls comedy for today. Got up and got back on the treadmill.I ddint let it hinder my workout.

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Last week I opened the doors on my brand new “Attraction To Commitment” program, and I’m honestly blown away by...

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